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Polyamory in the News

Alan — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 18:34:25 GMT

New breakthroughs have been happening in public awareness and recognition of polyamory. CNN, ABC's Nightline, MTV, bigtime evangelical media -- if you haven't kept up with Polyamory in the News (http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com) in the last four, here's some of what you've missed:

** Polyamory is “America's next romantic revolution,” claims Newsweek online. “It's enough to make any monogamist's head spin. But the traditionalists had better get used to it.” The magazine says the U.S. now has more than a half million poly households, but doesn't give a clear source for this number.
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2009/07/newsweek-article-appears-at-least.html

** The Newsweek author, a few days later, also mused on “the Feminist Roots of Polyamory.” “The key to poly relationships is gender equality, and women have been central to the creation of the practice.... The way these families make their relationships work is perhaps the most feminine of all: by good old-fashioned talking....”
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2009/07/newsweek-author-feminist-roots-of.html

** The president of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary gives a big swath of the evangelical world an accurate, level-headed description of who we are and what we're about. Of course he's totally opposed. But with opponents like this, who needs allies?
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2009/08/revelation-for-christians.html

** Advice columnists pick up the poly hot potato everywhere from Dear Margo, Ask Abby, and Dear Amy to the Jewish Daily Forward.
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2009/08/mainstreaming-in-dear-margo.html
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2009/09/more-unhelpful-advice-columnists.html
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2009/08/i-write-to-you-not-with-ink-but-with.html

** Out and Proud, or TMI? A different kind of advice columnist, Dan Savage, addresses the question of how out should out polys choose to be.
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2009/10/out-and-proud-or-tmi.html

** MTV's hour-long documentary “I'm Polyamorous” turned out quite well, though one of the starring people gives us a behind-the-scenes account of how a lot of their best stuff got cut.
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2009/09/mtv-poly-documentary.html

** CNN treats polyamory as a real and significant alternative to monogamy in an article online and then the next day on TV.
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2009/10/cnn-on-monogamy-and-poly-alternative.html
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2009/10/mono-vs-poly-debated-on-cnn-tv.html

** Poly Pride Day in New York: my report.
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2009/10/report-from-poly-pride-day-in-new-york.html

** Win some, lose some, but gay marriage is coming. As settled, legally married pairs take center stage, will the gay movement abandon its relationship radicals?
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2009/10/will-gay-marriage-leave-relationship.html

** Plus print coverage from Britain, Poland, and Latin America -- and watch TV news coverage from Canada, Spain, and France.

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Here's the site:
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com

If you’re on LiveJournal you can sign up for an LJ Friends feed:
http://syndicated.livejournal.com/polymedia

Or subscribe by a different feed:
http://feeds.feedburner.com/PolyamoryInTheNews

I've done 346 of these reports in the last four years. They're sorted in the archive by date, topic, and sometimes location. I hope you have as much fun browsing them as I did creating them!

Happy November--

Alan

(Crossposted)

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condom difficulties

bokomaru — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 15:50:09 GMT

Anyone know a good resource for guys with difficulties maintaining an erection with condoms? I have a new guy who's got problems, and I'd really like to be able to help him past it. Other guys I've met with this issue have been sleezeballs about it--using it as an excuse etc., but this guy has been respectable, so I'd like to help. I've always been able to fix the problem by changing condom types and putting them on myself, but that doesn't seem to be working for him, and I'm not sure how to get past the psychological problems with condoms that he seems to have (old fears about breakage, many failures with erections, etc.). oh, and favorite condoms?

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keek question

patrick_spatz — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 22:51:06 GMT

Ok, so ass sex is called sodomy. We learn for the adverse of President Clinton the name for sucking (oral sex). I can’t remember how to spell that name though.
So hear is the keek question. Both men and women can get off by rubbing genital together with out penetration. So what's the clinical name for that?

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Looking for playmates in Los Angeles

markymark — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 03:30:16 GMT

Looking to start a small group of bi playmates who understand to be clean, safe and discreet. Perhaps a cheap motel kind of a kink

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Bodies Never Lie!, Introductory Evening: Friday June 12, 7-9pm, Full Workshop: Sunday June 14, 2-5pm

Rig_Daddy — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 03:04:47 GMT

Bodies Never Lie: Practicing and Interpreting Non-verbal Erotic Communication
w/ Ice Camins Bretts
Introductory Evening: Friday June 12, 7-9pm, cost: $10-15 sliding scale
Full Workshop: Sunday June 14, 2-5pm
Cost: $20-35 sliding scale

Center For Sex & Culture 1519 Mission Street between 11th and So. VanNess San Francisco, CA

Preregister at: http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/69248

"Bottoms always lie; bodies never do." - Vi Johnson

We've all heard the joke - "No! Don't! Stop! No, don't stop!" Erotic intensity requires more information than mere words, hard-ons, and wetness. Erotic communication is the heart of any partnered sexual experience. Some of us seem intuitively talented in interpreting or broadcasting body cues, but understanding and expressing the languages of the body are skills that can be learned, enhanced, and consciously modulated, to maximize genuine pleasure.

Join Seattle's Ice Camins Bretts for sessions combining experiential intellectual, sensory, and emotional learning. By the end of each event, participants will have clearer concepts of their own eroticism, new awareness of how they communicate physical desire, and more practical understanding of the multitude of clues their partners offer. These classes are suitable for people of every experience level. While this workshop emerged from enhancing sexual negotiation and play skills, it is for lovers - currently in a relationship or not - of all preferences and styles.

Ice Camins Bretts has been active in the LGBT leather communities for almost three decades. Originally from New England, Bretts has lived in the Pacific Northwest for 20 years. From the earliest east coast leatherdyke and gay leather support groups and motorcycle clubs, via safer sex education, managing leather cottage industries, planning pansexual conferences, to genderqueer parties today, Bretts has been there, done that; met up, set up, picked up, and cleaned up.

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Poly Living West conference in SF, May 29-31

Alan — Wed, 13 May 2009 11:51:06 GMT

I've attended several of Loving More's poly conferences and can't speak highly enough of them. I've also donated to the group (a nonprofit) and hope to see it succeed.

Coming up soon is Poly Living West, being held in San Francisco May 29-31, full of interesting workshops. Prices go up after May 15th. If you can make it, I highly recommend it. More info:
http://www.mynewsletterbuilder.com/tools/view_newsletter.php?newsletter_id=1409923919

Cheers,

--Alan M., Polyamory in the News
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/

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Sacred Dominance and submission Workshop – San Francisco, Feb 21st

Galen — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 19:38:29 GMT

Sacred Dominance and submission Workshop – San Francisco, Feb 21st, 9:30 am-12:30; or 1:30 – 4:30pm.

Dominance and submission is a path, not a destination. It is an archetypal ideal that can be approached, but not perfectly attained. The embodiment of Dominance is about leadership, vision, integrity, accountability, responsibility, blessing, protecting, wisdom and more. The embodiment of submission is about service, devotion, surrender and more.

Like any mythic, heroic journey there is tumult, doubt, fear, betrayal, villains, thieves, and mystery to encounter along the way, as well as glory, love, joy, respect, healing, intimacy, connection, ecstasy and Eros.

Dominance and submission is also an inner journey. You will find everything within you that is unresolved about your Dominance or submission, will keep showing up. The tumult you experience externally on this path, reflects the tumult within your own psyche. There is no escaping the unfinished business of our pasts. Without a compass or foundation, it is easy to get lost or stuck along the way. With the right ones for you, this path can become one of learning, healing and expanding the sacred truth of who you are.

The workshop will be experiential as well as contextual. The workshop itself will be held as a ritual and participants will be learning about the process and tools of ritual as well as performing personal rituals to take them deeper into their desire and intention, as well as the conflicts within that may limit or hold them back in body, mind and soul....and many other aspects such as intention, getting present and embodiment.

For men and women who have already begun their journey as an Erotic or Lifestyle Dominant or submissive or are curious to understand what it might mean to, this workshop will offer tools to help you develop insights to embody your own personally sacred practice of Dominance and submission.

This is complex and highly nuanced material. How much depth is covered for each topic, in a 3 hour workshop, will vary. Variables can be the nature of the participant’s collective experience and intention, or a branch of the material presented may suddenly open up for the group and it becomes the focus of the time we have together. But it will give you the opportunity to start the journey and process of looking at how you want to bring what is sacred to you, into your D/s relationships. And I will be offering focused follow-up workshops to explore specific areas in depth in the future.

Workshop Outline:

Ritual, Mythos, Archetypes, Sacred Space, Symbols, Metaphor – tools to deepen your relationship to yourself and your partner.

The Outer Chamber and the Inner Chamber of a D/s Relationships. Honoring the Light and the Dark aspects of the relationship

The Outer Chamber: They Mythic, Noble, Sacred connection between Dominant and submissive. The King/Queen and devotee/one-in-service Archetypes

The Inner Chamber: Dark Eros – all that is Taboo Forbidden, Cruel, Sadistic. How to authentically, safely, embody the dark archetypes of predator, sadist and others shadow aspects of the unconscious expressed in BDSM.

Resolving the Paradox of Noble Dominant and Cruel Sadist. How both can be true…and noble.

Safely Explore Erotic Humiliation of Your Submissive and Make them Beg for More. How to identify areas of emotional trauma versus ones with a strong erotic charge, and keep your submissive emotionally safe.

Shadows of the submissive – bratty, needy, defiant. out of integrity. When discipline/punishment doesn’t work… how to understand and resolve the shadows to get what you want

Shadows of the Dominant – Tyrant and Weakling – how to recognize and own your shadow in relationship

Authentic Dominance or submission Means Embodying Your Dominance or submission – getting out of your head and deeply into your body

Neo-Tantric Techniques to Build Intimacy, Trust, Safety, Connection, Presence

Using Ritual to build Emotional Safety and Intimacy to Resolve Deep Conflicts.

Date: Feb 21st; Time: 9:30 am to 12:30, or 2 to 5 pm – please indicate which session you are requesting.

Address: San Francisco – USF/Panhandle area – address will be provided to those who register

Space limited to 15 participants each session

Reserve your spot by emailing Galen@DakaDom.com

Cost - $40

About Galen Galen has offered guidance and coaching to men, women and couples in the practice of Dark Tantra/Dark Eros, D/s and BDSM for over 10 years. Dark Tantra employs ritual, breath, conscious movement, touch, experiential exploration and discussion to create a safe, sacred container to explore Dark Eros. This practice includes any aspect of BDSM, Kink, Fetish or Dominance and submission. You can learn more about his work at www.DakaDom.com Galen has presented in the past at Living in Leather, Dallas and Seattle, The Eulenspiegel Society, NYC, Rose City Discussion Club, Portland, OR, the Wet Spot, Seattle, WA The Daka/Dakini Conference, Sedona, AZ, and others. He conducts workshops, writes for publications such as Alternatives Magazine (artice on Dark Eros/Dark Tantra)and the Dom's View. (Bridging the Paradox between the noble mythic aspects of D/s and the dark cruel aspects of BDSM). Galen is aligned with bringing in the sacred, mythic, ritual aspect of D/s and BDSM into a mature approach to this complex lifestyle. He is the author of the acclaimed book, "The Sharp Edge of Love" , and the designer of the www.Tetruss.com portable, lightweight, free-standing suspension bondage rig. Galen is actively involved in a variety of Portland communities from ecstatic dance, men’s work, PDX D/s-BDSM community, sacred sexuality, and training adult mentors for teen boys. He is also a musician/composer (see www.jamwave.com/Galen )

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erotic photographers

Bill — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 02:06:21 GMT

I would like two or more women to come over my apt and take erotic pics or videos of me "having fun". Bring a guy too if you want. I'll sign a release and pay for any expenses. the more the merrier. it would really be a turn on to see my pics on the internet. poor naked me. exposed by females. hey, aren't men supposed to expose women? i love those videos where the guy is telling the model to open her legs and play with herself, this way and that way. if you want you can photograph me in your studio, that's fine too, but make sure the door is occasionally opened. ha, ha. does csc have a studio? oh, well.

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Polyween

Avoué d'Arras et Bellonne — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 07:51:03 GMT

First published by Klaudio Zic Publications, 2008, www.lulu.com/astrology. Copyright © 2008 By Klaudio Zic. All Rights Reserved. No part of this material may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or otherwise, for commercial purposes or otherwise, without the written permission of the author, except when permitted by law.

POLYAMORY & WITCH HALLOW 2008

Copyright © 2008 by Klaudio Zic, all rights reserved. http://www.lulu.com/astrology

As every year on Halloween, our Sun enters the deepest ravine against Witchallow, the most mysterious supervoid along the Axis of Evil. What are this year's portents?

Among lively polyamorous triplets, Virgo is scheduled for marriage, while Leo enjoys a beautiful Halloween sunset witch. Other sun signs are differently occupied settling legal matters and elementary mathematics such as 3 -1 = 2, 2 + 1 = 3 or 3 + 2 = 5.

And the winner is: Virgo 2009

Polyamorous Virgo will nevertheless settle for an empowered single choice, with marriage and romance in view for Halloween. Marriage is especially favored for Virgo.

WICCAN LOVE

The Axis of Evil is the most important axis of every horoscope as triggered on Halloween for the witch in all of us. It especially affects the '80 generation, and with the entrance of Haumea in Bootes some days ago, it confers good luck to the Pluto in Bootes generation.

CALIFORNIA

California rules Halloween since the 8th house is the southwest of the horoscope. This year the southwest is especially favorable for Halloween. Couples with restless hearth will eventually find a home as tradition suggests stable values after polyamorous experiments.

POLYAMORY

Divisions within the heart of the witch are this Halloween's portents. The apple has a green and a red hemisphere. Polyamory triumphs with mixed results. California is favored while NYC is prone to meditative introversion. Places like Las Vegas are more favorable for this Halloween than New York. The eight house of the nation is thus marked by joyous Californian polyamory.

MARRIAGE

Marriage is favored for this Halloween, by keeping in mind that the heart is undecided as to definite direction. Polyamorous triplets1 can thus enjoy the freedom of not making a choice2.

COMET WILD

Comets represent a third party entering the horoscope. This year, legal matters rule the interest of the southwest. A third party disrupts the life of the couple, but also brings about excitement as kundalini emerges along with karmic melassa to be consumed. Wild is the largest comet that ever consumed our sky and perhas the main indicator of the apocalypse that we will ever had. When it entered our skies, couples3 were doomed to separation, but this tear, going to California would help polyamorous issues.

WITCH HALLOW 2008

Apart from the delineation in real space, this year, after a long experience in working with witches4, we determined the delineation for the 12 tropical segments of the sky. This delineation is accurate since based on true sky and applied to the segments. Witch Hallow will of course affect May Day people like Mordred and Halloween freaks, but also other zodiacal signs, whether 22 or within the 12 constellation, as presented below. Merry Halloween and be sure to check for Witch Hollow next April, because we'll be back with the yearly update. The Axis of Evil is the most important axis of every horoscope as triggered on Halloween for the witch in all of us.

PORTENTS FOR HALLOWEEN

What new year 2009 can your karmic double expect with you? What of our triplet? As follow are the portents for Halloween 2008, which extend to year 2009 towards May Day. The omens are especially tailored for the polyamorous witch in all of us.

ARIES

Halloween 2008 is a good time for travel as well as settling legal matters. Polygamy is favored where the blond prevails over the latina.

(click here for the 12 zodiacal signs)

Klaudio Zic

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Redistribution of this file in any form is violation of the Copyright Law.
This copyrighted material has been previously published as available from http://www.lulu.com/astrology
Copyright © 2008 By Klaudio Zic. All Rights Reserved. No part of this material may be reproduced or
Transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or otherwise, for commercial purposes or otherwise,
without the written permission of the author, except when permitted by law.

1Quadruplets, etc.; we used the word for fun, not for its meaning, obviously intending at the expansion AD INFINITVM of the couple, thus eventually embracing all mankind?
2How do we predict the issues for a Halloween marriage? We simply take e.g. Pallas in Lepus (see diagram) and progress it towards Witchallow by secondary angular direction. In so much days, months or years; depending on choice, the polyamorous community will settle godn for some good old hearth. For imminent issues and portents, we take Dioretsa and Sedna and progress it by altitude. Dioretsa, being in Eridanus, is especially indicative, while this year Sedna has progressed into Taurus from a long sojourn in Cetus. Going to California and the southwest for Halloween brings good results since aligned with the 8th house of the horoscope.
3In lack of a better word for triplet tripartition, ion tits in slang.
4The author is a witch doctor in the sense that he cured many witches.

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The Return of Desire

Sun, 27 Jul 2008 16:46:45 GMT

I love this book: The Return of Desire - A Guide to Rediscovering Your Sexual Passion, by Gina Ogden

So much good info. She polled women and men using a poll she calls an ‘ISIS’ poll and then meshed their answers with stories, anecdotes and exercises. An awesome read. It talks about everything from masturbation, polyamory, dogma, spirituality, emotional intimacy, communication and sex toys.

http://www.ginaogden.com/promo/

And this is cool—I found the ISIS poll that she used for the book on her website: http://www.ginaogden.com/index.php?p=Isis

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EROS is hiring

nerdpunkcub — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 20:33:12 GMT

Hey guys, we need a staff person and 1-2 massage therapists.

Staff register members and massage clients, fold laundry, restock supplies and really put the public face on eros. Work one late night shift (til 4 am) on a Friday or Saturday night and work one opening generally if possible during the week (3-9 pm). More shifts can be available. SF livable wage then up to 9.50 after 3 months. (this is your fun job, not the job that pays the rent)

Massage therapists must be licensed in SF or have ability to be licensed asap. Independent contractors, we provide marketing, reservation, cash/credit card processing, laundry, and equipment/supplies. 50/50 cut.

Both must come into club and pick up an application, 2051 Market Street in SF.

Be part of a queer/gay growing business.

www.erossf.com

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The Society of Janus Presents: Dominance and submission; A Symbiotic Journey. Presented by Lady Hilary and The Marine

JanusPrograms — Fri, 16 May 2008 16:00:48 GMT

Sunday, May 25 at SF Citadel
2:00pm - 5:00pm (Doors open at 1:00pm)
$5/Janus members and affiliates; $15/non-members (you do not need to be a member to attend!)

Come learn, discuss and question with a 24/7 D/s couple that lives and breathes a passionate loving relationship of Owner/property. We will talk about 24/7, role based, short term, life long, with or without SM relationships and anything else your imagination can conjure up about the Master/slave D/s lifestyle.

About the Instructors:
"Let me ask you this…" is very often the way The Marine begins a dialogue of learning. Both Lady Hilary and The Marine believe deeply in opportunities for growth found in the leather community. They each walked into Leather some 19 years ago; they have been walking a path together as Lady and Marine since 1999. Their Owner/property relationship has taken them on many journeys of growth, passion, and teaching. Together they, with the help of their boys, produce regular Vanguard Retreats www.vanguardleather.com, and have traveled the country and Bay Area teaching for the community, The Exiles, Alameda Leather Corps, Santa Clara County Leather, SM Odyssey, Rio Grande Leather, Southwest Leather, Dark Odyssey and The Citadel.

About the Janus Xplore Series:
The Janus Xplore series is a presentation of several "overview" classes, one per month on Sunday afternoons. These classes are intended to give the participants a solid, high-level overview of one area - not an in-depth class, but a great launching point to ask questions, and really see the wide range of activities possible.

Xplore classes include: Bondage, Impact, Medical & Electrical, Emotional Aspects of Play, Psychological Play, Dominance & Submission, Sexplay & Sensation Play, and the ever popular Sampler night where you can "taste" these aspects from the hands of experienced players.

This Janus program is open to all attendees 18 yrs of age and older who have a personal, positive interest in BDSM.

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I WANT MY FORESKIN BACK! (and other gay stuff)

Swaz — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 04:14:49 GMT

Yes. You can have your forskin back. I don't want it, but you may have it. If you want.

http://gaymart.com/shopbook/2item/i009410.html

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Society of Janus presents ... Pain Pig: The Art of Giving & Receiving Pain as Pleasure

JanusPrograms — Thu, 01 May 2008 21:45:37 GMT

Wednesday, May 7, 2008

at SF Citadel, 1277 Mission Street at 9th Street, San Francisco, CA

Doors 7 pm

Program 8 - 10 pm

Cost: $5 members of Janus & reciprocal organizations (e.g. The 15, Exiles); $15 all others

We've seen them -- bottoms who can't seem to get enough, and the tops who love to dish it out to them. They take play up a notch, and searing pain turns into sizzling heat.

Join us this evening as renowned leatherman Daddy Peter Fiske discusses a subject near and dear to his heart -- the art of turning pain into pleasure. Peter will demonstrate how he has incorporated pain in his scenes, using the sadistic skills he is famous for. Those who wish will be given the opportunity to volunteer to experience Peter's skills firsthand. And, if we're lucky, we'll get a chance to see some of his more exotic toys in action.

About Our Presenter:

Daddy Peter Fiske has been a Leatherman since 1964. He is SF LeatherDaddy XXI and is a former board member and President of the SF Aids Emergency Fund and a co-founder of the SF Breast Cancer Emergency Fund. He has served on the board of SF LGBT Pride and recieved the heritage of Pride Award in 2005 for longtime service to the SF LGBT community. He is a Chairman Emeritus and a member of the 15 Association since 1980 and a member of Delta International. He has presented at Leather events all over the country and is known for his large collection of whips and his skills in using them.

This Janus program is open to all attendees 18 yrs of age and older who have a personal, positive interest in BDSM.
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Qoc/Toc sex radical from London, UK, in San Francisco all April (and Mexico City over Easter, Vancouver in early May)

Prince Jei — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 22:50:04 GMT

I am new to this tribe (as well as tribe.net - be my friend!), and would love to meet lots of people, especially:

- Sex educators (I'm a trainee sex therapist, programmed workshops at Transfabulous 2 and led body image and race/gender awareness workshops at various queer/trans/kink/feminist gatherings)

- Perverts (happy bisexual switch, likes rope and lots of other things and people, gaydar.co.uk/adrino, myspace.com/prince_jei)

- Queers of colour (is it true that there's qoc munches in San Francisco?)

- Lefties, artsies, whores, poets, intellectuals, bears, multi-issue organisers of all kinds...

Also looking for nice hangouts, events, friends, allies, cheap accommodation (maybe flatshare with London? I have a cat and a nice central flat in zone 2).

Get in touch.
Look forward to hearing from you,

Jin (prince_jei@hotmail.co.uk)

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Info on phone sex work

christinemchugh — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 04:29:48 GMT

I have a friend (no, really, it's not me ;-) who's looking into doing phone sex as a way to make some quick cash. What can anyone tell us about...

Phone sex companies to work for
Industry pay scale
Tips for being successful

You can message me off-thread or reply in this public forum. I know she would appreciate any information that you could share.

Thanks.

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Walk A Mile In Her Shoes, April 9th, San Jose

Sscot — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 22:41:04 GMT

Hi all....
I just wanted to let everyone know of an upcoming event for Sexual Assault Awareness put together by the YWCA of Silicon Valley in the San Jose.
Summary: They need men to walk in women's shoes and people to sponsor them. They also need women's shoes in size 12 and 13 if you have some to donate.
Here's a portion of the description from the YWCA of Silivon Valley website:

"Come join us on a Wednesday evening at the end of the work day for our 6th annual "walk to bring awareness" supporting Sexual Assault Awareness Month, benefiting the YWCA's Rape Crisis Center. Male community leaders and residents are asked to walk (in women's shoes) from Plaza de Cesar Chavez (in downtown San Jose) through the streets of downtown—less than a mile—to call awareness to the problem of sexual assault in our community.
This is a lighthearted way to approach a very serious issue that is the responsibility of us all. Women are encouraged to walk as well. This year the post-walk reception will be held at the California Theatre. "

(feel free to contact me if you would like to donate shoes or have questions. You can also go to www.ywca-sv.org to register/donate/sponsor a walker)

Thanks and hope to see you there!
-Sscot

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IMsL for FREE - Volunteer!

Rae — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 05:43:32 GMT

IMsL for FREE - Volunteer!

Do you want attend IMsL for FREE? Or half-off?

Come volunteer for the hottest event in San Francisco! IMsL has 30+ workshops, 24/7 dungeon space, events and socials that cover more than 72 hours!
IMsL is May 1-4, 2008, in SF. Check out www.imsl.org for more details.

Volunteering is great community service and a fabulous opportunity to CRUISE!

Choose an option that works best for YOU!
2 hours - You'll receive a big Thank You!! from IMsL
4 hours - You'll receive a Collectible IMsL Volunteer Pin, available only to volunteers
8 hours – You’ll receive Half-off IMsL Basic Weekend Package, and a Volunteer Pin
12 hours – You’ll receive a Free IMsL Basic Weekend Package, and a Volunteer Pin

Please go to http://imsl.org/volunteer.php to sign up to volunteer!

IMsL needs lots of volunteers! Please forward this email to any and all Leather or LGBT email lists and to your friends. Encourage them to volunteer!

See you at IMsL!

Rae Goldman
Volunteer Coordinator
volunteercoordinator@imsl.org
http://imsl.org/volunteer.php

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Nor Cal Sus Con - Suspension Convention

Rae — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 05:03:04 GMT

Nor Cal Sus Con - Suspension Convention

sus.pend

* hang; especially: to hang so as to be free on all sides except at
the point of support
* to keep from falling or sinking by some invisible support

Pierce Ink is proud to sponsor the Second Annual Northern California
Suspension Convention! Suspension enthusiasts from all over the country
will be joining us for what’s guaranteed to be an amazing weekend of
suspension artistry. We will be welcoming several internationally
recognized suspension practitioners, such as Allen Falkner (TSD) and
Steve Joyner (CoRE).This is your opportunity to either be suspended or
observe some of the country’s leading suspension educators and health
educators at their finest.

Spaces are limited, so register as soon as you can! To view other
sponsors of this event, click on the sponsors link above. For more
information regarding suspension, refer to the following website:
http://www.suspension.org

*Where: Pierce Ink’s Backroom
48 Race St, San Jose California 95126
When: March 15th & 16th, 2008*

We're going to try and schedule all suspendees for Saturday, but if we
do not get to everyone, the overflow will be scheduled for Sunday.
Suspendees will be scheduled on a first come, first serve basis, so
register as soon as you can to insure your timeslot and suspension type!
http://www.norcalsuscon.com/ FMI and to register
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TRUE STORY - My Past

Thu, 14 Feb 2008 15:58:30 GMT

POSTED RELUCTANTLY, upon request from emailers:

I didn’t want to admit this to my Tribe.net buddies, but so many have suspected that I have a “past,” I felt that perhaps I should reveal just what that amounted to – well, some of it anyway.

When I was 18 and stupid, I needed money to go to school. I was advised by some other young women that pole-dancing would be a good way to make some money fast.

Well, that was somewhat overstated. But, after a brief whirlwind of searching, I found myself in the position as one of five young women chosen by an agency for an adult entertainment venture that would be a level above that. This was more difficult for me than the other four because I had been shy my entire life, burdened with an overwhelming sense of inferiority and weakness.

We five were enrolled in acting classes and, over the next six months, learned acting techniques, including comedy and dance.

During that time, I’d also enrolled in a community college and began dating my first-year sociology instructor who I’d marry a year later. He’s also a post-grad-studies engineer. He made me understand that what I was getting involved in would be a short-term career that almost certainly would be a dead-end job within five years, whereas a solid education would be a better bet. An adult-entertainment background isn’t the best resume for future stage work.

I told my husband-to-be that I’d been involved in some silent fuck films that were no more than videos produced for sordid advertising, internet clips, magazine postings and other low-end venues. Additionally, we were expected to fuck the producers and their friends at fund-raising parties and social gatherings. All this paid us five naïve girls a percentage of the take and paid back the agency for its investment in us five naïve girls. Nothing in life is free.

Having descended into society’s lowest depths, every element of shyness and inferiority I had experienced had now evaporated.

When my school’s next semester began, and I became a full-time “real” student. Had I remained with the agency, I’d have been on the adult-club circuit and taking roles in feature adult films, although not in a starring role. Those roles were then becoming money makers for the top one percent or so of actresses but the chances of achieving that are small for all others wannabes. It has now become so lucrative that only a small fraction of one percent reach that height of success.

Between his growing consultant business and his teaching positions, my husband made more money than I’d ever dream of achieving at doing anything else. And I was beginning to see how sleazy that other world was anyway.

Unless you’re at the top of the game, giving an adult performer the option of making her world pretty much whatever she wants it to be, it’s far worse than anyone outside that business can imagine. That business robs its employees of their souls.

And, finally, most people I meet, or correspond with, mistakenly assume I’m “really smart.” I’m not. Although I ultimately graduated, I had a lot of trouble with science and math. I fucked three instructors, an associate professor and a full professor to obtain additional instruction. Each told me beforehand that, although they would help, they wouldn’t adjust my grades upward. My grades were average.

The real reason some believe I’m smart is because of those acting classes. For all its Olympian faults, I’ll give the adult entertainment business that much credit. For its social reasons, overcoming my inferiority and just-plain fooling people, that tiny portion of my experiences was useful.

So that’s my past history, which I now assume will explain to my Tribe.net buddies how I developed the attitudes I now have.

I can’t recall how many readers of my few stories have asked, “Why can’t my wife (or girlfriend) see things like you?” Well, they didn’t go through the crap I did.

I apologize for not being fully forthcoming to those who I have answered. I’m truly sorry. Maybe the above will make up for it.

I regret much of my past. Except here to my friends on Tribe.net, it’s hidden. But Oscar Wilde once said, “All saints have a past. All sinners have a future.”

~~ "T"

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IMsL 2008 – Strap On Your Boots and Ride

Rae — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 23:43:05 GMT

IMsL 2008 – Strap On Your Boots and Ride

The 22nd Annual International Ms Leather contest and the 10th
Anniversary of the International Ms Bootblack contest return to San
Francisco to be celebrated from May 1 – 4, 2008. IMsL can boast being
the longest running women's leather competition. There is no other
contest with its history. No women's contest has continually brought
fierce, yet friendly, competition of leather women, educational
seminars, one-stop shopping for all kinky needs at the vendors' space,
and, of course, hot play parties around the clock. Each year, leather
women and *everyone* who loves them, experience an unforgettable event
which leaves them, not only with two outstanding title holders to
represent them for the following year, but with tingling memories of
their weekend and a hunger for next year's event.

The weekend will begin Thursday night with "Seduction" presented by
Good Vibrations – an evening of burlesque, strip tease, drag kings and
queens, go-go dancers, lap dancing and more. On-site play spaces will
open Thursday night as well and remain open all weekend. The weekend
continues on Friday with hospitality receptions including our new
Uniform Party, educational workshops, world-class vendors, charity
auctions and our Bootblack Salon and Leather Lounge staffed by the
contestants for the International Ms Bootblack competition. Saturday
brings the contests and the annual Boots and Cigars party. Sunday's
brunch has been reformatted and will be highlighted by a keynote
address from the hilarious, and often irreverent author, Laura
Antoniou, creator of `The Marketplace' Series.

Registration is now open, with an early bird price of *only* $99,
available until February 29. Registration may be completed online at
www.imsl.org. Tickets for the Sunday brunch may be secured at the same
time. Also on the website is a link for making reservations for the
host hotel, the Holiday Inn Golden Gateway. Alternatively, rooms may
be reserved by calling (415) 441-4000. Those who mention group code
SML receive the IMsL discount.

Discount packages are being offered this year which can be used by
leather clubs, leather families, contestant entourages and other
groups to save some money. These group discount packages offer 10 full
weekend packages for the price of 7 ½. See www.IMsL.org for more
information.

The delightful and entertaining Shann Carr (IMsL 1988), will return as
emcee. Judging the International Ms Leather contest are Sarah Humble,
Head Judge (American Leatherwoman 1994), Lady Faye Falconnier
(International Ms Leather 2006), Skeeter (of Mr. S Leather and Madame
S), Mr. Marcus Hernandez (Bay Area Reporter), Mike Gerle
(International Mr. Leather 2007), diamond (Black Beat, Inc), and slave
marsha (International slave 2001).

Former International Ms Bootblack titleholders will judge the 10th
Anniversary International Ms Bootblack contest, including Slaveboi
Eddie, Head Judge (2003), Ms V (2007), Alex Bettencourt (2006), Izzy
(2004) and michael ann (2000).

Those who are interested in competing to represent the women's leather
community as International Ms Leather or International Ms Bootblack
can find applications on the website or by emailing
contestantcoordinator@IMsL.org. Intelligent and articulate women,
capable of communication and outreach both to leather and non-leather
communities worldwide, are encouraged to apply.

Volunteers are the lifeblood of the International Ms Leather Contest
Weekend and applications for volunteer positions are available by
writing to volunteercoordinator@IMsL.org or by visiting www.IMsL.org.
Volunteers will receive a special collectible IMsL pin and either a
partial discount or a full discount on the registration fee so this is
a great way to be a special part of the IMsL team.

As with any contest, the producers of IMsL welcome hearing from
prospective vendors, sponsors, donors, advertisers – and anyone else
who has or requires information. Contact Glenda Rider at
executiveproducer@IMsL.org or visit the website at www.IMsL.org to
begin the ride.

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Erotic Arts Party NYC Feb. 13.

sparktrue — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 00:43:53 GMT

Please forward this on to any like minded friends in NYC.
1/2 off admission for any who mention TRIBE.NET
cheers RR.

On February 13th 2008 starting at 7pm:

THE SAINT VENUS THEATER

NY's art, music, and performance inspired erotic venue
invites you to attend our:

SAINT VALENTINE'S PARTY

Featuring a wide variety of hourly erotic performances that are always a tribute to woman and female sexuality, and "The Most Transformative Lap Dance Experience" you are likely know.

We want to excite one's heart, mind, soul and libido, not just the libido.
We regularly hold smaller intimate parties for our exclusive members. This
is one of our occasional bigger events open to the public. In addition
to a lot of fun, this is also the best way for us to get to know you and provides opportunity for membership consideration.

Location information posted below. Please visit our web site at www.SaintVenusTheater.com for party information and discount admissions or free lap dance card. You can also get location information for our very impressive midtown NYC club by calling 212-539-3524 starting on February 12th, the day before the event.

For a glimpse of our world be sure to check out the regularly changing myspace page at www.myspace.com/saintvenustheater

Performance Highlights:

- The Girl in Giant Bubble Show by the creator of The
Modern Gypsies www.myspace.com/moderngypsies.
- Kissing Contest a with cast member/model featuring on a MTV Reality Show
- Free give aways to the first 100 patrons.
- and more.

This is our open event, so feel free to share this invitation with like minded friends.

••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••

EVENT: St. Valentines Celebration
DATE: Wednesday, February 13th
TIME: 7pm to 1am
CLUB: www.duvetny.com
45 West 21st Street - Between 5th & 6th Ave.
ENTRY: $40.00. See www.saintvenustheater.com web site for discounts.

Enter to the left of the main Duvet doors.

THE SAINT VENUS THEATER ... Artista, Erotica, Utopia!

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STORY ONE - true.

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 20:11:37 GMT

I'm now 29. My husband, 17 years older, has had a fantasy of watching me with another man even before we were married 10 years ago. Just a month shy of two years ago, he asked if I'd accompany him to an adult video store.

At the back of the store was a long hallway with 20 video-viewing booths on each side. Business was slow that night and only a couple of customers were in the hall's booths. We were watching a video in a curtained booth and another guy peeked in at us. He looked very young, at least five years younger than my 26 years at the time. I'm 5'11" and he was about two inches shorter than me.

He asked if we minded if he watched with us. I said no and he joined us behind the booth's curtain. He stood alongside me and unzipped his pants. He pulled out his dick as he stood alongside me, my husband standing behind me and staring at us.

As the stranger jerked off, he carried on an ordinary conversation with such comments as, "So, are you two from around here?" and the like. I felt at first as if I had entered an alien land.

I hadn't had a lot of experience seeing other men's penises. My husband's is small, just a couple of inches when soft. At 18, I'd dated a guy with a six-inch dick. Although my younger brother's was larger, that man's still seemed enormous to me at that time.

I couldn't stop staring and my heart was pounding. His cockhead seemed as large as my husband's entire size when semi-erect.

My husband pulled out his penis and began stroking in unison with the guy. My heart thumped as I glanced from one to the other rigid cock.

Gasping, I leaned against a wall. Each watched me. I unbuttoned my blouse. They gazed in excitation at my naked breasts.

The guy's eyes glazed over. He reached to fondle a breast and exploded immediately. His face reddened as if embarrassed and he stuffed his sausage back in his pants. He breathed a, "Thank you," to us and slipped quietly from the booth, scurrying down the hall to the exit.

I didn't then know that I was soon to learn that penises come in many shapes, colors and sizes.

***

The following week, my husband asked if I wanted that night to visit the store again that Saturday. I chewed my lower lip, hesitantly, but ultimately agreed, "Yeah, sure. Last Friday was, well, really different!"

This time we left the curtain open. A guy about 30 walked twice by our booth and made eye contact. I smiled. He asked to join us and I nodded affirmatively, unable to speak.

He closed the curtain behind him and my husband dropped a handful of coins into the video machine. The guy stood alongside me and I let my hand brush the bulge in his jeans. He groaned. I unzipped the fly and pulled out his dick, asking if he wanted me to jerk him off. He said, "Please."

I stroked his hot and firm length. Although his face was porcelain pale, his shaft was dark with large purplish veins. It curved up to his belly. Curling my fist around this stiff rod, I gasped as an electric shock ran through my body.

His body shuddered. He groaned and I pointed his dickhead away from me as his love juice ejected onto a wall.

He zipped up, nodded a "thank you" and walked out of the booth and back toward the door leading to the bookracks.

Two weeks passed and my husband hadn't suggested we return. So I asked if he wanted to try finding another prospect at the video booths. He said, "Sure. I was concerned you wouldn't go back."

***

AFTER SEVERAL VISITS: I was wearing tropical cotton slacks and a tube top when we greeted the storeowner's son and made our way back to the viewing booths. By now, he had figured out what we were up to each time we were here and winked at me.

A first-year college student spotted us as we were trying to find a newer video we hadn't yet seen. He poked his head from his curtain and said, "I found a good one if you want to watch with me." My husband and I smiled at the other and walked in alongside the guy.

He talked as the movie was winding down and told us he'd start it over. He told us he was 19 and single. We hadn't any lengthy conversation with the men we had met under these circumstances. Each encounter typically had been no more than a jerk off party. I'd masturbated myself in sort of a circle along with my husband and one or two other guys and once with another married couple who had invited us to join them.

But this guy acted older than his years and we immediately liked him. My husband, who's 17 years older than me, for reasons I couldn't fathom, introduced me as his "daughter." This was somewhat believable. Even then at 27, I was often asked to present my ID whenever we walk into any place where alcohol is served.

Somehow, this excited the young guy more than most we had met here. But he seemed somewhat hesitant to begin a mutual masturbation party. So I rubbed my open hand against his erection beneath his tan jeans and asked, "Would you like me to masturbate you while we watch?"

He said, "Oh yeah!"

My husband stood on the booth's low stool to get a better view of us.

I removed my tube top as he unzipped his jeans. I pulled on his rod as my husband watched and jerked off. He bucked against my hand. I turned to my husband and sucked his trembling length.

The guy's voice quavered as he said, "Wow! You and your dad are really close."
.
It was all I could do from bursting out in laughter. I said, "Sort of an unusual family, I guess. Daddy's been fucking me since Mom left."

The three of us simultaneously left the store after both had ejaculated and the guy sat with us in the darkened back of our van in the store's parking lot. After petting, we removed our clothes and he fucked me as my husband watched. He would be only one of four guys whose dicks I allowed inside me during the two years we visited this meeting place.

Before leaving for his car, he asked me for a date. I turned to my "father" and asked if it was "...okay, Daddy?" My husband said, "Sure, honey. Seems like a nice boy."

We had two enjoyable dates. But on the third time out, we were dancing naked in his apartment near his school when his girlfriend used her key to walk in on us.

I pulled on my jumpsuit and zipped up as she was screaming at him. I grabbed my purse and waved goodbye, scurrying out the door. In this heated situation, I hadn't realized that I'd left my bra but I didn't return to get it.

He never called again, but we saw their pictures in the local newspaper's wedding announcements six months later so I guess they worked everything out. He had never told me he had a girlfriend. He hadn’t even mention that anyone had a key to his apartment.

After that story he had told Jeff about being my "father," my husband often introduced me as his daughter whenever we met a man there. Sometimes, just for fun, he made this claim to waiters at restaurants.

We began selecting incest videos more often than most other genres while here.

***

Occasionally, maybe five times total, not just one but two guys had walked into the viewing booth area together. On those occasions I was jerking off both simultaneously but had to leave my husband to take care of himself.

One of the more memorable was the time that two guys nervously walked into our booth and told us they were fellow students who then lived in the same dorm. They couldn't have been more different. The guy named Bill was tall, long-limbed and lean, with short blond hair. His dick was about average size and felt good in my hand. His brown-haired friend was about 5'7", with a cock that seemed nine or ten inches long, another record for me.

We stood in a line watching a hot incest video about a mom and son, a guy on each side of me as I stroked their hot pricks. The shorter guy unbuttoned my blouse and nursed a breast. I gasped, awash in dicks as the other lifted my skirt and inserted his cock between my bare legs from the back.

The taller of the two reached behind me and his hand encircled my husband's stiff rod to jerk him off while I was doing those two.

***

Except for that brief interlude with Jeff who had fucked me in our van, we made a trip to the book and video store regularly over more than a year and half, about once every two weeks, until the place closed down two months ago.

A few weeks before it was to close, the owner's son was behind the counter and had by then come to know us and what we were up to. We chatted often with him and he told us that he and his father were selling the property because of that area's vastly inflated commercial property. The asking price would have assured them they'd never need to work again but each had other plans for new businesses. This was our community's last adult book store with private video booths.

As a going-away gift, he presented us a half-dozen swingers magazines from his backroom inventory and suggested we could use them to continue our adventures. He, his sister, and parents were swingers and were swinging with several local couples and singles who advertised in the mags.

He stapled his personal card with phone number atop one of the mags and told us we would be his guests at a swingers party or a local annual swingers ball if we wished.

He told us that Jeff had stopped in a few times since he'd married and they talked about the "father and daughter" Jeff had met there. The store manager knew better but didn't rat on us; instead, he had elaborated on the story by adding that I had a "brother" who looked just like Jeff. He said Jeff thought that was the most exciting story he'd heard in his life.

After the store's property sold, we phoned the young man who gave us his card and swingers magazines and attended two parties at local homes of his friends. We decided we wouldn't be into swinging for the long run. I enjoyed giving the hand jobs though.

Those video booths gave us a lot of great memories and we still talk about several guys we met there.

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STORY THREE - true. Our going-away party when leaving Florida

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 20:13:40 GMT

REAL FRIENDS, REAL BENEFITS - MY FUCKBUDDIES.

I’m now 29 and often, when asked, can’t remember how many homes we have lived in over our 10 years of marriage. And we’re to be transferred again in three weeks, something that my husband’s business requires every six months to two years.

My husband has been a dedicated cuckold for a little more than two years. It took me awhile to understand him but he’d wanted this even before we married.

At his urging, I agreed to accompany him on visits to a video-viewing booth area of a local adult book and video store for two years. Over that time, many guys either joined us in our booth or poked their dicks through drilled holes between booths. I (usually) didn’t fuck them but enjoyed jerking’em off.

Unfortunately for both of us, my husband was required to regularly take a medication causing him to become mostly impotent. So, although he hadn’t mentioned his fantasy of another guy fucking me in more than a year, I had therefore found reason to renew the issue. It finally began to make sense to me.

I began dating an 18-year-old I met in a night class. After just one semester, he went away to another school so I began dating yet another fuckbuddy.

And during that time I met three women friends who enjoyed going out to places like rave clubs and male strip-bars. I didn’t care for raves but enjoyed watching my friends jerk off male dancers. Heck, I did it myself.

I occasionally returned home as late as 3 a.m. Sometimes my husband achieved an erection upon my retelling of these stories.

He won’t openly admit that he enjoys my experiences but it’s clear he does and loves being my cuckyboy. Truth be told, much of what I do is also for his pleasure.

So the third weekend before we were to be transferred yet again, two of those friends arranged a special “going-away night out” for me.

Janet at age 32 is the oldest of our little group and the only one who smokes. At 5’6” she was about 15 pounds overweight when we first met. She then began losing weight until she was now likely a few pounds underweight. Somehow this thinness, along with her no-nonsense demeanor and uncommonly self-confident deportment, her dark hair and blue eyes added a mysterious façade that attracted substantive attention from men everywhere we went.

Janet had something of a wild childhood. She told us that, following an even wilder middle school past, she fell into a particularly mischievous crowd in high school. By then, she was smoking dope and attending illegal street races. Often she served at the racers’ flag-girl. She graduated with decent grades. I can’t understand how.

But earlier in middle school, she was instrumental in forming a sex club that grew to 14 kids. They gathered at different homes every couple of weeks. After almost a year of this behavior, a neighboring couple complained of stereo noise at one of their member’s home. The cops arrived to discover a dozen naked and partially naked kids engaged in sex acts.

The school board transferred each kid to different schools and forbade any to socialize with another for the next two years. Their official edict wasn’t entirely successful but it broke up their frequent parties. And, of course, things remained a bit tense between the parents and their kids for a year or more.

Janet never ratted on her two-year older brother who was the club’s only older member. He hadn’t attended that evening. Although each saw the other having sex with others, she didn’t ever enjoy intercourse with her brother.

Marta, the most outgoing of our bunch, had another commitment that prevented her from attending that night. So that left just Evelyn and Janet to plan this special evening in my honor.

Evelyn, at age 24, unlike the divorced Janet, is married. She and her husband are swingers and nudists. Evelyn had invited Janet, my husband and me to join them at swap parties. But my husband explained he couldn’t get it up sufficiently for a party like that and begged off. Janet was satisfied with a string of boyfriends and also declined.

Evelyn is a svelte redhead with freckles and often is mistaken for a very young girl. Part of this age-identity confusion lies with her tendency to wear low-rider jeans and tight pullovers you’d expect on a adolescent student, far different from Janet and me who dress conservatively. I do that because I want to appear at least my age but sometimes it doesn’t work.

Janet’s two-year-older brother long had been eternally thankful he hadn’t attended that night those middle school fuckers was busted. Although Janet and I never went to the nudist camp with Evelyn and her husband, Janet told her brother about their offer and he frequently attended at the couple’s guest.

Most naturist parks bar single men but allow single women as members. The clubs prefer families to singles. Janet and I assumed her brother was probably one of their swinging partners as well but neither of us had asked.

A few months ago at the male strip club, Evelyn – as each of us often had done - was stroking a dancer’s long, lathered-up dick. Janet noticed a man nervously talking with the bartender and pointing toward us.

When Evelyn went to the bar a few minutes later for another drink, the bartender told her that the man had been concerned while observing her jerking off the dancer and he had assumed she was underage. The barkeep explained to him that he’d heard that complaint before and he personally knew Evelyn as an adult regular.

And minutes later that 42-year-old guy walked over to our table and asked Janet for a date. We guessed he was fascinated with this apparent “kid.”

Evelyn told him she and her husband were swingers and asked whether he was interested in threesomes. He enthusiastically agreed. Evelyn took his name and phone number. He has since swung with them several times.

Jan’s initial meeting with the man caused several pseudo-psychological analyses between the four of us. We guessed that his attraction to the young-looking Evelyn implied a pedophile personality.

Yet that night in the bar, he had been the only customer to protest when he thought she was too young to be there. We concluded that he probably denied his sexual preference and had displayed at that time an excessive fear of a 14-year-old holding an adult’s dick.

BACK TO THE PRESENT:

So now, Evelyn and Janet showed up at our door to pick me up for this unexplained “special” night out. My husband was intrigued and asked if he could go.

Janet said, “Absolutely not, Cuckyboy. We’ll give her something to tell you later.” She said this while drawing a line down his cock beneath his slacks.

Janet blindfolded me and drove us to Evelyn’s home. I asked if I looked like the Green Hornet, an old masked comic book character she displays on a poster above her bed back at her apartment. Janet replied, “More like the Green Horny.”

We arrived five minutes later and they hadn’t allowed me to remove the blindfold.

From their whispering, I recognized that it was Evelyn’s husband and the guy she had met at the strip club who greeted us at the door. I suspected now what they had planned. Evelyn’s husband had made no secret that he wanted to fuck Janet and me. I didn’t then realize that a third man was in the room.

I was about to remove my blindfold but Janet grasped my hands and said, “Oh no, not for awhile yet.” So I laughed and said, “Okay, I’ll play along.”

Amid giggles, I heard zippers and clothing falling away. Then someone gripped my wrists, raising my arms high as others undressed me.

The bar guy’s voice said, “Okay, now all women are to be blindfolded.” And moments later, it was done. Someone had turned on a stereo with soft music.

Evelyn’s husband announced, “We’re going to dance first. Throughout the night, each of the women will try and determine who the man they’re with might be. We’ll give points for correct the guesses and the winner receives a prize at the end of the evening.”

The third man added, “And since this party is in (my) honor, we wish her luck.” Everyone laughed, including me. Why was that funny? I don’t know. I guess you had to be there.

I said, “How can I guess if I don’t know who all of you are?”

They each introduced themselves. The third man said in his Philly accent, “And I’m Tony.” He’s Janet’s brother, so I assumed I was right guessing that he was among Evelyn’s threesomes. A fuckbuddy.

The problem with this game was that it was too easy. Evelyn’s husband is a big guy with thick hair. The older man we had met at the bar has a high forehead and thinning hair and was about 5’9”, three inches shorter than Ev’s hubby, and is much leaner. Jan’s bro has light reddish-blond hair that feels, well, fluffy. He’s slender also but about my height, 5’11”, with long limbs.

Ev’s husband was the first to dance with me. Our naked bodies pressed together through the last half of a song that had begun before the dancing began. His semi-erect penis curled to the side against my hip. Evelyn was dancing with the guy from the bar and Jan found herself pressed naked against her brother.

Partners changed as the song ended. Jan’s brother danced with me. I didn’t need to remove my broad blindfold to realize that he sported a horse-sized woody.

His cock had swollen while dancing with his sis and stood straight out. He rotated his hips until his rigid penis pressed all the way through the part between my legs. The upper part of his long shaft thrust aloft, tightly against my groin. His cock’s large head protruded so far out the back of my legs that I felt his broad dickhead pulsating against my buttocks.

His hips rotated against mine, causing the upper portion of his cock to hotly massage my clitoris. Soon I gasped for breath as he kissed me full on the lips. My hands gripped his buttocks. My hips rolled against his, masturbating my clit on his dick until I was about to explode.

But the song ended and I then was dancing with Evelyn’s husband. His stiff prick curled up toward his belly and throbbed against my stomach. With slow fucking motions he pressed his dick up and down in the narrow space between our tummies.

All women were moaning. One man groaned. Evelyn voice tremored as she said, “I can’t wait any longer! Somebody fuck me!”

“That’s the next part of the game,” her husband said. “Keep your blindfolds on.” They led us three women to the living room’s liquor bar and urged us forward, bracing our hands against its edge, our legs spread invitingly.

He went on, “This won’t be as easy to guess. A penis will enter your pussies from behind. If any woman attempts to feel the body behind her while being fucked, she will be disqualified.” None of us had group sex together before and I was certain someone would object. But I didn’t intend to protest.

Janet’s brother removed our blindfolds. Ev’s husband said behind us, “Although the blindfolds are off, you’re not allowed to turn around. Only one woman will be fucked at a time. The other two women will try to help that woman cum. Each man will attempt not to ejaculate before all women are fucked. We don’t need a guy with a used-up softie.”

Someone turned off the overhead lighting and dimmed the room’s only table lamp. The lamp’s bulb was red, casting a rosy glow about the room.

Each woman now was in a high state of excitation with no resistance left to protest anything. Our bodies shivered as each of us glanced to the other. Tears streaked Evelyn’s cheeks. Janet’s lips quivered. My teeth chattered and my cunt steamed with lust.

Jan’s brother leaned across the bar and smiled at me, saying, “Because the party is in your honor, you’re first.”

My voice squeaked a weak “Okayyy…” A dickhead parted the mouth of my eager pussy. My hips rotated wantonly as it slithered into my lubricated depth. I was ooo-ing and begging him to fuck me hard. Whoever the guy was behind me trembled as much. His hot breath steamed onto my bare back.

Janet’s hands stroked my breasts as she leaned to the side, watching the cock pound into me. Evelyn’s fingers crept to my clitoris and twirled in unison with the man’s fucking. Janet leaned to nurse a nipple.

I forgot about trying to guess who my fuckbuddy might be. Evelyn’s slippery fingers were about to bring me to orgasm.

He withdrew against my protest but another cock replaced his. This guy gripped my hips as he rammed into me. I realized it was Jan’s bro. He had the longest dick I’d known. If his prick had a normal width rather than it’s slender length, he’d have split me apart. That big cockhead though caused me to squeal in surprise as it rammed through my tender vagina.

I pleaded, “Please don’t take this one out,” but he withdrew, replaced by the third. I couldn’t tell whether this was Bar Guy or Evelyn’s spouse. All were good.

Now my orgasm roared over me like a freight train. I bawled and exploded, as I screeched, “It’s so fuckin’ fine! I’m a’wash in dicks!”

I released my grip on the bar and hugged Janet and Evelyn against me. Evelyn’s hand cupped my mound and Janet madly nursed my breast as my climax crested and ebbed.

Evelyn was next to sample their cocks. With Janet’s help, I assisted Evelyn as well as they had served me.

Then, at Janet’s turn, she gritted her chattering teeth while bracing her fists against the bar. Her eyes rolled to the ceiling. As if it had just occurred to her, she said, “I assume only two of you guys will be doing me. I mean, one of you is … my brother!”

No one answered. The silence, it seemed, was telling. I gulped and looked down at her brother’s anxiously long cock.

Evelyn and I stroked her shuddering body through the first two men who mercilessly pounded into her helpless cunt.

But Janet hadn’t climaxed and bawled, “Doesn’t seem fair! I’m so fucking hot!” The bar guy said, “You’re right. But it’s not over, Baby.” He tugged her brother’s arm and led him to his sister’s buttocks until his cockhead bobbed against her shuddering anus.

Evelyn and I were stunned. Unwanted incest seemed so over the top. I was speechless, frozen in place. But Evelyn raised her eyes questioningly at the guys, giving no hint to Janet as to her next invader would be.

Bar Guy turned off the lights, plunging the room into total darkness.

Janet squealed, “Ohhh my gosh!” as the hot dick entered her pussy, then withdrew completely. Evelyn’s husband gripped Jan’s shoulders, turning her around to face her fucker.

But in this darkness she couldn’t determine the identity of that man she now faced. He urged her back to the carpeted floor. She said, “Oh, honey, I am so hot! Do me.” We didn’t know whether she suspected it was her brother.

As our eyes adjusted to the dimness we could make out only two naked forms, intertwined and writhing before us.

The invader parted her thighs and kneeled between her legs. His dickhead divided her churning cunt. She returned each thrust, rocking rhythmically.

The man raised his head, his body stiffened. He groaned, about to cum. Jan moaned feebly and pleaded, “Cum with me. Fuck me. Fill me up with your hot juice!”

His body stiffened. Janet screamed, “I’m a’cummin! Oh my gosh!” A Philly-like accent groaned, “So am I. I’m cumming in your hot cunt!”

And then, all of us, including the powerless Janet, immediately recognized that voice! Her brother’s voice.

Oh Honey, that moment was so fucking hot! We women and the other two men were masturbating whoever was nearest, each hoping we’d cum again.

I didn’t then know, and don’t know now, whether the hand on my hot cunt was that of a woman or man. I’m really not bi, but I didn’t care. I was coming again.

Janet’s body rippled in multiple orgasms. Then someone turned on the lights.

It wasn’t her brother who had fucked her. It was Bar Guy.

Her brother had leaned against Bar Guy’s face at their moment of orgasm and said those words I’ll never forget, “So am I. I’m cumming in your hot cunt!”

He kneeled beside his sis and pecked her on the cheek as if apologizing for that moment’s unforgivable shock.

Jan wasn’t buying it. Her eyes squinted furiously and she punched him hard on his shoulder. He reeled back, laughing at his successful ruse.

The rest of us were rolling on the floor in laughter. Janet smirked at her bro. Never say Jan can’t take a joke.

Evelyn and her husband drove me home that night. To my wonderment, Janet drove her brother home. To her condo! Not his apartment. Hmmm.

Everyone had forgotten about that “prize” to be awarded for the most correct guesses. I’m not sure who won anyway.

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STORY TWO - true

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 20:12:26 GMT

My First Fuckbuddy

And the strange story that followed . . .

My husband became mostly impotent three years ago after he began taking a medication. I’m now 29. I was just 19 when we married and he was 36.

Even before we married, he often related a fantasy of me having sex with another man, a desire I then didn’t understand. But by then, 8 years later and taking into account our marital circumstances, I began to consider the possibility. I’d often dream about being naked with faceless men, each with a generous-sized penis.

I began taking night classes at a local college and met a young classmate 9 years younger and who sat just behind me. I was then 27. I’m particularly tall and Jeff was a couple inches shorter than me He’s slender and long-limbed, with brown eyes and light brown hair.

He walked me to the parking lot after the first night’s class and talked about whatever came to mind. He asked if I’d be interested in going for coffee at a pub a couple of blocks away and I agreed. I lost track of time until noticing more than two hours had passed.

We kept up this routine at the pub over the following two weeks. By the third week, I was altogether aware that Jeff was attracted to me by his persistent touching of my hand. As we were about to leave, he stood. I glanced to his groin. I stared wide-eyed at his hefty erection until he became aware of my interest. I smiled approvingly but neither of us commented on what had just occurred.

That night upon arriving at home, I asked my husband that night if he was truly serious about me wanting me to have sex with another man.

He said, “Oh, yeah! Did anything happen tonight?” I told him all about Jeff. He enthusiastically approved of encouraging this guy to do me. He added that I “deserved” some dick since he wasn’t able to perform.

I nodded agreeably and said I’d “think about it.” But I’d realized immediately after saying that, I had already made up my mind. I wanted this guy to fuck my brains out. I’m not sure why I didn’t admit it.

After the following week’s class, Jeff suggested that I leave my car in the school’s parking lot and ride with him in his van. I rode alongside as he drove into the pub’s dark parking area. Instead of opening the door to get out, he turned to me. I returned his gaze. He reached for my hand. I stroked his arm and he leaned to kiss me.

I stroked his throbbing hard-on. He led me by a hand to the back of his van and closed the drapes of its windows. He urged my back to the carpeted floor. I unzipped his fly, pulling out his cock. It bounced against my face and I gasped at his 7 and a half-inch length, nearly twice the size of my husband’s. The only longer prick I’d ever seen was that of my younger brother when I lived at home. Soon our clothes piled between the bucket seats and our naked bodies intertwined. Our groins humped against the other’s. I pleaded, “Oh yeah, do me. Do me now. I’m so hot! I need your hot cock inside me.”

He kneeled between my quivering thighs. I wrapped my bare legs around his waist and looked down at the narrow space between our bodies as his walnut-shaped dickhead entered my eager cavity. Only four boys or men had ever been inside me and those were now in the distant past.

I moaned as my body shuddered. He slammed deep into my wet cunt and a billion stars lit up the van. My heels thumped against his ramming buttocks.

He turned me to my knees. My head swiveled around as he entered my vagina from the rear. My hair swirled wildly in the warm air.

He groaned and his body stiffened. His hot lava rocketed through his cock and spurted inside my vaginal walls. I squealed in multiple orgasms.

Somewhere during the first few times he was thrilling me with his sizzling dick, he began calling me “Mom.” I immediately recognized his apparent incestuous fantasy and told him “Oh, yeah, I wanna feel my little boy’s big cock in Momma’s pussy.” His excitation soared to new heights. We writhed in ecstasy.

Our couplings increased to two or three nights each week. I often staggered home as late as 3 a.m. Neither of us could get enough. I told my husband each night of our escapades in detail and those were the only times he was able to get an erection.

Because I was often sore from Jeff’s dick, I’d suck my husband’s cock and deny him entry into my pussy. He never complained. Once my husband made a surprising confession, “I’d even suck his dick if you wanted me to.” He never repeated that though, insisting he wasn’t bi.

Near semester’s end, Jeff received acceptance from an out-of-state school. He had previously suspected a rejection slip from that university, so this was of great importance to him.

The night of our last class, his car wouldn’t start and I drove him home. He invited me in to meet his mother, a successful corporate manager who had divorced her husband five years before. He had a two-year-older sister who was away at a chef’s school.

I was surprised to hear him introduce me as “the friend” he had talked about so much. I hadn’t thought he would mention me at all since I was married.

His mother is a knockout, a long-legged blond with curves in all the right places. Her breasts are lovely, larger than mine. She grinned knowingly, implying she suspected our relationship was also physical and not just friends.

Just a couple of days after Jeff left for his new school, his mother phoned to tell me she had come across a red sweater I’d left at their home. I’d forgotten it. Later, I would realize that I stupidly had left it lying on the floor of his room a month before.

She invited me over to their home for a drink. We agreed the following evening would be good for each of us.

When I arrived, his mother greeted me with a handshake but held my hand longer than necessary. I didn’t pull away. She was dressed in thin white slacks and a translucent white blouse, both of which clearly conveyed that she wore nothing beneath.

She invited me to sit by patting the back of the couch alongside her. After a few minutes of chit-chat, she said, “I’m not sure how to put this without making you feel uncomfortable. Believe me, whatever happened is okay with me. I’m just asking for personal reasons.”

I told her, “It’s okay. I think I know what you’re going to ask.”

Upon her questioning, I admitted that Jeff had been fucking me for some time.

She responded, “I thought so. I wanted to thank you.”

I had now relaxed and asked her to explain. She said, “Jeff offhandedly mentioned to me that he often called you ‘Mom.’ I guessed correctly how that came about and thought you might want to know his motivation.”

Her story spilled out. His mother had come to realize that her son had a strong desire for an incestuous relationship with her. And because of one recent incident, she assumed he wanted sex with his older sister as well.

She explained, “Jeff has his own bath down the upstairs hall from his room.”

I already knew that because we had fucked in his room twice when no one else was home. I didn’t tell her that.

His mom went on, “But Jeff often came down to the master bath next to my bedroom. He would walk in when I was naked on his way to my shower. I’m sure he waited outside in the hall until he was sure I was nude and then walked in at that time.

“After his shower, he would walk back to my room with nothing on except occasionally a towel around his neck. Typically, he sported a hard-on. Made no effort to hide it. He seemed proud of it.

I asked how she reacted and she told me she pretended to ignore his nakedness and stiff cock.

Because she was also nude, she was tense the first couple of times this happened. But eventually she became accustomed to it and just had conversations with her son. The tension was still there but it was easier to control. His stiff prick never seemed to soften.

She said, “You understand what I’m saying?”

“Sure,” I said. “He wanted to fuck you.”

She said, “Thanks. I like people who are direct. He did the same with his sister and she told me that she occasionally was tempted to jerk him off. I understood. So did I. But I was concerned about the potential long-term effect on all of us if either his sister or I allowed our natural desire to play with Jeff’s big dick. It would be even worse if we lost our heads and fucked him. I explained that to her and she understood. We decided to do nothing for awhile at least.”

“And then, you came along.

So now I understood what she was getting to. I was her son’s surrogate mom. She went on to say that he hadn’t been walking in on her or walking in on her or his sister with his hard dick since he and I had begun fucking.

Then, on at least one occasion, not long before her son and I had begun dating, he entered his sister’s room while she was sleeping. He picked up her limp hand and wrapped her fingers around his rigid cock.

His sis awoke but didn’t want to embarrass him by making a scene. She pretended to remain asleep. She told her mom that she might have betrayed this charade because her hand firmly gripped his warm cock.

He pumped his hips into her hot hand until he spurted onto her sheets. He removed her fingers and slipped quietly out of the room. She admitted her grip was unyielding at first but she ultimately released it to his prying fingers and believed he mostly likely recognized she wasn’t asleep after all.

Their mother laughed as she finished this story and added, “So I guess she was disappointed in letting it go, but she didn’t admit that to me.”

Later that night, as I was standing in the doorway and preparing to leave, she leaned forward and kissed me full on the lips. I held her face and returned a lingering kiss.

Our groins rubbed against the other a moment and we disengaged, exchanging knowing smiles. She isn’t gay or bi, but the excitement of telling her story and my admitting that I was fucking her son had excited us both. Nothing else developed from that brief interlude.

After that night, his mother and I became fast friends. We were open in conversation, over the phone or face-to-face. She phones each time her son is expected home from school and arranges our get-togethers. A few times when his sister is away, these dates have been overnight at their home with Mom’s approval.

His sister has since become fully aware of the relationship and endorses it.

Because he’s away so much, they know that I date another guy for sex whenever either of us feels the need. Everyone understands that Jeff and I are just fuckbuddies. But ours is a semi-incestuous relationship as well. Well, okay, it’s really a pretend-incest relationship, not a real one.

Although I was never involved in any sort of sex with relatives, this ongoing “pretend” liaison between Jeff and me has caused in me a perverted interest in incestuous novels and movie. I buy both over the internet.

I guess the closest I ever came to committing incest was when I lived at home. I occasionally came upon my younger brother naked and on a few of those occasions he had an erection.

He once was masturbating when I walked into his room to talk about a school problem with which he’d earlier asked for help. He apologized and put his dick away. I just shrugged and said, “Forget it, I won’t tell.” The only interesting part of that to me was how big it was when super-hard. I had stared wide-eyed at his pale veined length until it disappeared into the jeans’ fly and gulped.

But I had no thoughts of incest with him and I’m sure he didn’t either.

I wasn’t the only one affected by Jeff’s fantasy. Although we don’t do this in front of Jeff’s sister, he, his mother and I have watched perhaps a dozen adult-incest videos at their home when he’s home from school and rented them from a local store. His mom and I once commented on his erection but understood and admitted those films aroused us. We had seen his other hard-ons in response to the videos but usually said nothing about it. On at least a couple of times, we just grinned or winked at the other whenever he wasn’t watching.

All of us admit these carefully selected videos are hot. But his mother and I realized her son had crossed an important threshold when he said, “It’s stimulating to imagine but it’s impractical in the long run.”

I never discuss my little perversion with anyone else except my husband.
And, with all this interest in family sex, I’m just glad my brother doesn’t live in the same state as we do. I’m kidding. I’d never fuck my little brother.

My husband in one of his weirder moments once asked whether I’d consider just jerking my bro off. I told him to “get a life” and he never brought it up again.

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Be an extra in Gus Van Sant movie about Harvey Milk

Rae — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 22:08:24 GMT

On Monday night, February 4th and Friday night, February 8th, the feature film MILK (directed by Gus Van Sant and starring Sean Penn as Harvey Milk) will be re-creating three 1970's marches through the Castro.

We are looking for volunteers to appear in the these marches in the film. THERE ARE NO AUDITIONS. IF YOU SIGN-UP ON THIS SITE AND SHOW UP, YOU WILL BE USED. All ages, races and genders are welcome. But, you MUST be 18 or over to participate.

more info:
http://www.milkmarch.com/

post this on other kinky and faerie lists so the crowd will be filled
with leather and fabulous drag

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Aberrant behavior-auditions saturday the 19th 2263 mission (between 18th & 19th) 3:30-6:30 (Also looking for crew)

Jason — Wed, 16 Jan 2008 13:03:08 GMT

I'm making a film, that will be somewhat explicit in parts. Also, there will be imagery that needs nudity.
I am afraid that I will not be able to cut the content of the movie script, even if I find actors interested .You can e-mail me with rates, photos, questions, etc. If your an actor or actress who has worked in nudity and/or sexual situations, is comfortable with it, and would like to take on a feature narrative film as a major role please e-mail me or show up to the auditions. The two main roles are the ones that require it but there are others. If you would like to be featured in sequences that do not involve the main characters, but are part of dreamlike imagery (that features nudity/partial nudity)you can either show up to the audition, or e-mail me with link to your work. Best place to e-mail:
theperiodmovie@yahoo.com

Here is the plot:
Aberrant Behavior, is basically about two self destructive anarchistic-y street kids who have an exaggerated form of pica, a disorder where people feel compelled to eat non-food materials, carpet, dirt, soap, drano, various chemicals, etc. as portrayed as a drug addiction. Who are in a very self destructive relationship, there perfect for each-other except they literally kill each-other by being together. A lot of psycho-sexual/self mutilation-masochism in this one.There's more to it, but that's the basic synopsis.

Keep in mind the budget of this movie will probably stay around 25-35, 000 dollars (already secured), so just warning I can't pay the highest rates

Thanks-
Jason

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I have a new movie called "Aberrant Behavior" auditioning Sat. 1/19 3:30-6:3- at the Dark Room SF 2263 Mission off of 19th and Mission@ 3:30 - 6:30. (My first movie "the period" came out through Sub Rosa Cinema can be seen/bought at Netflix www.myspace.com/theperiodmovie as well as various other outlets)
Aberrant Behavior, is basically about two self destructive anarchistic-y street kids who have an exaggerated form of pica, a disorder where people feel compelled to eat non-food materials, carpet, dirt, soap, drano, various chemicals, etc. as portrayed as a drug addiction. There's more to it, but that's the basic synopsis. If you can't make it to the auditions, you can send me a head shot with resume, or whatever you want. We can then decide when and where to meet.

I will be hiring for many roles, all ages (over 18) races, sizes, etc. But here are the main characters:
Main Characters:
Victor Muertos: (Mid to late twenties) Half Mexican/Half white (Half latino/half white will probably work). Black hair, down to chin and five o clock shadow. (Flexible though). Tall and thin but not too thin.
Dark, brooding, depressed, prone to long winded sarcastic, cynical rants. Living off the state for mental depression, and addiction, but eventually breaks himself from the state. He hates the state, and normal life in general. He hates almost everything. He is sort of sloppy hipster, slightly emo, slight slight slight goth meets street kid. Light or no body mod, piercings, etc. He eventually lives on the street because of choice.He falls in love with Aiko.

Aiko Zumbi (18-early twenties or look like it) Half Japanese/Half German (or Japanese, or half Japanese/Half white). Shorter than Victor, thin but still slightly curvy.
Street kid with a bit of dark hippie. Has been sexually abused as a child. Prone to violence. Prone to long winded rants, or sometimes just total silence. Dark, cynical, with a very bleak view of life. Body mods, tattoo's, piercings, fine. Dreaded or colored hair fine as well. Actually preffered.
She falls in love with Victor.

Emma May (20's to 30's) Actress must be thin, because character is anorexic. Very fake, superficial, manic laughing. Very self deluded. She doesn't really see her anorexia as a problem, she think she looks great though she's obviously dieing and goes to extremes to keep herself thin. She is always dressed up elegantly and thinks of herself as a proper lady even when doing something grotesque . She is a head executive at a advertising/pr firm that she gets a Victor a brief job at, through meeting him in a class over there mutual addictions. (Brief Nudity /Partial a few times)

Caseworker Joe (30's-40's) Written has hispanic, but open. Larger guy, tall, built like a shed, a bit fat but not flabby fat. Very coarse, to the point, direct "Take no shit" kind of guy. Very normal, buys into the whole big house in the suburbs, good job, etc. He is Victor's Caseworker, and is tired of Victor's Shit, and believes he is not trying to quit. (None)

Glitters- a gay gangster rapper, take everything that's a cliche and horrible about it and flip it so that it's gay (some, will also need male models)

Pedida Muertos-Victors Mother. A nearly catatonic morally apprehensive drug addict who's always sleeping with random guys and ignoring her child (Some nudity/sexual situations can be negotiated to less)

And then random visuals, nudes for some flashback scenes (of some sort of psuedo porn the main characer shot) a girl that Victor sleeps with before he falls in love with Zumbi (requires brief nudity/sexuality) and some body part imagery that will not feature the face of the actor/actress, among other thing

I need before I even start:
Prostethetics/Makeup- There are many parts of my movie that need gore, ghoulish makeup or creating body casts for dreamlike effect (like a scene where they fall onto the ground and break like porcelain blood-paint spraying out of them creating a heart) but most importantly I need someone who can help make someone look anorexic, eye sockets reccessed , hips sticking out, ribs sticking out, shoulder blades, etc. I can't start without this because it's one of the main characters.

Boom-I have someone lined up for operating boom/mixing sound, but I'm not sure he'll always be available. I need someone who has at least some experience in this to help. I have equipment but having (better?) equipment would be great.

Props- It would be great to have someone who can assist in creating edible (or non toxic) chemicals, substances, materials for the main characters to ingest. It would also free me up to think about other things.

Lighting/ Art Department/ Set Design/Decoration/Locations- I need someone who can do a lot without a lot who can work with unusual materials. Who isn't too expensive or I won't be able to afford you. Also may be able to transform other locations into desired location.Things needed for instance underground bomb shelter turned into run down sorta apartment. Abandoned buildings. Offices. Fashion Show. A sewer, where the characters live in and eat off of trash.

Original posting:

Set Decorators/Builders:
Though the majority of the movie will be in real locations. There will be a few sets built, and sets that will be decorated to fit the movie. I am looking for people who have experience building sets (theater experience would be great) on a low budget. Resourcefullness in materials is needed (Meaning you can do a lot with not a lot). Building flats, painting, decorating.

Prosthetics/ Make-Up: Though this is not a gore horror movie. There is quite a few instances of gore. People who have experience in mold making, prostethics, sculpture. etc. would be very helpfull. Also people good at making people looking sickly or malnourished through make-up needed. In addition Emma May, the severe anorexic will need added pieces to protrude her brows and jaw, her ribs, collar bones, hip bones, etc to make herself appear much thinner. Actually a lot of make up needs from simple to complex through out the movie.

Vfx-Compositors- Though this will not be a special effects epic, there will be things needed. Good flashy two animations/composting for some of the fake commercials/promos. Possible fire and underwater animation. Some manipulation of the video -color fluctuations, shrinking an enlarging, simple morph effects, color globules to represent visual aberrations in the characters eye-sight. Some 3-D needed especailly those who are good working with modeling human figures. But mostly more simple 2-D basic 3-D stuff. I may do this myself, but send me a link to your work, and I might hire you for the movie.

Props: I will be doing much of this myself, but may need help in re-creating chemicals, materials, such as drano, soap, dirt, carpet, many other instances through-out the script, to create realistic looking edible (or at least non toxic ) substitutes for the substances they swallow.

Mechanical/Puppetry- Not needed for a lot of the movie. But there is a few scenes with Emma Mays giant snake like tape worm that slithers around. Also a scene where skull bowls start vomiting (have to read script to explain) Could do myself, just seeing if anyone else might be interested.

Lighting Designer: Though I will likely take over this role myself, and a lot of the footage will be shoot in the streets style. There will be a few locations that will be staying in for a long while in the script, and would like good, stylized lighting for maximum creepy effectiveness.

Costume: I already have a few people on board for this, but as this movie ends in a big Valentines Day Fashion Show. I am looking for people who could be commisioned for clothing for that event (and other sequences in the movie as well). Also, previously made pieces could work.

Underwater Camera- Anyone who would like to rent me an underwater camera, or who has experience filming underwater, this is needed for a few sequences.

Boom Mic/ Sound Mixer- I already have someone onboard for this, but never hurts to have a second position, or a backup

Pyro/ Fire Safety/Explosion - This really isn't needed for a lot of the movie. But there is one scenes where a whole room catches on fire (with possible stuntman that catches on fire, I made do this in special effects). There is another scenes where a home-made bomb blows a crack into a wall and makes it crumble. I want these scenes to come off effective and safe.

Security- Not throughout the whole movie, but there will be scenes where I will be filming in potentially dangerous locations, and a climax that will need crowd control

Legal/ Locations- I will probably do this myself, but if anyone has experience in finding or knowing of great locations, or securing permits for locations. I might be interested in working with you.

Production Assistants/Co-Ordinaters (I am sure you know what this means)

Music- I have most of the music worked out. But a band fell out that I really felt I needed for some sequences. If your music is post -rocky, slow core or has that aphex twin meets godspeed you black emperor I may be interested. The kind of bands I'm looking for: Mew, Godspeed you black emperor, Explosions in the sky, Spiritualized, 65 days of static, Sigur Ros. Also in some music Portis-Heady could work.

Thanks
-Jason

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Slap & Tickle Brunch, 1/13/08, NOON – 2pm!

Slap & Tickle — Wed, 09 Jan 2008 21:52:49 GMT

Slap & Tickle Brunch, 1/13/08, NOON – 2pm!

Slap & Tickle B.D.S.M. – Brunch and Drinks on Sunday Morning, January 13, 2008

A Slap & Tickle Event hosted by Jen

Check out the Invite, and RSVP: http://sanfrancisco.tribe.net/event/Slap-Tickle-Brunch-11308-NOON-2pm/san-francisco-ca/7432add0-a5ad-4f69-b9e3-d4da8539ee47

Please RSVP, by clicking the ORANGE BUTTON in the UPPER LEFT CORNER!

Join our kinky crew for good food and great conversation in a relaxed Sunday Morning environment.

For more information on Slap & Tickle, check out:
http://tribes.tribe.net/slapntickle
www.slapntickle.org

Sunday, January 13, 2008
At Park Chow
1238 9th Avenue, San Francisco
From NOON to 2pm!

NOTE: This is a free event, but any food/drink ordered is at your own cost.

For those of you taking public transit:
the N-Judah, 43, 44, 71, 71L, 16 AX and 16 BX all run by 9th & Irving. Hope to see you there!

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Sex Files 2007: The most stimulating health stories

Alan — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 16:07:53 GMT

http://www.ctv.ca/servlet/ArticleNews/story/CTVNews/20071224/year_review_sex_071223/20071228?hub=Health

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what a fab party, thanks everyone, happy new year

4cc — Wed, 02 Jan 2008 02:09:26 GMT

I just wanted to say thanks to everyone who played for NYE, the fairy tales party was so much fun. Let's do more fairy tales and other parties like this.

happy new year!

cc

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The 12 Poly Days of Christmas!

ReidAboutSex — Sat, 22 Dec 2007 00:48:57 GMT

This is a very funny video poly person (and certified Cuddle Party facilitator, BTW) Anne Hunter in Australia, made. It's very cute (especially with the accents). I'm sure MANY of you might relate...

: )

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tlbki61OPco

The lyrics can be found here: http://elementalism.org/fun/twelve-poly-days.html

Merry/Happy Christmas, Solstice, Hanukah, Kwaanza, New Year, etc! And a
safe, rejuvinating, and poly season to you and yours...

Multiple smooches,
REiD

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Art Show at Balazo Gallery

Brian — Sat, 22 Dec 2007 00:16:49 GMT

“Jugo Fresco” - Art, Music, Projections, Performance, Libations

Myself and 5 other artists - I'll have some prints available for cheap last minute purchases ...

Friday December 21 – 8:00 to 11:00 PM
Saturday December 22 – 8:00 to Late

Balazo 18 Art Gallery - 2183 Mission St at 18th

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Nude Aid

gypsy_scholar — Mon, 12 Nov 2007 03:43:30 GMT

Will there be a Nude Aid event this year? If so, when and where?

I haven't been paying attention but would hate to miss it.

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Singletails, Blood, Erotic Hypnosis, and The Cops.. all at SF Citadel.. Dont Miss out!

Phil — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 03:42:10 GMT

Saturday Dec 1st
All things single tail

Start Time: 1:00 PM

All things single tail

In this class we will discuss the physics and fine tuning of use of single tail in BDSM play and we will also look at a much bigger picture of bullwhips and other forms of single tails. We will learn about, Physics, History, performance, safety, and motivating mammals both large and small. I encourage you to bring your own single tail. I will provide examples for both demonstrations and practice. This class will include, lecture, instruction, Questions and answers, and practice. We will practice targeting, wrapping, and tricks, as well as discussion and practice of the specific use of whips as part of our kinky arsenal.

Saturday, December 1st, 1PM-4PM
Admission: $30

Master Mark M.A. has been Tying people up, pulling hair, Kidnapping fair maidens, suspending people (Hung Harold in a production of "Harold and Maude" in the early 80s) and wielding all manor of nasty implements for 34 years as a Stage Combat Choreographer and Teacher. Mark is a Marriage and Family Therapist licensed in the state of California. He has been active in the BDSM Lifestyle for 10 years and has been counseling alternative lifstylers since becoming a mental health Professional in 1993. He has a California State Teaching Credential in Theater arts. He brings all of this Knowledge and experience to the BDSM lifestyle for the purpose of augmenting, and creating safer BDSM play. Mark’s classes usually involve a good mix of discussion and demonstration, with plenty of opportunities for practice and participation from attendees.
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Saturday Dec 8th
Fluid of Life: Blood Scenes

Start Time: 1:00 PM

Fluid of Life: Blood Scenes
Join FifthAngel for a look into the erotic and spiritual art of releasing blood from the human body. We will begin with a safety talk on blood-borne pathogens and infection control. Then, FifthAngel will demonstrate how to perform simple capillary bleeding and progress to more invasive techniques such as arterial bloodletting. This is not a class based on Vampirism, and is not for the squeamish.

Saturday, Dec. 8th
1pm-3pm (doors open at 12:30pm)
Admission: $20 at the door

A martial artist, critical care nurse, and all-around sexual sadist, FifthAngel extracts various elements from his extensive background in martial arts, weapons and firearms training to help create some of the most emotionally and mentally challenging scenes known to BDSM. Adding the title of author to his hobbies, he has written two books, "The Finer Points of Pain and Pleasure," a how-to guide for using pressure points in BDSM scenes, and "Your Pain, My Pleasure: Inside the Mind of a Sexual Sadist."

Branded for playing on the edge, FifthAngel at times demonstrates sexual sadism in its purest sense - a sexual sadist does not enjoy seeing the bottom orgasm from pain. Rather, a sexual sadist is happy seeing the bottom NOT getting pleasure from the emotional or physical pain they are experiencing.

With a goal to educate others to deepen their emotional experiences through BDSM and rites of passage, he has expanded his teachings and demonstrations to include spiritual piercing and flesh hooks. FifthAngel remains an equal opportunity sadist and is always happy to work with volunteers among workshop attendees.

An edge player in all aspects of his life, he enjoys vertical rock and ice climbing as well as high altitude mountaineering.

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Erotic Hypnosis Workshop
Wednesday, Dec 12th
Start Time: 8:00 PM

Erotic Hypnosis Workshop
by Heron Saline, CHT (www.fullattention.com)

Doors: 7:30pm
Class: 8:00pm - 10:00pm
Admission: $20

Doors: 7:30 pm

Each of us naturally goes into hypnotic states of consciousness every single day of our lives--why not learn how to bring this deep level of mental experience into your play? This fun and informative introductory workshop presents the basics of what hypnosis is and how to safely and creatively use it to enhance your scenes and erotic play including how-to tips, issues of responsibility and care, possible applications, and experiential exercises!

Heron Saline, CHT is a practicing certified Hypnotherapist, Holistic Somatic Energy worker, and member of the Black Leather Wings Radical Faery tribe (Please check out http:// www.fullattention.com)
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Saturday Dec 15th
BDSM and the Police with Master Rick

Start Time: 2:00 PM

Contact with Law Enforcement at BDSM related events is rare, but the potential problems that can come from a negative police contact can be unpleasant at best. So, how do you deal with an unexpected Law Enforcement contact in a BDSM setting? The presenter, a veteran police officer with a major metropolitan department, has worked in patrol, training, detectives, as a patrol supervisor, and completed his career as a field commander.

In this class, we will offer some strategies play spaces and event organizers can employ to lessen exposure to police action for themselves and their guests. We will talk about how consent does, and does not protect play partners, play between Domestic Partners, and discuss some higher profile past cases. But most importantly, we will look at the real world aspect and offer some practical information on "What should you do when they're knocking at the door

Admission: $20

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SFCItadel Presents: FifthAngel, BENT, Singletailing classes Plus a lot More!

Phil — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 03:47:58 GMT

Monday November 26th
Whip Works with Darin and Sheila- A Singletail Monthly Workshop

Start Time: 8:00 PM

"Whip Works" with Darin & Sheila
A Singletail Monthly Workshop
"Whip Works" with Darin & Sheila
A Singletail Monthly Workshop
4th Monday of every month
No Class on August or September 2007
Cost is $10.00
8:00 till 10:00

Bring you whips to the S.F. Citadel for a fun evening of practice. Learn to get the most out of you whips and whip scenes by learning from others. The purpose of this gathering is to learn from acquire new skills, polish old ones and to learn from each other.

Whips: Any singletail, snake whip, Bullwhip or stock whip that has an Australian measurement of 6’ or under. There will be a couple of extra whips to share for people that don’t have one if you have an extra to loan please bring it.

Your Hosts:

Darin has been handling whips since childhood. He teaches both east and west coast style whip work locally as well as at national leather events. He will help you refine those trick throws and get the most out of this exciting SM toy.

Sheila has spent years on both ends of a whip. Her role will be to not only give basic instruction on how to use your whip she will give you invaluable insight into what is going on in the mind and body of you bottom. It not enough to learn the mechanics of this toy you MUST understand the physiology before you can call yourself a whip master.
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Friday November 30th
Sedusa's Sanctuary

Start Time: 8:00 PM

Mistress August Knight and Maestra Cheyenne present
Sedusa's Sanctuary
Friday, November 30th, 2007
8PM to 1AM
Join us for a night of Female Empowerment at the SF Citadel! Surround yourself with devastating Dominant Women and their male and female guests. Sedusa's is a gathering that is intended to maximize Her pleasure, to provide the sanctuary She needs- and deserves!
The evening will include:
8:30PM-9:30PM- Formal tea with the Northern California Ladies Tea and Discussion Society, facilitated by Domina, the Frugal Domme
10PM- Powerful Whipping Circle led by Cleo Dubois
Dominant women and accompanied subs pay $20 each
Unaccompanied subs will be asked to pay $30 each
Volunteer for one hour for free admission! E-mail SedusaS@gmail.com
Membership required and always available at the door for just $10 (1 year membership)
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Saturday December 1st
All things single tail

Start Time: 1:00 PM

All things single tail

In this class we will discuss the physics and fine tuning of use of single tail in BDSM play and we will also look at a much bigger picture of bullwhips and other forms of single tails. We will learn about, Physics, History, performance, safety, and motivating mammals both large and small. I encourage you to bring your own single tail. I will provide examples for both demonstrations and practice. This class will include, lecture, instruction, Questions and answers, and practice. We will practice targeting, wrapping, and tricks, as well as discussion and practice of the specific use of whips as part of our kinky arsenal.

Saturday, December 1st, 1PM-4PM
Admission: $30

Master Mark M.A. has been Tying people up, pulling hair, Kidnapping fair maidens, suspending people (Hung Harold in a production of "Harold and Maude" in the early 80s) and wielding all manor of nasty implements for 34 years as a Stage Combat Choreographer and Teacher. Mark is a Marriage and Family Therapist licensed in the state of California. He has been active in the BDSM Lifestyle for 10 years and has been counseling alternative lifstylers since becoming a mental health Professional in 1993. He has a California State Teaching Credential in Theater arts. He brings all of this Knowledge and experience to the BDSM lifestyle for the purpose of augmenting, and creating safer BDSM play. Mark’s classes usually involve a good mix of discussion and demonstration, with plenty of opportunities for practice and participation from attendees.
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Saturday Night Dec 1st
Fourth Annual Victorian Kinky Christmas party
Open Play Party
Start Time: 8:00 PM

Fourth Annual Victorian Kinky Christmas party
SFCitadel 1277 Mission St
Sat December 1, 2007 8pm - 1 am
$20 ($5 discount if in Victorian garb or donating an ornament)
This is a very special Open Play Party, with Holiday and Victorian themes. Many of us will first spend the day at the Dickens Corset Faire, a reconstruction of Victorian London, as Charles Dickens saw it. Pay special attention to Mad Sal’s, the Dark Garden windows, and the Naughty French Postcards show (5:30?). See dickensfair.com for info on the Faire, but they know nothing of the kinky party. Then we’ll wear our holiday finest to the dungeon, and help decorate the Citadel’s tree. And we’ll recreate kinky scenes inspired by the repressed sexuality of Dickens’ time. Perhaps organize a game of “strip Whist”, or “kinky Wink”. Certainly some dominance and submission. Consider a nice caning, or an over-the-knee spanking. They don’t call it “the English vice” for nothing. Whether you celebrate Winter Solstice, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or simply the snow season, come enjoy decking the tree with colorful ornaments and other pretties. We'll whip that tree into shape, and Top it with a dominant symbol of the season.
Those who haven’t been to an event at SFCitadel should note that while this is a warm and safe environment, you’ll be exposed to people exploring some extreme erotic fantasies. This makes Postcards look quite tame. All genders and orientations welcome.
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Monday Dec 3rd
Upstairs class
100 Ways to Play

Start Time: 7:30 PM

100 Ways to Play: a Catalog of Kink with Angela and Iain at SF Citadel, in SOMA district of San Francisco 1277 Mission St at Ninth St Monday, December 3rd, 2007 doors 7:00, program 7:30 - 10:30 ish PM $10 - $20, sliding scale, notaflof groups.yahoo.com/group/EduKink edukink.tribe.net EduKink.org sfcitadel.org At a good party, you?ll see dozens of different techniques in action. Which ones are easier? What are they called? How do you learn them? Which players are safe and competent, versus merely flamboyant, or even dangerous? We cover all the techniques you?re likely to see in a dungeon or be asked to try. For each we include what it looks like, what it feels like for the top and bottom, what it?s really about, safety, equipment, difficulty, and how to learn it. Coverage includes techniques in ten groups: Bondage, Dominance/submission, Electrical, Fetish, Impact, Medical, Psychological, Role-play, Sensation, and Sex play. Because of limited time, we cannot fully teach every technique, but this program prepares you to select and attend specialized classes in the individual techniques that interest you. - - Angela and Iain are officers in the Society of Janus, Dungeon Monitors for SF Citadel and elsewhere, and teach BDSM classes at all levels, at many venues. Their teaching style combines humor and approachability with clarity and thorough research. Reservations not required. Membership not required. You don't need to bring or wear anything special. If time is tight, you can bring dinner to eat during the class. The class is open to anyone 18 years and older with a sincere, positive, personal interest in BDSM / leather / kink. All roles, genders, and orientations welcome. If you have questions you may write to edukink AT yahoo DOT com - - More information at EduKink.org
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Monday Dec 3rd
Downstairs
Rope Bondage Peer Workshop

Start Time: 7:30 PM

Join your hostess, Lane, for The Rope Bondage Peer Workshop, a space for people to work on skills and technique with rope bondage. Whether you've never tied a knot or you've been using rope for years, show up, practice, learn at your own pace from your peers, learn out of a book, or learn what it feels like to be on both sides of the rope. Come alone or bring a friend!
RSVPs are not required.
Admission: We request a $5 - $15 donation to support the SF Citadel
For more info, please visit www.sfrope.org
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Friday December 7th'
Bent and Slap and Tickle present: NOTORIOUS- a play party exclusively for kinky youth

Start Time: 9:00 PM

A chalk outline on the floor... A seductive femme fatale... A scotch swigging private eye... and a smoking gun... I asked myself... what do they all have in common? Suddenly, the answer hit me like a ton of bricks...
NOTORIOUS
In a city known for its debauchery and loose morals, the Slap & Tickle crew has teamed up with creators of Bent to celebrate the dark nuances of Film Noir. Their ladies of the night will seduce you, their gangsters will corrupt you, and you might even come eye to eye with a few private dicks.

DJs Raven and Slaveboy will provide their scintillating sounds.
Upstairs, enjoy snacks, stripper pole, and dance space.
Downstairs, explore 2500+ square feet of sex-positive dungeon space with room for flogging or fucking as takes your fancy.
A private area with a photographer will be available for those who wish a 1950s Hollywood glamor shot.

Friday, Dec 7th, 2007 - 9PM-2AM
SF Citadel - 1277 Mission St

$20 at the door
Volunteer 1 hour and get in free!
Volunteers, questions, comments, or naked pictures, e-mail bent.sf@gmail.com
Tribe at tribes.tribe.net/sfbent

Bent is exclusively for kinky youth. For the purposes of this party, “youth” is 18, 19, 20’s and 30’s.

As always, costumes are appreciated but not required- goth, fetish, basic black, or any sexy/attractive attire is welcome!
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Saturday December 8th
Fluid of Life: Blood Scenes
Heavy Warning Not for the Squeamish !!
Start Time: 1:00 PM

Fluid of Life: Blood Scenes
Join FifthAngel for a look into the erotic and spiritual art of releasing blood from the human body. We will begin with a safety talk on blood-borne pathogens and infection control. Then, FifthAngel will demonstrate how to perform simple capillary bleeding and progress to more invasive techniques such as arterial bloodletting. This is not a class based on Vampirism, and is not for the squeamish.

Saturday, Dec. 8th
1pm-3pm (doors open at 12:30pm)
Admission: $20 at the door

A martial artist, critical care nurse, and all-around sexual sadist, FifthAngel extracts various elements from his extensive background in martial arts, weapons and firearms training to help create some of the most emotionally and mentally challenging scenes known to BDSM. Adding the title of author to his hobbies, he has written two books, "The Finer Points of Pain and Pleasure," a how-to guide for using pressure points in BDSM scenes, and "Your Pain, My Pleasure: Inside the Mind of a Sexual Sadist."

Branded for playing on the edge, FifthAngel at times demonstrates sexual sadism in its purest sense - a sexual sadist does not enjoy seeing the bottom orgasm from pain. Rather, a sexual sadist is happy seeing the bottom NOT getting pleasure from the emotional or physical pain they are experiencing.

With a goal to educate others to deepen their emotional experiences through BDSM and rites of passage, he has expanded his teachings and demonstrations to include spiritual piercing and flesh hooks. FifthAngel remains an equal opportunity sadist and is always happy to work with volunteers among workshop attendees.

An edge player in all aspects of his life, he enjoys vertical rock and ice climbing as well as high altitude mountaineering.
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Flea and Fandango, December 9th Sun,

It’s that time again!

Mark your calendars. Lady Thorns SM Community Exchange and Fandango is on December 9th.

An afternoon at the Bizarre Flea, topped off with a Fandango party at the SF Citadel, will make for a really memorable day.

Come join us for a great day of socializing, shopping, playing and enjoying a San Francisco Leather Tradition.

If you are a vendor or know of a vendor, please forward this to them.

On December 9th, 2007:

Please join Lady Thorn, Kinky Crafts people, Artisans, Leather, Fetish and SM Community members on Sunday December 9th, for the third "SM Community Exchange" of 2007!

This is the original San Francisco Leather Swap Meet and has been going on since December of 1983.

Vendors range from many of the best toy makers in the country, artists, authors, photographers, fetish clothing makers, personal collections and one of a kind items for the connoisseurs in us.

Socialize with leather/fetish folk at this three times a year event.

Date: Sunday December 9th, 2007
Address: 942 Mission Street
(between 5th and 6th Streets)
Doors open at 2:00 PM
Admission to the Bizarre Flea is only $5.00

Vendor Info: contact Lady Thorn @ 415/642-1448
Vender Set up: 12:30 PM

Easy parking at the 5th and Mission garage.

Continue the fun by joining us at Fandango.

We will weave our magic inside the SF Citadel with our special lighting and music, providing you with an environment where your energy can soar.

Admission will be available at the Fandango table inside the SM Community Exchange or at the door.

We provide special food, soft drinks, safer sex supplies and a wonderful fun place to play.

Please bring your toys (old and new) and hot energy.

Admission: $20.00 at the SM Flea, $25.00 at the door.

Sunday, December 9th, 2007
6:30PM to 12:00 PM
The SF Citadel
1277 Mission Street
San Francisco, Ca 94103

Work exchange is always needed, contact us for work exchange please.

For further info or to help with the party, please check out our
websites at:

www.sfcitadel.org
www.smflea.com

PS: the next Exchange and Fandango will be April 13, 2007.

Usually held the second Sunday in April, August and December.

Thanks

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Flea and Fandango, December 9th

Phil — Sun, 18 Nov 2007 19:40:46 GMT

Hi everyone

It’s that time again!

Mark your calendars. Lady Thorns SM Community Exchange and Fandango is on December 9th, just a couple of weeks away.

An afternoon at the Bizarre Flea, topped off with a Fandango party at the SF Citadel, will make for a really memorable day.

Come join us for a great day of socializing, shopping, playing and enjoying a San Francisco Leather Tradition.

If you are a vendor or know of a vendor, please forward this to them.

On December 9th, 2007:

Please join Lady Thorn, Kinky Crafts people, Artisans, Leather, Fetish and SM Community members on Sunday December 9th, for the third "SM Community Exchange" of 2007!

This is the original San Francisco Leather Swap Meet and has been going on since December of 1983.

Vendors range from many of the best toy makers in the country, artists, authors, photographers, fetish clothing makers, personal collections and one of a kind items for the connoisseurs in us.

Socialize with leather/fetish folk at this three times a year event.

Date: Sunday December 9th, 2007
Address: 942 Mission Street
(between 5th and 6th Streets)
Doors open at 2:00 PM
Admission to the Bizarre Flea is only $5.00

Vendor Info: contact Lady Thorn @ 415/642-1448
Vender Set up: 12:30 PM

Easy parking at the 5th and Mission garage.

Continue the fun by joining us at Fandango.

We will weave our magic inside the SF Citadel with our special lighting and music, providing you with an environment where your energy can soar.

Admission will be available at the Fandango table inside the SM Community Exchange or at the door.

We provide special food, soft drinks, safer sex supplies and a wonderful fun place to play.

Please bring your toys (old and new) and hot energy.

Admission: $20.00 at the SM Flea, $25.00 at the door.

Sunday, December 9th, 2007
6:30PM to 12:00 PM
The SF Citadel
1277 Mission Street
San Francisco, Ca 94103

Work exchange is always needed, contact us for work exchange please.

For further info or to help with the party, please check out our
websites at:

www.sfcitadel.org
www.smflea.com

PS: the next Exchange and Fandango will be April 13, 2007.

Usually held the second Sunday in April, August and December.

Thanks

P.S Please forward this to all who you feel should know about it.
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sf Citadel Up and coming ! Dont Miss Out.. Masters Den. Advanced needle play with Desiree' and More!

Phil — Thu, 15 Nov 2007 02:25:14 GMT

The Masters Den
Friday November 16th

MD: Dom's Domain & Sub Space

Start Time: 7:30 PM

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DOM’S DOMAIN*:
7:30-8:00
Doors: 7:15 pm
Admission: Free with party

Dom’s Domain is a seminar of Master's Den Etiquette & submissive handling. Learn about interviewing, testing & rewarding submissives at Master’s Den and beyond.

SUB’S SPACE:
7:30-8:00
Admission: Free with party
Doors: 7:15 pm
Experienced submissives offer Master's Den Etiquette, guidance and support to assist you at Master’s Den and beyond. Learn about being interviewed, tested, sold and rewarded.
Master's Den: Casino

Start Time: 8:00 PM

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Master's Den The SF Citadel's and Maestro Stefanos' Original Celebration of Male Dominance and Female Submission.
Admission:
All Submissives: $20
Accompanied Dominants: $20
Single Dominants without invite: $50

SF Citadel presents a revelrous celebration of female submission & male dominance for all levels of experience. Gentlemen indulge in scenes, the shadow economy, create an empire of connections, & accumulate dollars for Auction III in February 2008. Ladies, offer up your favorite scene or service. Den Mothers are available for assistance, support, & matchmaking. Come single or in groups to Master’s Den to socialize, learn & explore with scores of dominants and submissives.
Work exchange needs**:
4 attendees for clean-up; 5 door/locker shifts, 7 cashier shifts, 4 kitchen shifts; 6 DM Shifts
For work exchange email sfmastersden@yahoo.com
Check-out people.tribe.net/mastersden & tribes.tribe.net/mastersden

*Arrivals after 9:45 PM will not receive Den Dollars. **Volunteer for 1-hour and receive 50 Den Dollar and free admission or volunteer for 1-hour and receive 500 Den Dollars with paid admission.
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Saturday Afternoon November 17th
Putting on the Glitz: Advanced Artistic Needle Play

Start Time: 2:00 PM

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Putting on the Glitz
November 17, 2007
2 pm – 5 pm
Cost: $20

Advanced Artistic Needle Play

In this workshop, students will learn to decorate the body with a variety of techniques and materials, while inducing the awesome endorphin rush that needle play brings.

Ever wondered how it would feel to have a needle corset, or perhaps a beautiful spray of roses, pinned in your skin in a way you could wear all day? Ever considered a unique costume for Folsom Street Fair or other kinky events? This is your chance to learn something deliciously fun and exciting!

Students wanting to attend this class are encouraged to attend the basic needle play class first. They will see two different designs demonstrated on volunteers during the workshop, and we will discuss a lot of potential fun things that can be done.

This is advanced play, and not for the squeamish, larger gage needles are used and in larger quantities. It is a workshop environment, so students will be given their own starter kits for the class.

This workshop is always a hit with those who attend, and the instructor has a wealth of experience and knowledge in doing it. She has pioneered many of the techniques being taught, and enjoys sharing them with the community.

Come join us and learn to do something beautiful, creative and fun, and give your partner a gift they will remember for some time to come.
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Saturday Night November 17th
Open Play Party

Start Time: 8:00 PM

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Join us in the city's premier play space! We'll provide play structures, safer sex supplies, scene music, munchies, water ... and ambiance. You bring your implements of choice, and your hot energy!
RSVPs are not required.
Admission: $20 per person
For work exchange (a one hour volunteer shifts earns you free entry!), contact sfcitadelvolunteers@gmail.com

Membership required! One year membership available at the door for only $10. Members can have up to three guests.
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Sunday November 18th

Karaoke and Social

Start Time: 2:00 PM

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SF Citadel Presents:
Sunday Afternoon
Karaoke and Social
Hosted By: Dusty
Sunday, November 18th - 2:00 - 6:00pm
1277 Mission St.
www.sfcitadel.org
Admission: Food to share and $10

Mark your calendars for a
Sunday afternoon Social and Karaoke. This will be a potluck, so bring your favorite
dish (food or otherwise). Be prepared to sing your little heart out or
just sit back and watch as others try their hand at being on stage.

Since this is not a play party, this will only be upstairs and we are
permitting people to bring beer or wine. Besides having the Karaoke, we
will also have board games and movies that can be watched. Feel free to
bring your own favorite game as well.

For free admission we will need a few volunteers. To volunteer, please
send an e-mail to niteraven38@ yahoo.com
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Monday November 19th
SF D/s Discussion Group

Start Time: 7:30 PM

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SF D/s Discussion Group -
SF Citadel -
third Monday of each month,
7:30pm-9:15pm - doors open at 7:00pm; meeting starts at 7:30pm
Bring a brown bag dinner and join us at the SF Citadel for a directed discussion, held in a spirit of fellowship and mutual respect, on matters pertaining to Dominance and submission. Moderated by Eric Arkouda, this monthly event is a product of the 10-12 participants who bring a variety of backgrounds, views, topics, and questions to the discussion. This discussion is open to anyone 18 years or older having a sincere, positive, personal interest in D/s; participants need not be members of the Society of Janus. All roles, genders, gender identifications, and orientations are welcome. Please RSVP to Eric Arkouda or to the SF D/s Discussion Group mailing list: Eric Arkouda (EArkouda@mailworks.org) SF D/s Discussion Group mailing list (SFDsDG@yahoogroups.com) a week in advance of the meeting.
We request a donation of $5.00 to $15.00 per person to the SF
Citadel for hosting this event- help us support our community dungeon space!
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Wednesday November 21st
Naughty Knitters

Start Time: 7:00 PM

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Naughty Knitters

(Domiknits and sum’stitchin)

Ladies, Are you a knitter, crocheter or other sort of hand crafts (beading, needlepoint, etc)? Are you kinky or perverted? If the answer to both of these is yes, then we have the event for you!

On every third Wednesday at the SF Citadel from 7 to 9 pm, come join other women to work on our projects and chat together.

The goal is to have a regular craft circle where you can come, work on your projects, get the occasional advice from others, while hanging out with like-minded kinky people.

The cost is $5 per person and everyone is invited to bring some sort of finger food or snacks that we can pass around and share.

Please note, this gathering is for the ladies only a la Stich n' Bitch.
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Thurday November 22
THANKSGIVING POT LUCK

Start Time: 5:00 PM

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Phil & August cordially invite you to attend SF Citadel's 4rd Annual THANKSGIVING POT LUCK Thursday, November 22nd, 2007 5PM - 9PM
Thanksgiving is a time to give thanks to our friends & family within the BDSM community. In the spirit of sharing, we will be having a potluck dinner. The Citadel will provide turkey & ham. We ask that you provide a dish to share as well.
BASED ON FIRST INITIALS, PLEASE BRING: A - G Appetizers / Salad H - M Side Dishes N - R Desserts S - Z Drinks
The focus of this social is not play, but to share time together. This will be a very casual day & evening, so feel free to come on over in your casual clothes! PLEASE RSVP with the dish you intend to bring to august@sfcitadel.org with "Thanksgiving" in the subject line. 4 VOLUNTEERS ARE ALSO NEEDED to help clean afterwards if you prefer to clean rather than cook.
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Friday November 23rd
We are Closed !! To full to get up !
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Friday November 30th
Sedusa's Sanctuary

Start Time: 8:00 PM

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Mistress August Knight and Maestra Cheyenne present

Sedusa's Sanctuary

Friday, November 30th, 2007

8PM to 1AM

Join us for a night of Female Empowerment at the SF Citadel! Surround yourself with devastating Dominant Women and their male and female guests. Sedusa's is a gathering that is intended to maximize Her pleasure, to provide the sanctuary She needs- and deserves!

The evening will include:

8:30PM-9:30PM- Formal tea with the Northern California Ladies Tea and Discussion Society, facilitated by Domina, the Frugal Domme

10PM- Powerful Whipping Circle led by Cleo Dubois

Dominant women and accompanied subs pay $20 each

Unaccompanied subs will be asked to pay $30 each

Volunteer for one hour for free admission! E-mail SedusaS@gmail.com

Membership required and always available at the door for just $10 (1 year membership)

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FYI Club EROS is releasing a new safe sex/health back pocket resource for gay men

nerdpunkcub — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 23:22:52 GMT

EROS Releases New Gay Sex Resource at Annual Member Appreciation Day

SAN FRANCISCO – The venerable and popular safe sex club, EROS at 2051 Market Street in San Francisco, is celebrating their 15th Anniversary by rolling out a new back pocket guide to gay sexual health. The postcard size resource was developed during the summer, utilizing an intern from Antioch College who is a graduate of the SF Sex Information training.

In recent years, EROS has relied upon educational and health marketing from community partners, such as STOP AIDS Project, SF Department of Public Health, and the SF AIDS Foundation. “We’ll continue to use those resources,” said Ken Rowe, Director of Community Relations and Education at EROS, “but after 15 years, we’ve heard some specific questions come up over and over again, and we wanted to address them.”

Owing a lot to previous grass roots efforts such as those from the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgences, STOP AIDS Project, and St. James Infirmary this new resource brings the focus of self care back to basics.

The card is entitled “A Safer Sex Guide for Gay Men” and specifically covers “Be Good to Your Body”, “Know Your Boundaries”, “Get Tested and Communicate”, “Protect Yourself and Play Safe” and specifically covers Safe Sex when visiting a sex club.

Besides being distributed to everyone coming in on their Thanksgiving Day Members Appreciation Day, the card will be distributed at EROS, throughout the community and on a new section of the www.erossf.com website.

EROS Factoid
Since January 2007, over 1000 copies of the 8 page booklet “Safer Sex for Transguys” have been distributed by Trannywood Pictures, a project of EROS – the Center for Safe Sex which can be viewed at www.trannywoodpictures.com.

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Dream Big - just curious

CaptainErotica — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 20:59:38 GMT

Imagine for a moment that the Center For Sex and Culture had a 100 million dollar budget

What would you want to see at the CFSC? What sorts of programs? Services? What sort of facility would it be in? What would you do if you were on the team to spend an

I am asking this as a mere exercise in creativity. This is in no way any commentary on the extant state of the Center...

It is just a game to play where we imagine a world where Sex and Culture got more money than the army did...

~Namaste~
Your Friendly Moderator

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ask the submissive

lightbringer — Mon, 05 Nov 2007 17:23:33 GMT

The Society of Janus, a well respected pansexual kink organization here in San Francisco is reaching out to the community at large for this upcoming panel discussion, moderated by one of our own. Please take a moment to consider this event:

Janus Presents: "Ask the bottom", an evening of Q&A with a cross- selection of local personalities on the bottom/submissive/slave/boy/girl/ property side of the SM Power continuum.

Tuesday, November 13
SF Citadel
8:00pm - 10:00pm (Doors open at 7:00pm)
$5 for Janus Members, $15 for non-members (you do not
need to be a member to attend)

What motivates a person to walk the path of slavery? What does a submissive want? What joys do those on the bottoming end of the equation receive from their relationships - and what frustrations? What are the differences that distinguish bottom, slave, boy/girl, submissive, proeprty, and how on earth do we come to those definitions?

Ever wanted to ask questions like these, or others? Then this is an opportunity to pick the brains of an awesome and distinguished line-
up of local SM community teachers, players, mentors and activists.

We have a terrifically diverse panel for you: jody / patrick / boyjean / mercedes / andrea / slavebill have all agreed to answer your questions and share their thoughts and motivations on why they do what they do. bethie Hope O will facilitate the questions and keep the discussion moving smoothly.

This will be a moderated discussion panel, with the opportunity to submit written inquiries anonymously as well as ask your questions
directly. Please join us for this rare opportunity to delve into the mind of these mysterious and intelligent people. You may also send
questions about the event or questions to be discussed at the event to programs at soj dot org

Bethie Hope O identifies as a service-oriented slave and adult little girl. She is very blessed to be a ollared slave to her Daddy for the past 2 years. Bethie believes in creating open, supportive communities and is active in both the BDSM and age play communities. She is honored to be an officer in the Society of Janus and she is the creator and moderator of Submissive Safe Space; a monthly discussion group comprised of like minded submissives and slaves. On-line Bethie moderates discussion groups for age play, submission and survivors of abuse and trauma. She lives in the East Bay area with her Daddy, four dogs, 2 turtles and an obscene quantity of stuffed animals. Her favorite crayon is cornflower blue, unsharpened.

slavebill has been an active member of the Leather Community for almost 20 years and is in his 12th year of service to his Master. he is a co-founder of the San Francisco chapter of the Defenders, has served on the Steering Committee of the Leathermen's Discussion Group and has participated in many workshops including Leather Levi Weekend, the San Francisco boys of Leather, and the Society of Janus. he was a co-sponsor of the Leather Traditions' Service Weekend held last May. In addition to being a 24x7 non-live-in slave, he has a non-leather partner of 25+ years who is understanding and accepting of bill's calling to service as a slave.

Steve Ward has been a member of the Bay Area Leather / kink community for 10 years. He joined the San Francisco boys of Leather in 2002, and was mentored by many of the more prominent Bay Area Dominants and submissives. Steve serves the 15 Association, as member of the Fraternal Committee and Membership Coordinator. He is also President of the Defenders San Francisco, is a steering committee member of the Leathermen’s Discussion Group, and a representative to the San Francisco Leather Forum. Steve has been involved with Leather-Levi Week-end from 2003 through 2006, on the Spirituality Committee, and organized their annual Cocktail Party to welcome newcomers to the community. In his spare time, Steve is a committee member of the upcoming Leather Leadership Conference 12, to be held in 2008 in San Francisco, and is on a newly-formed Bay Area ad hoc committee of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.
Steve is 55, single…..and always looking for new opportunities.

patrick was a late bloomer to BDSM. Growing up in a Catholic household in a small, rural Southern town, he had no clue that including hot wax, needles and rope to his youthful explorations of his body meant he was masochistic; it just felt good. Fast-forward to Folsom Street Fair 2003, where his heart melted and his cock hardened watching a Daddy flog His boy. Finally, after reading the "Beauty Series" pushed him to the point of no return, he had his first scene and was introduced to his boy-self. Since entering the public scene, he has had the good fortune never to have served a Dominant unworthy of his submission, and twice has proudly worn the collars of exceptional Men. Currently, he is a slave-in-training to Master Patrick Mulcahey, whom he knows loves and treasures him. he believes in the importance of giving back to his community, and when his work schedule and Master allow, enjoys volunteering at leather events.

andrea Arkouda started her lifestyle journey in 2003 in search of a relationship in which trust was valued above all else. For her, service and obedience are the avenues to achieving a deep interpersonal connection, and completion. she served her first Master for two years, and is now in service to and wears the collar of consideration of Eric Arkouda. With him, she lives a 24/7 M/s lifestyle, and together they host the San Francisco D/s Discussion Group.

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Erotic Breath Control survey still up

Kemi — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 06:33:07 GMT

Hey all, I've been told to get more non-straight sexual orientations (really, just more participants overall) for my survey before I'm allowed to close it and start crunching numbers. Thank you so much to everyone who's already taken it. Please take the time to complete it and pass it on to anyone over 18.

The survey is available at : tinyurl.com/2rjebh
The password is: final survey

Cheers!
Kemi/Kathryn Ando

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November 07 schedule

moondragon — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 01:58:49 GMT

Lots going on in November, including a batch of great events sponsored by others. Of special note: the Generation FIVE fundraiser honoring the incredible work of Staci Haines, who brought sex-positivity to the movement to support survivors of sexual abuse. That event is on November 8. And the following Sunday we'll gather to congratulate Bay Area Bisexual Network for a big 20 years of activism and community support. Speaking of support, we have a rare chance to get together with filmmakers Amy Jo Goddard and Julie Carlson on November 16 to learn about (and contribute to) their project At Your Cervix: a film dedicated to making pelvic exams respectful and pain-free. Doors open and schmoozing starts at 7:30, and we'll start the talk and clip show at 8. Please join us, and spread the word!

You've seen this paragraph before, but if you haven't clicked the link yet, please do:
Still trying to find our mystery woman from Kink Ink 2006, which I wrote a note about last time. Please visit http://sexandculture.org/pages/KinkInk.html -- it's a special page on our website with a pic of the last person we are trying to identify from the photo session done that night. If you have ANY idea who this woman might be and how to reach her, please let me know, or ask her to get in touch with me at carol@sexandculture.org. Without her ID, the images Carlos Batts took that night of his wife April Flores (and their whole new movie) may have to be canned. We really hope to help them contact everyone, and the women in the pic is the last person we have yet to find. Thank you!

And finally, Nude Aid is just around the corner -- more about it next time, but I'd love to hear from any artists or models who'd like to participate. (Nude Aid, our big winter benefit, features artists doing live art from live models, and participants get to take home the art! It's more fun than a barrel of Salvador Dali.)

Saturday and Sunday, November 3rd and 4th 10am-6pm -- INNER BEAUTY RETREAT for women (with Danielle & Celeste)

Wherever we look we see messages stating that we are not good enough. We are made to believe that if only we weighed less, had less cellulite, or used the perfect face cream to demolish wrinkles, we would suddenly be happy with ourselves and receive all of the love, attraction, and affection we deserve. But all the beauty treatments in the world will never turn a woman into a confident, glowing, and attractive goddess.

In this 2-day retreat, we invite you to pamper yourself with a real inner beauty makeover. You will learn to get in touch with your erotic essence and connect with your body, your desires, and your sensuality. By fully embracing this transformation, you will unfold into the passionate, beautiful, and sensual woman that you have always wanted to be and truly are inside. Erotic empowerment is the most powerful tool you can have to connect with your true self, find your voice, speak your truth and live your life to its fullest potential.

Tuesday November 6, 7-9:30 pm -- TAOIST EROTIC MASSAGE FOR WOMEN

Experience the power of sacred sexuality in this hands-on, clothes-off workshop. This 2.5 hour workshop will focus on the female as receiver. Women must attend with a partner. This workshop welcomes givers of any sex/gender identity.

We will practice a series of conscious breathwork techniques and Taoist erotic massage, which can lead to extended, full-body orgasm and an altered mind-state conducive to spiritual insights. Honestly, if you're looking to get off, this isn't for you – this is a spiritual, erotic practice that stimulates and spreads erotic energy throughout the body. It is very hot, but it isn't sex as you normally think of it. After the introduction and demonstration, we will practice the breathwork, and you will be guided through a series of different genital massage strokes. Participants will then have an opportunity to give or receive a 40 minute massage with integrated breathwork and coaching. There is no sexual interaction between the giver and receiver except for the massage itself, and all boundaries will be respected.

*Friday, November 9th, 7 pm -- ASK THE DOCTORS: FELLATIO -- Free!
GV Weekend Event. Ask the Doctors presents: Fellatio! Our resident staff sexologist Dr. Carol Queen and Dr. Robert Lawrence will explore and explain everything you ever wanted to know, but were afraid to ask. Everyone’s invited, so come on in and learn what there is to know about…fellatio!

Monday, 11/12, 7:30-8:30 door -- the SF JACKS

For more about this fellowship of men who like to j/o in the company of other like-minded men, visit http://www.sfjacks.com/

*Friday, 11/16, 7:30 pm -- AT YOUR CERVIX Soiree and Support Night

Join us in welcoming Amy Jo Goddard and Julie Carlson, whose movie-in-progress is At Your Cervix: a film dedicated to making pelvic exams respectful and pain-free. The filmmakers will come with clips to show and will tell the story of their unique, important project. No charge -- spread the word! We WILL ask anyone who's able to donate to the project so they can finish the film. If you can't make it to the soiree but want to support this great project, see below.

"At Your Cervix" is about the ways students learn to perform breast and pelvic exams in U.S. medical and nursing institutions. Featuring Gynecological Teaching Associates (GTAs), the story will illuminate the history of breast and pelvic exams and the reasons so many women have such negative experiences with these annual visits to their health care providers. Many students learn these invasive exams on women who are under anesthesia while in teaching hospitals -- often without their consent! This film will expose this unethical practice and educate viewers about their rights as patients. Our hope is that the film will be a call to action, so that women, armed with the knowledge that these exams should be comfortable, will feel empowered to demand it; and that providers will want to provide the most comfortable and competent pelvic exams possible.

We need money to finish the film. IFP (The Independent Feature Project) has agreed to be our fiscal sponsor, so you can donate tax-free through IFP. Any amount you can give will help. To give you an idea: $25 buys a pack of mini DV tapes; $50 buys us DVDs so we can send copies of our trailer to funding agencies and festivals; $100 buys us 2 hours of a cameraperson's labor; $400 will buy us one hour of a professional post-production session; $2000 would buy us a week of editing.

To support the project, please go to our website at www.atyourcervixmovie.com and click on the "support us" link. You can make a tax-deductible donation by downloading the form and sending it to IFP with your check, or if you don't care about the tax break, just donate to us through PayPal. Whatever you donate, absolutely 100% of the money we receive will go towards the completion of the film.

At CSC: 1519 Mission Suite 1. Doors open and schmoozing starts at 7:30, and we'll start the talk and clip show at 8.

Saturday, November 17th 9:30am-5:30pm -- BECOME AN EXTRAORDINARY LOVER (for men who love women) with Danielle & Celeste

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Seeking queer triads for research!

sunny — Sat, 22 Sep 2007 22:29:28 GMT

My name is Sunny. I am a graduate student in the Sexuality Studies program at San Francisco State University. I am conducting research on polyamory. The aim of my study is to explore how individuals in queer polyamorous triads discuss love in their relationships. I am in search of individuals in queer, long-term (one year or longer), polyamorous triads to interview. Individuals must identify themselves and their relationships as queer, and the triads must be three people who are all sexually and romantically involved with one another.

Participating in this study will entail a 45-90 minute one-on-one interview at a comfortable and private location convenient for both of us to discuss your experiences and feelings of love while in a triad.

If you are currently in a queer, long-term (one year or longer), triad relationship and are interested in participating in the study, please contact me!

smnordmarken@yahoo.com
(415) 516-0908

I am currently seeking people to interview! Please contact me as soon as possible if you would like to participate.

Thank you!
Sunny

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Primal (San Francisco) seeks alternative performers

edukink — Sat, 01 Sep 2007 07:07:17 GMT

We host Primal parties every few months in San Francisco.

We have a unique, hand-picked audience of 200+.
We seek alternative performances:
http://edukink.org/Primal/performers.php

The event is private, erotic, and aimed at Queer, Bi, Trans, and other non-mainstream sexualities:
http://edukink.org/Primal

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Last Week to Register for EC Polyamory Conference

Chewey — Fri, 31 Aug 2007 22:44:02 GMT

The conference is a little over a week away and we do have space
available for this fabulous weekend. Complete information is
available below and the schedule is now available at
http://www.lovemore.com/News/QuickNews.asp?cmd=VIEW&articleid=16

Join us for an enriching and educational weekend at Loving More's 2007
East Coast Polyamory conference and retreat. The annual East Coast
National Conference is held at the beautiful Easton Mountain Retreat
Center in upstate New York. Enjoy hiking on 175 acres, soak in the hot
tub, relax in the sauna, and enjoy the wonderful food and hospitality
of the Easton Mountain Staff.

The late registration member price is $465 for the four day three
night retreat.

Price includes
• Three nights shared lodging
• Delicious Meals (breakfast lunch and dinner)
• Workshops
• Playshops
• Use of Easton Mountain facilities

Three day two night option is also available for $395 for Friday
evening through Sunday. We offer a $35 discount for people who choose
to campout.

Special offers available:
• Group Discount when three or more attendees register together
receive $30 off each registration (good only for the full
Thursday-Sunday).
• Work Exchange; on a budget? Work three hours helping the staff and
attend for only $325

Register at www.lovemore.com or contact us 303-543-7540,
lovingmore@lovemore.com

This is a chance to immerse yourself in polyamory community, connect
with wonderful poly people from the US and overseas and make new
friends. Have fun sharing knowledge, and support and escape to a
magical place called Loving More.

This is the perfect place to learn for people who are polyamorous, new
to poly, poly curious, or just exploring relationships.

Experience
• Connecting with people of like mind from across the country
• A place to be your authentic self
• Exploring possibilities in relationships
• Music, dance and play time
• Community building
• An opportunity to explore outside your comfort zone in a safe
environment
• Heart and mind expanding workshops taught by trained professionals

Our experienced trained facilitators bring years of knowledge in
relationship skills, communication, personal growth and sexuality that
build relationship skills weather your single, coupled or have many
partners.

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New Tribe Forming: Sensual DO Buddies

pattiluv — Mon, 27 Aug 2007 16:21:25 GMT

Hi there,

I am forming a new tribe, for those of us looking specifically to discuss techniques of expanded orgasm, Morehouse DOing, Deliberate Orgasm, Orgasmic Meditation, G-spot Massage, Sensual Massage, and Sexological Bodywork.

Out of this, people can hopefully find partners for practice. Either one-way or two-way giving and receiving, and, no strings attached. Could be one time only, or, lead to more.

Here's the link: http://tribes.tribe.net/sensualdobuddies

Please come check us out if you are looking for practice partners, and introduce yourself.

Warmly, Patti

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I do not have a Disorder

Max-Voltage-SF — Mon, 26 Mar 2007 04:59:46 GMT

Yesterday, I was reading the Wikipedia entry on Intersex Activist Cheryl Chase. (tinyurl.com/2avpma) . At the bottom of the entry, I noticed this "She also lobbies for the abolition of the word Hermaphrodite in favor of Disorders of Sex Development."

As an intersexed person, my first reaction is "Fuck that!"

Gender variants are common in nature. It's not a disorder. Last thing Intersexed folk need is yet another pathologizing of intersexed folks.

Consider people with variant hair color. Take for example, people with natural Red Hair. This uncommon, but natural variant occurs in approximately 2% of the population. Intersexed folks occur as between 1% - 4% of the population (depending on definations & which studies you look at). Uncommon does not equal disorder or deformed.

So-called "ambiguous genitalia" are not a deformity. They are just part of the curve. Give the people who have the atypical bodies a chance to grow up & decide for themselves if they feel a need to change their bodies. If we treat people who are different as normal, the cost to us is minimal, and the benefit significant. Conversely, If we treat people who are atypical as freaks, the cost to us is higher & the damge inflicted is significant.

These terms (such fill-in-the-blank disorder) as are used by doctors to make decisions with parents of children born with "ambiguous genitalia". A child with a disorder might need surgery to "fix" that child. A child that is atypical is more likely to be able to grow up intact & make that person's own choice about if they feel a need for surgery.

Don't like the term "hemaphrodite?? Well, I personally find "Disorders of Sex Development", MORE judgemental.

What's wrong with "Variant or Atypical Sex Development"? I think it's a lot more neutral & does not patholigize gender variant folks.

What do you think?

Max

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Unnatural Sex Acts

Swaz — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 05:02:16 GMT

I think we can all agree that oral sex is not even in the same league as fisting or watersports yet in the South, or Georgia at least, oral sex is still a punishable offense. Since you guys have a title that sounded so officious, I thought I'd see if this issue has been discussed or if you keep any sort of records on prosecutions for this abominable crime?

Here's what I turned-up from a quick search:

ORAL SEX

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Oral sex is perhaps the issue that causes the most problems in a legal sense.

Sodomy is legally defined as homosexual behavior in most cases, but in some states its meaning extends to include anything seen as "deviate sexual conduct" and hence unnatural. In states like Kansas, Missouri and Indiana, oral sex is classified as sodomy.

Georgia, the state where the last Olympics Games were held and where without a doubt oral sex was commonplace during that period, the act between two people, even if married, could result in no less than a year and no more than 20 years imprisonment. Let's face it, it is doubtful many were even aware of such a law and since no one was charged for doing it, is such a law even necessary? Can such laws be abused by some to get their own way?

There was a case featured in the November 1996 issue of "Marie Claire" involving an Atlanta wife who tried to have her soon-to-be ex-husband charged with rape. She had persuaded her then hubby to tie her up and later used the bondage as a means of proving that the sex had not been consensual. Her sister came forward and informed the court of the plot against the man, but there was another twist in the story.

Although the man was acquitted on the rape charge, the man was sentenced to five years in jail for having performed oral sex on the woman. He had admitted to that during the course of the case and so he was charged and sentenced under Georgia law.

http://www.journalism.sfsu.edu/flux/gSpot/sexLaw.html

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Crime, Punishment and the Ridiculous

Places where oral sex is illegal: Alabama, Arizona, Florida, Idaho, Kansas, Louisiana, Massachusetts, Minnesota, Mississippi, Georgia, North and South Carolina, Oklahoma, Oregon, Rhode Island, Utah, Virginia and Washington D.C.

An erection that shows through a man's clothing is illegal in: Arizona, Florida, Idaho, Indiana, Massachusetts, Mississippi, Nebraska, Nevada, New York, Ohio, Oklahoma, Oregon, South Dakota, Tennessee, Utah, Vermont, Washington D.C. and Wisconsin.

In Georgia those charged and convicted for either oral or anal sex can be sentenced to no less than one year and no more than 20 years imprisonment.

In Missouri sexually deviant behavior between people of the same sex is classified as a class A misdemeanor.

In Harrisburg, Pennsylvania it is against the law to have sex with a truck driver in a tollbooth. (There's every woman's fantasy gone down the drain).

In Nevada it is illegal to have sex without a condom.

In Willowdale, Oregon it is against the law for a husband to talk to dirty in his wife's ear during sex.

In Clinton, Oklahoma it is illegal to masturbate while watching two people have sex in a car.

In Washington State there is a law against having sex with a virgin under any circumstances (including the wedding night!).

In Newcastle, Wyoming it is illegal to have sex in a butcher shop's meat freezer.

In Washington D.C. there is a law against having sex in any position other than face to face.

Animals are not exempt from the law either and here are three of the most ridiculous:

In Kingsville, Texas there is a law against two pigs having sex on Kingsville airport property.

In Fairbanks, Alaska it is illegal for mooses to have sex on the city sidewalks.

Lastly, even liberated California proves to be not quite so liberal for the animals...In Ventura County cats and dogs may not have sex without a permit.

http://www.journalism.sfsu.edu/flux/gSpot/sexLaw.html
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Feel free to add to this as I'm sure there are alot more stupid laws and prude prosecutors out there.

Swaz

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Slap & Tickle Brunch, 08/12/07, NOON – 2pm!

Slap & Tickle — Fri, 10 Aug 2007 17:12:49 GMT

Slap & Tickle Brunch, 08/12/07, NOON – 2pm!

Slap & Tickle B.D.S.M. – Brunch and Drinks on Sunday Morning, August 12, 2007
A Slap & Tickle Event hosted by Jen

Check out the invite: http://sanfrancisco.tribe.net/event/Slap-Tickle-Brunch-081207-NOON-2pm/san-francisco-ca/ab2a389b-f9ab-45b4-9f0a-bdc171f4e314?nextpage=%24nextpage

Please RSVP, by clicking the ORANGE BUTTON in the UPPER LEFT CORNER!

Join our kinky crew for good food and great conversation in a relaxed Sunday Morning environment.

For more information on Slap & Tickle, check out:
http://tribes.tribe.net/slapntickle
www.slapntickle.org

Sunday, August 12, 2007
At Park Chow
1238 9th Avenue, San Francisco
From NOON to 2pm!

NOTE: This is a free event, but any food/drink ordered is at your own cost.

For those of you taking public transit:
the N-Judah, 43, 44, 71, 71L, 16 AX and 16 BX all run by 9th & Irving. Hope to see you there!

Slap & Tickle Brunch, 08/12/07, NOON – 2pm!

Slap & Tickle B.D.S.M. – Brunch and Drinks on Sunday Morning, August 12, 2007
A Slap & Tickle Event hosted by Jen

Please RSVP, by clicking the ORANGE BUTTON in the UPPER LEFT CORNER!

Join our kinky crew for good food and great conversation in a relaxed Sunday Morning environment.

For more information on Slap & Tickle, check out:
http://tribes.tribe.net/slapntickle
www.slapntickle.org

Sunday, August 12, 2007
At Park Chow
1238 9th Avenue, San Francisco
From NOON to 2pm!

NOTE: This is a free event, but any food/drink ordered is at your own cost.

For those of you taking public transit:
the N-Judah, 43, 44, 71, 71L, 16 AX and 16 BX all run by 9th & Irving. Hope to see you there!

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A fundfaiser for Mark Leno's run for State Senate.

Phil — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 02:30:25 GMT

Please Forward this to any Leather Person on your list:

The Leather Community of San Francisco invites you to a fundraiser for Assemblyman Mark Leno

To support his run for State Senate

Mark is one of the few elected officials who shows his pride of the Leather Community by attending our events, honoring us with proclamations and contributing to our fundraisers.

He's been there for us, let's show him some of our love and appreciation.

At the home of

Steven Gaynes and Richard Bolingbroke

Co-hosted by Mama Reinhardt & Audrey Joseph

Saturday August 18 2007
8:00 p.m. - 10:00 p.m.
2356 15th Street @ Castro

San Francisco

Please RSVP and send your checks for $3600 or less to McKinley + Pillows
phone 916/441-6855, fax 916/441-6857 or email carrie@mckinleypillows.com

à I/We will attend. Please accept this contribution of $ .

à I/We will not be able to attend but please accept this contribution of $ .

Name Organization

Address City/State/Zip

Phone Fax Email

Please make checks payable to: Mark Leno for Senate (ID# 1293202)
and mail contributions c/o McKinley + Pillows Fundraising
921 11th Street, Suite 904, Sacramento, CA 95814

Contributions or gifts to this organization are not tax deductible. New provisions of the CA Political Reform Act passed under Prop. 34 impose limits on the contributions allowable for state legislative candidates. This request does not seek a contribution in excess of applicable limits or from prohibited sources. An individual, union, or political action committee, association, committee, partnership, business or corporation may contribute a maximum of $3,600 to the committee per election. A registered Small Contributor may contribute a maximum of $7,200 to the committee per election. Paid for by Mark Leno for Senate 2008, ID# 1295340. Produced in-house.

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Missionary position is the only position

Swaz — Thu, 26 Jul 2007 22:58:22 GMT

Women should never be on top. This is an insult to God.

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Sexy "sex-hole" sheets

Swaz — Wed, 01 Aug 2007 02:23:42 GMT

I'm not sure if it's the Quakers, or Amish, or Minnonites but one of them has this hang-up about bodies touching during sex. So their way to get their fuck on and NOT be bad is to put a sheet between them with this sex-hole thing that must make the women look like she's about to be operated on. You know how they cover everything up before surgery? Anyone here ever try the sexy sex-hole sheet-thing? It might be nice if it was 100 degrees out.

Just geting the oppinion of all of you sexperts.

Swaz

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Self Pleasuring for Women Class this Sunday

Nellie — Wed, 25 Jul 2007 14:36:23 GMT

Self-Pleasuring for Women: Exploring the Source
July 29, 2007 10am – 3pm
At One Taste, 1074 Folsom Street, San Francisco

This hands-on workshop will explore our erotic potential as women through masturbation. Through breath, movement, and practice we will explore our anatomy of pleasure, and a range of self-pleasuring exercises you can take home. Inspired by Betty Dodson, the “grandmother of masturbation,” and her work with the Center for Sex and Culture, Nellie advocates the power of masturbation as a key to pleasure. This workshop will provide a safe space to explore your self-sexuality and share in the diverse experiences of fellow women. Please bring a robe, towel or blanket and any toys with you.

Bio:
Building on the success of Self Pleasuring: Taking the Covers off Masturbation, Nellie Wilson, masturbation advocate, student of Sexological Bodywork and sex educator; Nellie brings her curiosity, personal explorations and skill as a facilitator to creating a safe space to explore the depth and breadth of erotic experience.

Cost & Registration:
$75
A vegetarian lunch will be provided at the class for an additional $10.

To register call One Taste at (415) 503-1100 or go to http://www.onetastesf.com and go to the calendar, click on the class and register online.

For more information please contact Nellie Wilson at newnellie0@gmail.com.

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My Men Will Do What You Tell Them!

Cindy — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 09:57:14 GMT

My Men Will Do What You Tell Them!

Good boys!

Male Sex Slaves For Women
http://tribes.tribe.net/sexslaves

The rules they've agreed to:

All males in this group must follow the sexual commands of the women in the group that are within a 50-mile driving distance. If she says, “come over to my place and take off your clothes”, you do so even if she wants you to get naked in front of a room full of people. If she says, “give me a massage and then lick my pussy”, you do so. If she rolls over and says, “now, lick my butt”, you do so. If she says, “pleasure my friend,” you pleasure her friend.

Within this group only the females are allowed to make any kind of sexual requests or offers. Male slaves must have a picture of yourself in your profile and it also must contain your location. These rules do not apply to the women in the group.

There is also a private "Male Sex Slaves for Women" tribe set up for women, and the males at this site are also their sex slaves.

This Tribe is strictly set up for free exchanges. Fem-doms offering services that are tied to “financial domination” will have their advertisements deleted. Likewise any other advertisements for pay such as for pay porn-sites, professional dating services, professional strippers (male or female), etc. will be deleted.

Nothing involving pain, poop, minors, or that is unsafe is required of our male sex slaves, but all safe and sane sexual commands from our women are mandatory for men to stay in the tribe. Have fun!

Male Sex Slaves For Women
http://tribes.tribe.net/sexslaves

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SM Flea and Fandango

Phil — Sun, 22 Jul 2007 07:18:47 GMT

Hi everyone

It’s that time again!

Mark your calendars. Lady Thorns SM Community Exchange and Fandango is on August 12th, just a couple of weeks away.

An afternoon at the Bizarre Flea, topped off with a Fandango party at the SF Citadel, will make for a really memorable day.

Come join us for a great day of socializing, shopping, playing and enjoying a San Francisco Leather Tradition.

If you are a vendor or know of a vendor, please forward this to them.

On August 12th, 2007:

Please join Lady Thorn, Kinky Crafts people, Artisans, Leather, Fetish and SM Community members on Sunday August 12th, for the second "SM Community Exchange" of 2007!

This is the original San Francisco Leather Swap Meet and has been going on since December of 1983.

Vendors range from many of the best toy makers in the country, artists, authors, photographers, fetish clothing makers, personal collections and one of a kind items for the connoisseurs in us.

Socialize with leather/fetish folk at this three times a year event.

Date: Sunday August 12, 2007
Address: 942 Mission Street
(between 5th and 6th Streets)
Doors open at 2:00 PM
Admission to the Bizarre Flea is only $5.00

Vendor Info: contact Lady Thorn @ 415/642-1448
Vender Set up: 12:30 PM

Easy parking at the 5th and Mission garage.

Continue the fun by joining us at Fandango.

We will weave our magic inside the SF Citadel with our special lighting and music, providing you with an environment where your energy can soar.

Admission will be available at the Fandango table inside the SM Community Exchange or at the door.

We provide special food, soft drinks, safer sex supplies and a wonderful fun place to play.

Please bring your toys (old and new) and hot energy.

Admission: $20.00 at the SM Flea, $25.00 at the door.

Sunday, August 12, 2007
6:30PM to 12:00 PM
The SF Citadel
1277 Mission Street
San Francisco, Ca 94103

Work exchange is always needed, contact us for work exchange please.

For further info or to help with the party, please check out our
websites at:

www.sfcitadel.org
www.smflea.com

PS: the next Exchange and Fandango will be December 9th, 2007.

Usually held the second Sunday in April, August and December.

Thanks

P.S Please forward this to all who you feel should know about it.
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Cecilia Tan in SF 7/8/07

st0fkillers — Sun, 08 Jul 2007 07:49:37 GMT

Cecilia Tan, author of "Telepaths Don't Need Safewords," and publisher of Circlet Press, will be at the Polk St Good Vibrations from 2-4pm, July 8th. Admission is $20 cash, check, or MC/Visa. Short notice, I know, but I thought as many local folks out here as can attend might like to go. For those who are unaware, Circlet Press publishes science-fiction erotica, and through it, Ms Tan is responsible for over forty anthologies. Come learn, be entertained, and meet someone quite worth knowing.

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Amputees

theCryptofishist — Tue, 26 Jun 2007 17:43:33 GMT

In April I joined the club. I'm working on learning the necessary life and body skills to continue being a human being in this sociaty.
I don't know when I'll want to be sexual again. but I have some concerns. I'm not sure I want to have sexual activity with people who fetishize the condition. I want to be fucked for myself. I'm a little scared of the vulnerabilty of having sex without legs. Thoughts?

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Slap & Tickle Brunch, 07/08/07, NOON – 2pm!

Slap & Tickle — Fri, 06 Jul 2007 19:53:05 GMT

Slap & Tickle Brunch, 07/08/07, NOON – 2pm!

Slap & Tickle B.D.S.M. – Brunch and Drinks on Sunday Morning, July 8, 2007
A Slap & Tickle Event hosted by Jen

Check out the invite: http://sanfrancisco.tribe.net/event/Slap-Tickle-Brunch-070807-NOON-2pm/san-francisco-ca/c74534c1-beb1-4525-9aa0-5b31e65e03b6?nextpage=http%3A%2F%2Fsanfrancisco.tribe.net%2Ftemplate%2FHomeListings.vm

Please RSVP, by clicking the ORANGE BUTTON in the UPPER LEFT CORNER!

Join our kinky crew for good food and great conversation in a relaxed Sunday Morning environment.

For more information on Slap & Tickle, check out:
http://tribes.tribe.net/slapntickle
www.slapntickle.org

Sunday, July 8, 2007
At Park Chow
1238 9th Avenue, San Francisco
From NOON to 2pm!

NOTE: This is a free event, but any food/drink ordered is at your own cost.

For those of you taking public transit:
the N-Judah, 43, 44, 71, 71L, 16 AX and 16 BX all run by 9th & Irving. Hope to see you there!

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Women's Masturbation class July 29

Nellie — Tue, 03 Jul 2007 03:26:01 GMT

Self-Pleasuring for Women: Exploring the Source
July 29, 2007 10am – 3pm
At One Taste, 1074 Folsom Street, San Francisco

This hands-on workshop will explore our erotic potential as women through masturbation. Through breath, movement, and practice we will explore our anatomy of pleasure, and a range of self-pleasuring exercises you can take home. Inspired by Betty Dodson, the “grandmother of masturbation,” and her work with the Center for Sex and Culture, Nellie advocates the power of masturbation as a key to pleasure. This workshop will provide a safe space to explore your self-sexuality and share in the diverse experiences of fellow women. Please bring a robe, towel or blanket and any toys with you.

Bio:
Building on the success of Self Pleasuring: Taking the Covers off Masturbation, Nellie Wilson, masturbation advocate, student of Sexological Bodywork and sex educator; Nellie brings her curiosity, personal explorations and skill as a facilitator to creating a safe space to explore the depth and breadth of erotic experience.

Cost & Registration:
$60 if registered by July 20, $75 there after
A vegetarian lunch will be provided at the class for an additional $10.

To register call One Taste at (415) 503-1100 or go to http://www.onetastesf.com and go to the calendar, click on the class and register online.

For more information please contact Nellie Wilson at newnellie0@gmail.com.

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Lesbian Victims sentenced for self-defense in Hate Crime

-robin — Tue, 03 Jul 2007 00:38:32 GMT

FREE THEM NOW!
Lesbians sentenced for self-defense
All-white jury convicts Black women

By Imani Henry
New York

Published Jun 21, 2007 2:58 AM
On June 14, four African-American women—Venice Brown (19), Terrain Dandridge (20), Patreese Johnson (20) and Renata Hill (24)—received sentences ranging from three-and-a-half to 11 years in prison. None of them had previous criminal records. Two of them are parents of small children.

Their crime? Defending themselves from a physical attack by a man who held them down and choked them, ripped hair from their scalps, spat on them, and threatened to sexually assault them—all because they are lesbians.

The mere fact that any victim of a bigoted attack would be arrested, jailed and then convicted for self-defense is an outrage. But the length of prison time given further demonstrates the highly political nature of this case and just how racist, misogynistic, anti-gay, anti-youth and anti-worker the so-called U.S. justice system truly is.

The description of the events, reported below, is based on written statements by a community organization (FIERCE) that has made a call to action to defend the four women, verbal accounts from court observers and evidence from a surveillance camera.

The attack

On Aug. 16, 2006, seven young, African-American, lesbian-identified friends were walking in the West Village. The Village is a historic center for lesbian, gay, bi and trans (LGBT) communities, and is seen as a safe haven for working-class LGBT youth, especially youth of color.

As they passed the Independent Film Cinema, 29-year-old Dwayne Buckle, an African-American vendor selling DVDs, sexually propositioned one of the women. They rebuffed his advances and kept walking.

“I’ll f— you straight, sweetheart!” Buckle shouted. A video camera from a nearby store shows the women walking away. He followed them, all the while hurling anti-lesbian slurs, grabbing his genitals and making explicitly obscene remarks. The women finally stopped and confronted him. A heated argument ensued. Buckle spat in the face of one of the women and threw his lit cigarette at them, escalating the verbal attack into a physical one.

Buckle is seen on the video grabbing and pulling out large patches of hair from one of the young women. When Buckle ended up on top of one of the women, choking her, Johnson pulled a small steak knife out of her purse. She aimed for his arm to stop him from killing her friend.

The video captures two men finally running over to help the women and beating Buckle. At some point he was stabbed in the abdomen. The women were already walking away across the street by the time the police arrived.

Buckle was hospitalized for five days after surgery for a lacerated liver and stomach. When asked at the hospital, he responded at least twice that men had attacked him.

There was no evidence that Johnson’s kitchen knife was the weapon that penetrated his abdomen, nor was there any blood visible on it. In fact, there was never any forensics testing done on her knife. On the night they were arrested, the police told the women that there would be a search by the New York Police Department for the two men—which to date has not happened.

After almost a year of trial, four of the seven were convicted in April. Johnson was sentenced to 11 years on June 14.

Even with Buckle’s admission and the video footage proving that he instigated this anti-gay attack, the women were relentlessly demonized in the press, had trumped-up felony charges levied against them, and were subsequently given long sentences in order to send a clear resounding message—that self-defense is a crime and no one should dare to fight back.

Political backdrop of the case

Why were these young women used as an example? At stake are the billions of dollars in tourism and real estate development involved in the continued gentrification of the West Village. This particular incident happened near the Washington Square area—home of New York University, one of most expensive private colleges in the country and one of the biggest employers and landlords in New York City. The New York Times reported that Justice Edward J. McLaughlin used his sentencing speech to comment on “how New York welcomes tourists.” (June 17)

The Village is also the home of the Stonewall Rebellion, the three-day street battle against the NYPD that, along with the Compton Cafeteria “Riots” in California, helped launch the modern-day LGBT liberation movement in 1969. The Manhattan LGBT Pride march, one of the biggest demonstrations of LGBT peoples in the world, ends near the Christopher Street Piers in the Village, which have been the historical “hangout” and home for working-class trans and LGBT youth in New York City for decades.

Because of growing gentrification in recent years, young people of color, homeless and transgender communities, LGBT and straight, have faced curfews and brutality by police sanctioned by the West Village community board and politicians. On Oct. 31, 2006, police officers from the NYPD’s 6th Precinct indiscriminately beat and arrested several people of color in sweeps on Christopher Street after the Halloween parade.

Since the 1980s there has been a steady increase in anti-LGBT violence in the area, with bashers going there with that purpose in mind.

For trans people and LGBT youth of color, who statistically experience higher amounts of bigoted violence, the impact of the gentrification has been severe. As their once-safe haven is encroached on by real estate developers, the new white and majority heterosexual residents of the West Village then call in the state to brutalize them.

For the last six years the political LGBT youth group FIERCE has been at the forefront of mobilizing young people “to counter the displacement and criminalization of LGBTSTQ [lesbian, gay, bi, two spirit, trans, and queer] youth of color and homeless youth at the Christopher Street Pier and in Manhattan’s West Village.” (www.fiercenyc.org) FIERCE has also been the lead organization supporting the Jersey Seven and their families.

The trial and the media

Deemed a so-called “hate crime” against a straight man, every possible racist, anti-woman, anti-LGBT and anti-youth tactic was used by the entire state apparatus and media. Everything from the fact that they lived outside of New York, in the working-class majority Black city of Newark, N.J., to their gender expressions and body structures were twisted and dehumanized in the public eye and to the jury.

According to court observers, McLaughlin stated throughout the trial that he had no sympathy for these women. The jury, although they were all women, were all white. All witnesses for the district attorney were white men, except for one Black male who had several felony charges.

Court observers report that the defense attorneys had to put enormous effort into simply convincing the jury that they were “average women” who had planned to just hang out together that night. Some jurists asked why they were in the Village if they were from New Jersey. The DA brought up whether they could afford to hang out there—raising the issue of who has the right to be there in the first place.

The Daily News reporting was relentless in its racist anti-lesbian misogyny, portraying Buckle as a “filmmaker” and “sound engineer” preyed upon by a “lesbian wolf pack” (April 19) and a “gang of angry lesbians.” (April 13)

Everyone has been socialized by cultural archetypes of what it means to be a “man” or “masculine” and “woman” or “feminine.” Gender identity/expression is the way each indivdual chooses or not to express gender in their everyday lives, including how they dress, walk, talk, etc. Transgender people and other gender non-conforming people face oppression based on their gender expression/identity.

The only pictures shown in the Daily News were of the more masculine-appearing women. One of the most despiciable headlines in the Daily News, “‘I’m a man!’ lesbian growled during fight,” (April 13) was targeted against Renata Hill, who was taunted by Buckle because of her masculinity.

Ironically, Johnson, who was singled out by the judge as the “ringleader,” is the more feminine of the four. According to the New York Times, in his sentencing remarks, “Justice McLaughlin scoffed at the assertion made by ... Johnson, that she carried a knife because she was just 4-foot-11 and 95 pounds, worked nights and lived in a dangerous neighborhood.” He quoted the nursery rhyme, “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me.” (June 15)

All of the seven women knew and went to school with Sakia Gunn, a 19-year-old butch lesbian who was stabbed to death in Newark, N.J., in May 2003. Paralleling the present case, Gunn was out with three of her friends when a man made sexual advances to one of the women. When she replied that she was a lesbian and not interested, he attacked them. Gunn fought back and was stabbed to death.

“You can’t help but wonder that if Sakia Gunn had a weapon, would she be in jail right now?” Bran Fenner, a founding member and co-executive director of FIERCE, told Workers World. “If we don’t have the right to self-defense, how are we supposed to survive?”

National call to action

While racist killer cops continue to go without indictment and anti-immigrant paramilitary groups like the Minutemen are on the rise in the U.S., The Jersey Four sit behind bars for simply defending themselves against a bigot who attacked them in the Village.

Capitalism at its very core is a racist, sexist, anti-LGBT system, sanctioning state violence through cops, courts and its so-called laws. The case of the Jersey Four gives more legal precedence for bigoted violence to go unchallenged. The ruling class saw this case as a political one; FIERCE and other groups believe the entire progressive movement should as well.

Fenner said, “We are organizing in the hope that this wakes up all oppressed people and sparks a huge, broad campaign to demand freedom for the Jersey Four.”

FIERCE is asking for assistance for these young women, including pro-bono legal support, media contacts and writers, pen pals, financial support, and diverse organizational support. For details, visit www.fiercenyc.org.

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Deliciously foodie sex, and safe sex foods

Emma_DilEmma — Mon, 26 Mar 2007 08:09:20 GMT

So i'm doing some research on food and sex, not only in the fetishy way, but in the foodie kinda way.

so what is okay for kinky play? whats not? I've been doing some kinky catering things for friends and want to work on more reseach and expiramentation.

i'm collecting my own research and will post as consolidated.

but i'm throwing this out there for feed back

Cheers!
Chef_Dilemma

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Bush appointee for Surgeon General warns "gay sex is unnatural"

-robin — Sun, 17 Jun 2007 18:39:16 GMT

Gotta love the way that Bush is creating a legacy of hate in America that will last long beyond him...

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Blog Got a tip? WireTap blog June 8, 2007

Bush appointee warns: "gay sex is unnatural!"

This week the White House nominated a Kentucky doctor for the position of Surgeon General with a questionable history when it comes to human rights. Dr. James Holsinger, who also teaches teaches at the University of Kentucky, has made quite a name for himself in his crusade-like efforts to use science to justify medical and moral discrimination against the queer community.

In 1991, Holsinger published a report titled Pathophysiology of Male Homosexuality (PDF) which says, in part:

It is absolutely clear that anatomically and physiologically the alimentary and reproductive systems in humans are separate organ systems; i.e., the human does not have a cloaca. Likewise it is clear that even primitive cultures understand the nature of waste elimination, sexual intercourse, and the birth of children. Indeed our own children appear to intuitively understand these facts. I think we should note that these simple scientific facts are the same in any culture - patriarchal or matriarchal, modern or primitive, Jewish or gentile, etc. The anatomic and physiologic facts of alimentation and reproduction simply do not change based on any cultural setting...Therefore, based on the simplest known anatomy and physiology, when dealing with the complementarity of the human sexes, one can simply say, Res ipsa loquitur - the thing speaks for itself!

And like any dedicated "scholar", Holsinger hasn't just relegated his findings to the halls of academia. Homeboy even helped found a church dedicated to "healing" homosexuals. On its website, Hope Springs Community Church lists among its many 'recovery' programs offerings like Men's Sexual Integrity which helps men heal from "unhealthy sexual behaviors."

Obviously, human rights groups are outraged, but the Bush administration is defending its decision, saying that "Any new compilation of scientific information on health issues facing homosexual populations would have a substantially different focus."

Just one more example of the Bush administrations retrograde policies that seek to undermine over fifty years of legislative and social achievements in the U.S.

Jamilah King is WireTap's assistant editor.

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Queer & Intersexed - Where are they welcome? Where should they be welcome?

Max-Voltage-SF — Mon, 05 Feb 2007 01:57:03 GMT

I recently saw a flyer for an event, a fundraiser & was curious about
it. Based on the flyer, I was not certain who is or is not welcome.

Which got me to thinking further on this issue, as it pertains to me
(and people like me). You see, I am Intersexed. Approximately 1% of
the population is intersexed (source: ISNA website). So we are in
fact out there in far more numbers than many folks realise.

I know that the society I live in is a Gendered society. I had to
select a gender to have a Yahoo email address. But they only offered
male or female. I am neither.

I am not a man, I am not a woman, I am not Trans. I am Intersexed.
I am genetically intersexed. Furthermore, I as identify as an
intersexed person. I see my orientation as Queer. Indeed, I don't
actually see it as possible for me to be homosexual, hetrosexual or
bisexual.

There are Men's Events. Women's events. Trans events. I am none of
these things. I don't want to be a man. I don't want to be a woman.
I don't want to Transition. I am happy as I am. Both male and female.

I respect that different spaces & different parties have different
rules. And I do not want to make anyone else uncomfortable.

So.. where do I fit? Where do I belong. Where would I be imposing?

I thank you all in advance for your thoughts or input.

Max

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Hello. i have a big one...

Ross — Thu, 07 Jun 2007 16:29:27 GMT

... problem, that is.

Hi!

i've just joined so i wanted to introduce myself and also ask for some help from the experts here.

My name's Ross. i'm a writer on spirituality, love and relationships. You can check out some of my books, etc, here: www.thefourgates.com and some of the articles i've written on my Tribe page.

My colleague, Kate, is also a writer. Her last book was Va Va Voodoo and was about love, relationships, and.... well, Voodoo. Kate's a relationship counsellor and sex therapist, and also an initiate of the Haitian spiritual tradition (hence the book title). You can read up on her book at The Four Gates web page as well.

Now, here's my problem: Kate has a new book out soon called Wicked Voodoo Sex. On the face of it, it's about sex and relationships and also about love spells and sex magic (a sort of a grown-up 'teenage witch' book - for teenage witches with a (dirty) mind of their own) but more importantly, running through it is also a thread about sexual freedom and re-empowerment: reclaiming 'Slut' as a positive force.

Kate's away at the moment so i've said i'll handle liaison with her publisher till she's back and i've just heard that the person who was down to write the foreword for her (Peta Heskell, 'the flirt coach') has had to drop out because she's in love and her head's spinning! So i wondered if anyone here could recommend an author (or artist, actor, performer, etc) who'd be appropriate and willing to write a few pages as the intro? Or maybe someone here might want to do it if you've got a profile in this area???

Nothing major is required. A few pages on the theme of sexual freedom is what we're looking for (particularly with regard to sexual empowerment and freedom from shame and labels). Not too 'heavy' though.

There's a deadline for this of about 2 weeks, so if anyone has any ideas i'd be grateful to hear them!

Thanks for your time!
ross

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Dyke March 2007- Sex Worker contingent

Sun, 03 Jun 2007 17:04:43 GMT

Hi,

Unfortunately, I am not organizing a sex-workers contingent at the Dyke March this year. If anyone is in contact with Pandora (the dominatrix), I have her vinyl flag that she had made last year. She can contact me through Tribe or at gina@madameginagrant.com.

Thanks, and good luck if you march together.

Gina

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What Is Not About Sex?: a reading

Janet — Tue, 22 May 2007 18:03:30 GMT

What Is Not About Sex?

Reading by S/M Authors Sora Counts, Wendy Dalton, Dossie Easton, Bill Henkin, Liz Henry, and Carol Queen

Many authors in the leather community have become well known for their writings on SM and sex, but some have gifts that go beyond our mutually enjoyable kinks. As a community we frequently support wonderful readings of erotica by wonderful writers -- but don't you sometimes wonder what else they write?

In this evening's event, a half-dozen poets who have long-standing credentials in the radical sex community share their own poetry on nature, love, war, philosophy, spirituality, and other subjects. So what isn't about sex? Come find out.

Monday, June 18, 7:00 PM
Good Vibrations Bookstore
1620 Polk Street, between Clay and Sacramento
San Francisco
tel: 415-345-0400
Doors Open - 6:30: PM

Donation requested for Center for Sex and Culture

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Exhibitionism and Voyeurism

Sun, 01 Apr 2007 08:29:15 GMT

On a different site a guy asked in frustration, “Do women really like to watch a guy Jerk off?”

From my experiences I certainly can say: yes some do, some like it a lot.

It is very easy to masturbate in front of girlfriends, so I assume what he was asking about is masturbating in front of strangers or others that he is not yet intimate with.

Are women more inclined to an element of intimate connection and men to the excitement of something new including with strangers? Certainly, but here there are also many exceptions.

Once when I was working security at an outdoor three-day concert a couple friends of a woman there told me (laughing) that their friend was a voyeur and that she was hanging out around the showers to get peaks at the men. Naturally I approached her and asked her if she wanted to go skinny-dipping. When she said yes we went down to the lake together and went swimming. When I got out of the water she looked away. I asked her what was the matter. She said she was just embarrassed. I told her that if she wanted to look, I wanted her to look. She smiled and as I stood there naked a little over an ankle deep in water her eyes scanned my entire body over and then focused on my cock. My cock grew very hard. I was not yet touching it. Still smiling she asked, “What are you going to do with that?” I asked her if she wanted me to give her a show. She said she was already getting one and that I should feel free to add on anything I like. I then began stroking my cock and gyrating my ass. I stroked my cock and danced for her for a couple hours. I came twice for her as she watched. Before cumming the second time I put my cock inside her and quickly brought her to orgasm.

I enjoyed the experience a lot, as did she. I’ve had a number of other experiences masturbating for women that were equally unique and enjoyable. While I certainly don't limit myself to such pleasures, I do not deny them.

Strippers and other nude images are much more available to men that enjoy nude women, than the other way around. I think this is partly because there is much less demand from women for it than from men, but some women do enjoy a free no strings attached naked man to play with or watch, so I do my best to bring equality to women's erotic adventures, one free strip show at a time.

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yet again, great erotic reading circle at csc tonight!

newbie — Thu, 29 Mar 2007 07:22:35 GMT

great feedback, celebrated authors, unpublished novices, nervous readers, bold readers, erotica on open macs or scrawled sheets of paper. but one thing in common: hot stuff!

one story about a grease monkey fetish really rocked my world. ooooooooooh, what you can do with a ripped biker and can of motor oil!

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SM Flea and Fandango April 8th

Phil — Fri, 16 Mar 2007 14:18:53 GMT

Hi everyone

Mark your calendars. Lady Thorns SM Community Exchange and Fandango is on April 8th. Just a couple of weeks away.

An afternoon at the Bizarre Flea, topped off with a Fandango party at the SF Citadel, will
make for a really memorable day.

Come join us for a great day of socializing, shopping, playing and enjoying a San
Francisco Leather Tradition.

If you are a vendor or know of a vendor, please forward this to them.

On April 8, 2007

Please join Lady Thorn, Kinky Crafts people, Artisans, Leather,
Fetish and SM Community members on Sunday April 8, for the first
"SM Community Exchange" of 2007!

This is the original San Francisco Leather Swap Meet and has been
Going on since December of 1983.

Vendors range from many of the best toy makers in the country to
artists, authors, photographers, fetish clothing makers to personal
Collections and one of a kind items for the connoisseurs in us.

Socialize with leather/fetish folk at this three times a year event.

Date: Sunday April 8, 2007
Address: 942 Mission Street
(between 5th and 6th Streets)
Doors open at 2:00 PM
Admission to the Bizarre Flea is only $5.00

Vendor Info: contact Lady Thorn @ 415/642-1448
Vender Set up: 12:30 PM

Easy parking at the 5th and Mission garage.

Continue the fun by joining us at Fandango.

We will weave our magic inside the SF Citadel with our special
Lighting and music, providing you with an environment where your energy can soar.

Come and see the spanking new space!

Admission will be available at the Fandango table inside the SM
Community Exchange or at the door if you have attended a Fandango in the past.

We provide special food, soft drinks, safer sex supplies and a wonderful
Fun place to play

Please bring your toys (old and new) 9and hot energy.

Admission: $20.00 at the SM Flea.
Sunday, April 8, 2007
6:30PM to 1:00PM
The New SF Citadel Space
1277 Mission Street
San Francisco, Ca 94103

Work exchange is always needed, contact us for work exchange please.

For further info or to help with the party, please check out our
websites at:

http://www.sfcitadel.org
http://www.smflea.com

PS: the next Exchange and Fandango will be August 12, 2007.

Usually held the second Sunday in December, August and December.

Thanks

P.S Please forward this to all who you feel should know about it.

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Research on Bisexuality and Well-Being- Survey now open

Tera — Fri, 16 Mar 2007 01:12:19 GMT

Are you a bisexual female and at least 18 years old?

- You are invited to participate in an anonymous on
line survey concerning sexual experience and
feelings.
- This research is being conducted by a graduate
student at the California School of Professional
Psychology/Alliant International University.
- Participation will take approximately 60 to 70
minutes
- All Participants will be entered in a lottery for a
chance to win one of two raffle prizes for $100

- If you are interested, go to
http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=165663204675

- For more information or questions email:
bisexualityresearch@yahoo.com

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New Group

lilpnkspyder — Sun, 04 Mar 2007 05:55:05 GMT

Hello everyone, I just wanted to announce the formation of a new group for next generation (under 35) queers. It's called Your Fence Is Sitting On Me. (http://tribes.tribe.net/biqueeryoungsocial)

Our first event will be tea at Samovar in the Castro tomorrow night. Check out the tribe page for details.

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erotic reading at csc last night was fabulous

newbie — Thu, 01 Mar 2007 23:32:58 GMT

thank you thank you thank you to carol queen and to jennifer cross for doing this. here's more info on it:

http://people.tribe.net/56a4f15a-f48e-4cd7-ae1c-6df984753e21

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Kink.com Hearing in SF

stormaldo — Thu, 01 Mar 2007 20:18:47 GMT

A Note from Peter Acworth of kink.com:
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As you know, we have come under a
certain amount of heat for buying the
Armory to use for movie production.

Despite the fact that the Planning
Department agreed to our use prior to
the purchase, the Mayor pressured them
into holding a public hearing on March
8th 10-12:30 in City Hall, room 416.

This is an 'informational meeting¹
designed to hear community feedback,
and there will be no vote. However, in
order to prevent the city from
attempting to rezone the Armory, It is
important that we show up in force and
that we outnumber the protestors, so
please save the date! We will send out
more information nearer the time.

Cheers
Peter

PS please forward this on to any lists
that you think might be appropriate,
or post it anywhere you think people
might see it (tribe.net, myspace
pages, etc.).

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weird blows - call for submissions

Wed, 28 Feb 2007 08:52:51 GMT

weird (wîrd)
adj. weird·er, weird·est
1. Of, relating to, or suggestive of the preternatural or supernatural.
2. Of a strikingly odd or unusual character; strange.

blow (blō)
v. blew, blown, blow·ing, blows
1. To expel a current of air, as from the mouth or from a bellows.
2. slang. Sexual activity involving oral stimulation of one's partner's sex organs.

Weird Blows is an ongoing art project where people anonymously submit their bizarre sexual experiences. These will eventually be archived on an upcoming website for viewing purposes and certain experiences will be adapted into short videos that will also be placed on the website, recontextualizing these accounts through the lens of the pornography they can owe so much to.

You are invited to contribute your experiences to Weird Blows. Each experience can be fondly-remembered or otherwise and it can be based in reality or fantasy or somewhere in between. Possible themes for the experiences are not limited to accounts of oral sex or heteronormative relationships. There are also varying degrees of weirdness; one person's kink is another person's vanilla. What really matters is that the experience you submit is true.

We have only one suggestion:

Be descriptive! One or two-sentence experiences all tend to sound the same.

Mail your experiences to weirdblows@gmail.com or send them, postal-style, to:

Weird Blows
585 Gerrard St. E
Toronto, ON
M4M 1Y2

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Student sex workers needed for a magazine article

Boothism — Fri, 23 Feb 2007 22:50:50 GMT

Hi all,

I’m writing for a local university magazine and I'm doing a story on student sex workers in the Bay Area. The article will be focusing on "the job" side ass well as the sex. I know it can be fun, sweaty and all but I want to make sure it's balanced. There's also a chance it could be picked up for a nationally distributed mag in couple of months.

I’m looking for strippers, escorts, lap dancers, doms, subs, tops, bottoms, stripogrammers (does anybody even do this anymore?), play party organizers, dungeon owners, erotica writers etc. If you’re funding your way through school doing the nasty in any kind of way, I’d like to talk to you.

You can be as discreet or as open as you like. We can correspond through email, phone or in person. All limits are respected and you can be completely anonymous in the story. But, if you’re freaky and don’t care who knows it, we’re also looking to do a photo feature to accompany the article. Who knows, it could be good for business.

I’m doing this for free so I can’t offer any monetary compensation for your time, but I’m a damned good writer and we can do a trade if you like. I’m willing to do some writing for your ads, website etc. in exchange for the info.

Feel free to forward this to anyone you know that might be interested. I'm going to Post this a couple of other places as well. Let me know if anyone thinks it's too much.
Thanks,
Kwan

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Definitions

CaptainErotica — Mon, 19 Feb 2007 17:20:27 GMT

Curious how people define the words

SEX

and

CULTURE

anyone care to share?

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CSC Library Needs Volunteers

sk1ppy — Mon, 08 Jan 2007 23:51:03 GMT

Hello all,

As some of you may know, I'm the librarian for the Center.

Working with summer interns, we have organized and cataloged (yes, cataloged!) over 2,000 books and magazines. If you haven't already, check out the library's homepage www.sexandculture.org/pages/library.htm and catalog, sexandculture.org/cgi-bin/libsearch.cgi.

While I've had a lot of help, I've been running the library solo for two years, and I'm looking to hand the job over to a team of dedicated, library-oriented volunteers.

I think we've gotten it off the ground, but much needs to be done. We still have thousands of items to catalog and since we had to move offices, all my beautifully cataloged and barcoded materials are still in boxes, and somewhat out of order. We are desperately in need of money to purchase archival preservation materials for our comic books, and rare fragile materials.

So, I'd like to make this more of a team effort, with at least 6 other people, who are interested in libraries, preferably with library experience (but I'll train!).

If you're interested and you live in the San Francisco Bay Area, please let me know!

Feel free to forward this email to friends or lists of like-minded folks.

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Polyamory in the News!

Alan — Sun, 04 Feb 2007 23:19:40 GMT

A movie being made of The Ethical Slut... Polyamory in The God Delusion... After 15 years, the word becomes official... Polys as the world's jealousy experts....

Lots of stuff has been happening at Polyamory in the News, http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/ , in the last two months. If you haven't been checking, here's what you missed:

** “How Prevalent is Polyamory?” We are everywhere. . . or are we? Here's a collection of stats and surveys, and thoughts on what they mean.

** The controversial British poly documentary “I Love You. And You. And You” has been rebroadcast — and at last you can see it on the web.

** “Three on a match can be dangerous” (Chicago Sun-Times). Couples therapist Laura Berman goes on a tear against more-than-twoness, and members of the poly community rally in reply.

** “Unfaithful? No, I just have too much love for one man” (Daily Mail, London). One of Great Britain’s “dreadful rags” is shocked, shocked!

** “Monogamy, Polyamory, and Beyond” (Tikkun magazine). A leading progressive religious/political journal examines the possibilities that compersion — “sympathetic joy” in multipartnering — offers for spiritual advancement (dare we say evolution?).

** “All Mine” (Herald-Sun, Australia). Are polys becoming the media’s go-to experts on understanding jealousy?

** “Make Love; End Monogamy War” (Sydney Morning Herald, Australia). “Monogamy is the capitalism of the social world. It isn’t perfect and it’s mighty expensive, but no one’s actually come up with a viable alternative for the masses.”

** German Green Endorses Poly; Brouhaha Ensues. The “Pippi Longstocking of German politics” raises eyebrows, and wins fans, across Europe.

** “Polyamory” enters the Oxford English Dictionary, finally making it as officially an English word as possible. Jennifer Wesp, co-inventor of the word in the early 1990s, writes in to describe exactly where, when, and how she created it.

** “What is commitment? Polyamorous perspectives on love, sex and relationships” (American Sexuality). Cascade Cook assembles a variety of polys’ takes on what commitment means to them and their partners. A good handout.

** Polyamory cited in The God Delusion. Atheist author Richard Dawkins give us a good mention in his current blockbuster book.

** The Ethical Slut: the movie! Filming begins this summer. A self-declared "Taoist" indie film company says it intends to give it a good, serious treatment.

** Developments at Loving More: The magazine should soon be back on its feet. Meanwhile, Loving More and polyamory become a running plot element on NBC's Monday-night series “Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip.”

** Swing/Poly Advocates Arouse Debate in China. And you thought Podunk, USA was messed up. . .

** "Not Too Emo" (The Stranger, Seattle). "There is a key trait in people who do polyamory well, and it's this: They are good at regulating their strong emotions."

Here's the site:
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/ . The most recent 10 items are up front.
Here are the December archives: http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2006_12_01_polyinthemedia_archive.html
and November archives: http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2006_11_01_polyinthemedia_archive.html

I've done 101 of these reports in the last year and a half. I hope you'll have as much fun browsing them as I did putting them together!

Cheers,

Alan

(...who's always looking for news leads. If you see something good that I miss, please write me: alan7388 [at] comcast [dot] net.)

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Come with Me to the Southwest Leather Conference?

johnbadams — Sun, 07 Jan 2007 23:55:09 GMT

I am a single Dom/Top, passionate about BDSM, and especially D/s. I have been involved in the scene in San Francisco for over five years. I am also an officer with Janus and a member of the Dungeon Monitors Association. I have a deep coneection with the archetype Master Skip Chasey calls the “Servant Master”. Curious? Google it.

I would like to take you to the Southwest Leather Conference in Phoenix.
The conference takes place Friday, Saturday, and Sunday the 19th – 21st of January. Yes, in two weeks.

My hope is that you are interested in not only just attending as F/friends in the scene, but playing as well. I see U/us going to some of the seminars T/together and being in D/s space for part of the trip.
The piercing ritual on the last night sounds powerful and I want to share it with someone who is ready to take their commitment to kink to the next level.
I also really want to go on an adventure and have some FUN!
you can get more info on the conference at http://www.southwestleather.org/

I’ve already got the room.
I’ve already got your ticket.
I’ve already got your transportation.

Requirements? you have got to be able to drive a manual transmission because W/we are taking the Porsche.

If you can pitch in for food or gas that would be great but not required. you would be My guest.

"What we learn to do we learn by doing"
Aristotle

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NUDE AID: Dec 10th

Matt — Sun, 19 Nov 2006 00:25:11 GMT

A Benefit for the Center for Sex and Culture

Sunday, 12/10
5--9 pm
at 111 Minna Gallery btw. 2nd St. and New Montgomery

$20--40 sliding scale admission gets you into this art happening where you can watch erotic artists at work, many drawing nude or fetish-clad models from life! Take one piece of artwork for free, buy more for $20-40, and bid on even more art in our silent auction! Free whores d'ouevres, cash bar.

Just in time for XXXmas and other holidays when you might want to surprise your sweetheart or treat yourself to a unique work of art. Hosted by the one and only Annie Sprinkle and produced by Lady Monster and Carol Queen, this will be a sexy, arty extravaganza benefiting The Center For Sex and Culture (www.sexandculture.org)!
Spread the word, especially if you know any artists who'd like to participate.

NUDE AID CALL FOR ARTISTS AND VOLUNTEERS:
We need YOU to make this benefit a success!

*Seeking artists to participate by making art onsite, water-based media only please. You can paint/draw our fabulous live models...

or just make sexy art as the spirit moves you, with collage or any other medium that will be clean-up-able. (If you are not in a position to donate your art materials but otherwise would love to do this, talk to us. We will seek material donations so starving artists will not have out-of-pocket expenses.) Please be prepared to make 20 or more pieces to give away. AND/OR... donate to our silent auction!

Artists, please RSVP soon so we can put your name on our press materials. We'd love to get you some well-deserved attention!

*Seeking fabulous volunteers to model, set up, make whores d'ouevres, work the door, clean up, post flyers and postcards, and more! Please let us know if you'd like to help out.
email: ladymonster@earthlink.net

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Beyond the Body Electric: Men Loving Well, Sat/Sun Dec 2/3, 2 to 6 pm, Club Eros, SF

pecscapade — Sun, 05 Nov 2006 00:37:34 GMT

Beyond the Body Electric: Men Loving Well
An Exploration for Men who love Men

Sat. Dec 2, Sun. Dec 3, 2006, 2 to 6 pm, Club Eros, San Francisco

Men with an interest in exploring their erotic desires, practices and pleasures are invited to join in erotic community with other men. Participants will be invited to share and pariticpate in a variety of play and pleasure rituals in a safe and consensual environment.

Join us for Celebrating The Erotic Electric:

Men will join a gathering which explores erotic and ecstatic trance states. All will learn to facilitate these states in one's self and in others using breath and touch and play ...

Each man will be invited to explore the ecstasy of being at home both in one's own body and in a body of men. The invitation includes consensual amounts of touch, breathing, pleasure, excitement, kindness, and joy and PLAY in a circle of loving men. This celebration of spirit, mindfulness, and body is open to all men on an erotic-spiritual path who wish to share their journeys with other seekers, and will also enable each participant to focus on self-care and self-healing.

Cost is $60 for one session (either day) or $100 for both. Scholarships available.
Contact thom at 415 505 8980 or thom@tgpraxis.net for more information. RSVPs essential, as space is limited

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Nov and Beyond at C4SC

CaptainErotica — Sat, 04 Nov 2006 05:15:25 GMT

Hi everyone!

We have exciting news, we hope. We are applying for a space! We'd hoped
to find a way to collaborate (and move in) with the Jon Sims Center,
but that did not prove do-able. So we are moving forward with Plan B, and
our fingers are crossed. We really need donations at this time, and I
am going to send a separate mail about that which can be forwarded as-is
to anyone who's open to supporting us as we prepare to move.

We have these important save-the-date announcements:

Nina Hartley is coming 11/19! She's doing other SF events that weekend
too, which we'll tell you about.
Annie Sprinkle is hosting a fabulous benefit for us on 12/10: Nude Aid!
It's an Erotica Art Making and Give Away Event. See below for detail
and a call for participating artists and volunteers.

You probably figured out that the hoped-for S. Bear Bergman event did
not materialize. But Bear will be back in January!

If you'd like to participate in discussions re: the future of Jon Sims
Center, go there (1519 Mission) at 2 pm on 11/4. 11/11, or 1/18.

In this event newsletter:

CSC-sponsored:
TOMORROW! Caught Looking: Erotic Tales of Voyeurs and Exhibitionists
bookparty -- 11/4
Yogaplay for Men -- 11/6
Carol speaks at Creating Change -- 11/9--11
Become an Extraordinary Lover™ - For Men who love Women -- 11/11
Nina Hartley Couples Class -- 11/19
Nude Aid: Erotica Art Making and Give Away Event -- 12/10
Nude Aid call for artists and volunteers

Other events we think you'd enjoy:
Celebrating the Body Erotic for Women -- 11/3-5
Clothing swap for men and transmen! -- 11/4
The Things We Do for Love with Annie Sprinkle and Beth Stephens --
11/10-29
The Bawdy Island Burlesque Hullabaloo! -- 11/16
Cleo Dubois Academy of SM Arts -- 11/18 and 19

Other stuff of interest:
Psych survey about casual sex
Summer '05 Wonder Intern Elizabeth is in Africa

TOMORROW! 11/4, 2 pm -- CAUGHT LOOKING: Erotic Tales of Voyeurs and
Exhibitionists BOOK PARTY
with editor Rachel Kramer Bussel IN PERSON, plus readers Thomas Roche,
Simon Sheppard, Carol Queen, and Stan Kent.
Light refreshments will be served!
At Good Vibrations, 1620 Polk Street btw. Clay and Sacramento

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Monday, 11/6, 7 pm -- YOGAPLAY FOR MEN
Let us know if you want to be put in touch with this group of men who
practice nude, partnered yoga.

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Thursday, 11/9--Saturday, 11/11 -- CAROL SPEAKS AT CREATING CHANGE, the
LGBT community's most important annual conference. In Kansas City, MO.
CQ appears with other board members and friends of the Woodhull Freedom
Foundation for an important Sexual Freedom Institute (11/9 -- CQ is on
a panel called Public Speaking About Sexual Freedom) and other panels
include Bisexuals Talking about Sex, Public Pillow Talk, Leather Caucus,
and Sex Work.

See http://www.thetaskforce.org/ourprojects/cc/index.cfm for detail.

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Saturday, November 11th, 9:30 to 5:30 -- BECOME AN EXTRAORDINARY
LOVER™ - For Men who love Women
at Counterpulse, 1310 Mission at 9th St., SF.

Participants from recent Become an Extraordinary Lover™ Workshops said:
“I wish I attended this course when I was 20.” – Oakland
“Getting a feedback from women about they liked during a hands on work
was phenomenal.” – NJ
“Hands on training is amazing - doing is much more educational than
talking.” – Berkeley
“Just want to let you know I put what I learned to practice with my
girlfriend and got an A+. So glad I took the class.” – Marin
Now it’s your turn to drive women wild… There is nothing more arousing
than watching a woman you are making love to writhe and moan with
delight. However, there are very few places to get practical, explicit, and
straightforward advice about what turns women on.

In this Hands-On, one-day workshop you'll learn everything from the
arts of romance and seduction to advanced pleasure techniques. Learn to
read women's non-verbal cues, to elicit information about her secret
sexual desires, and to keep her coming back for more. You will have the
opportunity to practice different kinds of touch on a woman, understand
her responses, and receive helpful feedback. The facilitators will cover
intimacy, communication and how to give pleasure during a sexual
encounter including manual and oral techniques.

Tuition is $325. To sign up email info@CelesteAndDanielle.com or call
Danielle at (415) 336-3258.

The facilitators, Celeste and Danielle, believe in the transformative
power of pleasure because they have experienced the transformation in
their own lives. Danielle Harel is an erotic educator and a clinical
sexologist who has devoted the last thirteen years to counseling couples,
women, men, and groups. She graduated with a Doctor of Human Sexuality
(DHS) degree from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in
San Francisco. Celeste Hirschman has made a lifelong study of
sexuality, intimacy, and relationships both inside and outside of the classroom.
She has studied sexuality from an academic perspective and in May of
2005 she received an MA in Human Sexuality Studies from San Francisco
State University. Both Danielle and Celeste teach and practice Sexological
Body work, a California State approved program of body-based, erotic
education that invites people to find out what is erotically possible for
them, and deepen their experiences of pleasure and embodiment.

*****************

Sunday, 11/19, 2-5 pm -- NINA HARTLEY'S COUPLES' WORKSHOP!
Place TBA.
$80 per couple, $100 per triple.
Nina teaches her favorite vulva and penis massage techniques! More
detail next time. Reserve a space by emailing us!

*****************

Sunday, 12/10, 5--9 pm -- NUDE AID: Erotica Art Making and Give Away
Event
at 111 Minna btw. 2nd St. and New Montgomery (www.111minna.org)
$20--40 sliding scale admission gets you into this art happening where
you can watch erotic artists at work, many drawing nude or fetish-clad
models from life! Take an artwork for free, buy more for $20-40, and
bid on even more art in our silent auction! Free whores d'ouevres, cash
bar. Just in time for XXXmas and other holidays when you might want to
surprise your sweetheart or treat yourself to a unique work of art.
Hosted by the one and only Annie Sprinkle and produced by Lady Monster and
Carol Queen, this will be a sexy, arty extravaganza, and help us retire
all our move-related debt! Spread the word, especially if you know any
artists who'd like to participate.

NUDE AID CALL FOR ARTISTS AND VOLUNTEERS:
We need YOU to make this benefit a success!
*Seeking artists to participate by making art onsite, water-based media
only please. You can paint/draw our fabulous live models... or just
make sexy art as the spirit moves you, with collage or any other medium
that will be clean-up-able. (If you are not in a position to donate your
art materials but otherwise would love to do this, talk to us. We will
seek material donations so starving artists will not have out-of-pocket
expenses.) Please be prepared to make 20 or more pieces to give away.
AND/OR... donate to our silent auction! Artists, please RSVP soon so we
can put your name on our press materials. We'd love to get you some
well-deserved attention!
*Seeking fabulous volunteers to model, set up, make whores d'ouevres,
work the door, clean up, post flyers and postcards, and more! Please let
us know if you'd like to help out.

************************************************************************************

OTHER EVENTS WE THINK YOU'D ENJOY:

CELEBRATING THE BODY EROTIC FOR WOMEN (November 3-5): Oakland, CA

In a safe, serious and playful space that respects boundaries, embrace
pleasure as a healer, and experience your body as powerful, expressive,
and sacred.

This full weekend course invites you to empowered sexuality,
self-defined eroticism, and spiritually integrated eros. We expand awareness
through a process of breath, movement, and touch meditation, in which each
woman's choices and rhythms are honored. This workshop is for women of
all sexual orientations who are ready to learn with other women about
the power of touch to illuminate inner and outer worlds.

$325 if registered before October 5, $350 if registered after.
Scholarships and volunteer opportunities are available.

For more information, contact:

F. Karyn Block <bodyelectricwomen@gmail.com> or call 510.459.3781

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Saturday, 11/4, -- MEN'S (AND TRANSMEN'S) CLOTHES SWAP!
What: All Men's Fashion Clothing Swap
When: Saturday, November 4, 12-4 p.m.
Where: The Cafe (2367 Market St. & Castro)
How Much: $10 in advance, $15 at the door. 21 and up only.

All the major deets can be found here: www.swapsf.com. It's shaping up
to be a big cross-gender-preferences event. Obviously the gay community
is way into it -- it's in the Castro, it's guys' fashion only, there
are no changing rooms (wink!), but the lesbian community has gotten
behind it (www.curvemag.com), and the FTM crews are into it, as well.

[We may work with them in the future to do a sexy clothes swap!!]

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November 10- November 29 -- THE THINGS WE DO FOR LOVE with ANNIE
SPRINKLE AND BETH STEPHENS. A multi-media installation at Femina Potens Art
Gallery
Reception and opening: November 10th, 7 – 10pm

New work from the Love Art Laboratory AT Femina Potens Gallery 465 S.
Van Ness at 16th st, San Francisco,CA. 415-217-9340

www.feminapotens.com

San Francisco, California--Elizabeth Stephens and Annie Sprinkle are
two artists in love who collaborate in the grand tradition of other
artist couples such as Yoko and John, Sony and Cher, Gertrude and Alice,
Sigfried and Roy and Matthew Barney and Bjork.

Concerned with the prevalence of violence, moral divisiveness, and the
anti-gay marriage movement, Stephens and Sprinkle decided to offer
society an alternative vision and to spread their love through art. On
December 18th, 2004 they had an experimental performance art wedding where
they committed to doing all kinds of art projects about love for seven
years. Each of the seven years is based on the theme and color of a
chakra. (A format offered by artist Linda Montano.) Thus they became each
other's domestic partners, art muses and collaborators, and their "Love
Art Laboratory" was born. They then began producing a wide variety of
"Love Art" projects. Currently they are almost two years into their
project.
On view at Femina Potens will be new art works, and ephemera from their
live art events. Such as when they got breast cancer they created the
world's first cancer erotica, Hairotica. They dressed up for
chemotherapy and created a series of photos, the Chemo Fashion Show. They made
collages from the radiation treatment plans and some old pin-up photos to
create the Breast Cancer Ballet. Their Extreme Kiss can be viewed on
multiple TV monitors. Their new art catalogue which can be enjoyed at a
reading table. Orange Wedding Two's wedding costumes will be on display
along with a 5-minute video of their wedding. Art fans can get a "love
infusion" by sitting in the Love Infusion Center. New projects are
developing at a rapid pace. After two successful San Francisco runs of
their theater piece Exposed; Experiments in Love, Sex, Death and Art last
summer, which they wrote and performed together, they then turned their
attentions towards making visual art. Femina Potens is their firs
t solo exhibition of visual art from the Love Art Laboratory.

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Thursday, Nov. 16 -- THE BAWDY ISLAND BURLESQUE HULLABALOO!
[Sadly, CQ was going to be on this bill but will now be far away on the
isle of Indiana, speaking at De Pauw U!]

Beware! The dastardly pirate cruise ship "The Black.... Panties!" once
again travels over the briny deep from Bawdy Island towards our beloved
foggy bay! Come splice the main brace with San Francisco's premier
burlesque performers as they weigh anchor on November 16th at the DNA
Lounge. Join cap'n Kingfish and the Bay Area's premier pirate band "The Ship
Disturbers" on the quarterdeck, as they host a rowdy night of comedy,
music and dance. Kiss the gunners daughter with San Francisco's own
Kitten On The Keys (http://suzanneramsey.net), long stemmed hoyden Cherry
Lix of the Twilight Vixen Review
(http://www.twilightvixen.com/showgirls.html), the collective booty
shaking of the Bottoms Up! Burlesque girls
(http://www.bottomsupburlesque.com/), Bettina May
(http://www.bettina.ca) and a host of music, comedy, and special guests guaranteed to
entertain even the most addled scallywags.

more info at - http://shipdisturbers.com

DNA Lounge
375 Eleventh Street, San Francisco
Thursday, November 16th, 8:30 PM
15 doubloons -- 21+

**********************

CLEO DUBOIS ACADEMY OF SM ARTS
Erotic Dominance Intensive Weekend for Dominant Men & Men Who Switch
November 18-19, 2006
SF Citadel, San Francisco
For Men who want to go deeper into the physical, emotional,
psychological and spiritual aspects of BDSM play from the Top side
Meet & Greet Friday, November 17 7-9.30PM
Hands On Training! Limited to 8 students! Enrolling Now!
Teachers: Cleo Dubois and Eve Minax
http://sm-arts.com/mens-intensive.htm
http://sm-arts.com/mens-application.htm
CleoDubois@sm-arts.com

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Psychology Masters Degree student posts survey about casual sex:

Here is the link to the survey:
https://www.psychdata.com/s.asp?SID=119878.

"My name is Tom Pearson and I am a psychology graduate student at the
University of Northern British Columbia. With the help of my supervisor,
Dr. Sherry Beaumont, I am currently working on my thesis proposal that
is focusing on potential individual difference factors that may predict
why casual sex has a variable impact on young adult's psychological
health.

My survey will be about 150 items, of which 60 items will be very short
(just rating emotions after reading casual sex scenarios). Participants
will also be asked to fill out demographic information, sexual history
information, a questionnaire on styles of relating to others, and a
questionnaire on casual sex motives."

*******************

Summer '05 Wonder Intern Elizabeth is in Africa:

"Hello everyone! I have been given a pretty incredible opportunity to
live and volunteer in Namibia for the next 14 months. I'm writing to
share more information about what I'll be doing, the program I'll be
working with, and the incredibly interesting Republic of Namibia. I am also
writing to ask for your help.

On October 11th, my partner Aaron and I flew to southern Africa with a
final destination of Windhoek, Namibia. For the first several months,
until the end of December, I will be living with Aaron and volunteering
in Windhoek. Aaron will be working with a non-profit called the
Bicycle Empowerment Network Namibia (www.benbikes.org.za/namibia). He'll be
designing and fabricating bicycle ambulances, providing bikes to
community health workers, and training people on fabrication techniques and
how to fix their bicycles. I, on the other hand, am hoping to find an
AIDS organization that needs volunteers, but I will also be trying my
hand at teaching English in order to get experience for phase two of my
time in Namibia. "Phase numero dos?" you say? Several weeks ago I
applied and was accepted to the WorldTeach Namibia program. I have decided
to accept the position, which means I will be in Namibia for an extra
year on top of the few months I was already planning on spending v
olunteering in Windhoek.

WorldTeach (www.worldteach.org) is a non-profit organization based in
Cambridge, MA that sends volunteers abroad to teach (primarily English,
but also math, science, computer skills, etc.) in several developing
countries around the world. Because the program doesn't start until late
December, I have not yet been given my teaching assignment. Most
likely I will be teaching English at a school right outside of Windhoek.
English is the official language of Namibia, though there are
approximately 28 different languages spoken throughout the country. There will
also be opportunities for me to do HIV/AIDS education with my students,
which I am especially excited about.

The WorldTeach program started in Namibia in 1990, right after the
country gained independence and has been doing quite well ever since. They
have a good relationship established with the Namibian Ministry of
Education and the Ministry will cover part of the funding for my being
there. However, they do not cover all of the funding for this experience.
The cost of the program is almost $6,000. This includes roundtrip
airfare, insurance in country, housing, a small living stipend, and in
country support from the Namibian WorldTeach field director.

Fortunately, I worked really hard this summer as a waitress and saved
quite a bit. Now, although I am so very excited to do the program, the
additional cost and time in Namibia has proven too great for my
savings. I am still approximately $2,000 short of the $6,000 program fee.
Consequently, I have decided to reach out to you, my family and friends,
to ask if you would be willing to help me out with the costs of the
WorldTeach program. I know many of us are strapped for cash, but even
sending as little as $5-10 (or as much as $1000!) will help. If my
fundraising efforts are successful and I raise at least $1,000, WorldTeach has
an anonymous donor that has agreed to give me a matching grant of
$1,000. Going above and beyond my goal of $2,000 would be EVEN BETTER as it
would allow me to do so much more during my time in Namibia.

Namibia is a country that is still rebuilding its education system
post-apartheid and is in desperate need of teachers. It is also a country
that is suffering from a 21% AIDS prevalence rate among adults (even
higher in the more densely populated northern regions), a fact that
especially affects the education system. Teachers in Namibia (and in
sub-Saharan Africa in general) are a group that tends to have a higher rate
of infection than others, perhaps due to their positions of authority
and the respect the position holds. I have been presented with an
incredible opportunity to teach, learn, and build capacity in a place that is
quickly losing the capacity to provide enough teachers for itself. I
would be deeply appreciative if you would assist me in this opportunity.

To donate:
1. Please make all checks out to WorldTeach, Inc.
2. Put my name AND Namibia in the memo line
3. Send checks to WorldTeach c/o Center for International Development,
Harvard University, 79 John F. Kennedy Street, Cambridge MA 02138

All donations made are tax-deductible. If you'd like a receipt for
your donation, include a note saying that as well as the address you'd
like the receipt to be sent to if it is different from the address on your
check. Unfortunately, WorldTeach cannot accept cash donations. If
you're a check-less person, but you'd still like to donate, you can get a
money order from a bank, grocery store, or gas station.

Thank you for your support! -- Elizabeth"

[CQ adds: This young woman was a terrific addition to the CSC family
and we miss her a lot! Our loss is absolutely Namibia's gain.]

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OCT and Beyond at C4SC

CaptainErotica — Sat, 21 Oct 2006 16:31:07 GMT

Hello friends!

Greetings to all our new list members from the most wonderful LitCrawl
gig.

We HOPE we will soon have news about new space. And when that happens,
we would like to borrow as many of you as have some available volunteer
time and muscles, so we can empty out all those storage units! Keep an
eye out for a separate message about all that, and when it arrives,
please please forward it as liberally as you like.

A few date reminders, meanwhile -- one is that tomorrow's zoophilia
workshop still has space. See blow for details.
Second -- on November 1 we hope to host S. Bear Bergman! Ze will do a
reading from hir new book, or possibly even a workshop "For Incipient
Gentlemen" -- butches and transmasculine folk, take note! Please save
that date. Bear's performances here have been wonderful and we're glad
ze's coming back.
And in November don't forget that NINA HARTLEY will visit again! She'll
be doing a workshop, probably a couples-based one, on Sunday, 11/19.
And keep an eye out for a fabulous early-December fundraiser hosted by
Annie Sprinkle! We're seeking erotic artists to participate in that,
donating their time/artistic energies to do live-action erotic art, plus
models for them to interpret.

What else? Check out John Cameron Motchell's new film Shortbus! Any of
you who were Queen of Heaveners in the early '90s will have a
flashback.

Have a fun, sexy and safe Hallowe'en -- sorry we're not doing an event,
which we were going to do, but our co-sponsor had to pull out and it
was too late to forge on alone. Maybe next year!
xoxox--CQ and the CSC crew

In this newsletter:
CSC EVENTS:
10/21 -- Understanding Zoophilia
10/25 -- Erotic Reading Circle
10/26 -- GV Amateur Erotic Film Competition at the Castro
10/27 -- GV Amateur Erotic Film Competition at the Parkway
11/1 -- Save the date, we hope to host S. Bear Bergman
11/11 -- Become an Extraordinary Lover

OTHER EVENTS, ITEMS OF INTEREST:
10/21 -- Twilight Vixen Revue Benefit for Fairy Butch
Creating Change
11/18/19 -- Cleo DuBois' Academy of SM Arts
WorkingStories: Audio Documentary about Sexworkers still seeking
participants

CSC EVENTS, OCTOBER AND ONWARD:

Saturday, 10/21, 9-5 -- UNDERSTANDING BESTIALITY AND ZOOPHILIA
An AASECT CE Workshop Featuring Dr. Hani Miletski and Special Guests.
Sponsored by the AASECT Western Region and Hosted by the Center for Sex
and Culture in San Francisco, California.
at The Jon Sims Center, 15519 Mission, San Francisco. Please see the
write-up all the way at the bottom of this post for details and sign-up.

**********************

Wednesday, 10/25, 7:30-9:30 -- EROTIC READING CIRCLE
Come join readers as they share their work! Bring something to read or
just be part of the appreciative circle of listeners. This is a great
place to try out new work (ask for comments if you like), or get more
comfortable reading for other people. Longtime writers will bring thier
latest... newly inspired writers, bring that vignette you scrawled on
BART while daydreaming on your way to work! Non-judgemental listening
guaranteed, all orientations welcome. With Carol Queen and Jennifer
Cross. We had a wonderful time last month -- come join us!
$5-up sliding scale, but no one turned away for lack of funds. At Jon
Sims Center, 1519 Mission in SF.

***********************

Thursday, 10/26, 8 pm -- GV AMATEUR EROTIC FILM COMPETITION (at the
Castro, 429 Castro St, SF)
Friday, 10/27, 9:15 pm -- GV Amateur Erotic Film Competition (at the
Parkway, 1834 Park Blvd., Oakland)
See the winning entries in this local competition and meet the judges
and moviemakers! Carol Queen MCs with Tim Gaskin.
$12 in advance, $15 at the door. Tickets available at all SF and East
Bay Good Vibes stores.
http://www.goodvibes.com/Content--Amateur-Film-Competition--id-1874.html

***********************

Saturday, November 11th, 9:30 to 5:30 -- Become an Extraordinary
Lover™ - For Men who love Women
at Counterpulse, 1310 Mission at 9th St., SF.

Participants from recent Become an Extraordinary Lover™ Workshops said:

“I wish I attended this course when I was 20.” – Oakland
“Getting a feedback from women about they liked during a hands on work
was phenomenal.” – NJ
“Hands on training is amazing - doing is much more educational than
talking.” – Berkeley
“Just want to let you know I put what I learned to practice with my
girlfriend and got an A+. So glad I took the class.” – Marin
Now it’s your turn to drive women wild… There is nothing more arousing
than watching a woman you are making love to writhe and moan with
delight. However, there are very few places to get practical, explicit, and
straightforward advice about what turns women on.

In this Hands-On, one-day workshop you'll learn everything from the
arts of romance and seduction to advanced pleasure techniques. Learn to
read women's non-verbal cues, to elicit information about her secret
sexual desires, and to keep her coming back for more. You will have the
opportunity to practice different kinds of touch on a woman, understand
her responses, and receive helpful feedback. The facilitators will cover
intimacy, communication and how to give pleasure during a sexual
encounter including manual and oral techniques.

Tuition is $325.
Sign up by October 22nd and pay only $300
To sign up email info@CelesteAndDanielle.com or call Danielle at (415)
336-3258.

The facilitators, Celeste and Danielle, believe in the transformative
power of pleasure because they have experienced the transformation in
their own lives. Danielle Harel is an erotic educator and a clinical
sexologist who has devoted the last thirteen years to counseling couples,
women, men, and groups. She graduated with a Doctor of Human Sexuality
(DHS) degree from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in
San Francisco. Celeste Hirschman has made a lifelong study of
sexuality, intimacy, and relationships both inside and outside of the classroom.
She has studied sexuality from an academic perspective and in May of
2005 she received an MA in Human Sexuality Studies from San Francisco
State University. Both Danielle and Celeste teach and practice Sexological
Body work, a California State approved program of body-based, erotic
education that invites people to find out what is erotically possible for
them, and deepen their experiences of pleasure and embodiment.

*********************

OTHER EVENTS AND ITEMS OF INTEREST:

Fairy Butch: Twilight Vixen's Treasure Chest, Saturday October 21:
You're in for a swashbuckling good time when the vexatious Vixens and a few
of their partners-in-crime pirate Fairy Butch! The lovely and
enigmatic Fairy Butch has been sailing some rough seas, battling both cancer
and a flooded apartment. The lusty and luscious Vixens wanted to give
this captain a chance to relax - so they're taking over this ship, and
steering it in the direction of Fairy Butch favorites...including
sizzling hot lap dances by our very own Scarlett Bottoms. Make a good
showing, sailors, as all proceeds go directly to Fairy Butch. So many of us
saucy showgirls owe our start on-stage to this vital member of the
community...Let's pay her back with a vengeance! Doors at 9, Show at 10. At
12 Galaxies, 2565 Mission at 22nd Street, SF

******************

CREATING CHANGE AND SEXUAL FREEDOM

We’d like to take this opportunity to introduce you to largest LGBT
political change conference in the country: Creating Change. For this
year’s conference, held in Kansas City, MO, the Woodhull Freedom
Foundation has partnered with the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force to create
an entire track dedicated to Sexual Freedom.

Our mission for this conference is to help educate activists and
advocates on the importance of focusing on the general issue of sexual
freedom rather than any one particular identity. In order to accomplish this
we are showcasing a daylong, Pre-Conference Institute on Sexual Freedom
that will be led by experienced activists and leaders from different
areas of the Sexual Freedom movement. During the main conference
schedule, the Sexual Freedom track will include great workshops and skills
academies covering topics ranging from discussions about sex in the
disabled community to youth issues and leather issues, as well as
understanding sexual freedom as a political leader.

These workshops will help further the skills and knowledge base of any
activist and translate across communities, helping the Sexual Freedom
movement to expand its relationships with other segments of the social
change movement as a whole.

Creating Change is an inspiring conference that brings together
activists from across the country and around the world to meet and discuss
some of the most pressing issues facing the LGBT, Sexual Freedom and other
social change movements alike.

We hope that you can join us in Kansas City, MO this November from the
8th through the 12th. To register for the conference or for more
information please visit the conference website at
http://www.creatingchange.org or contact the conference team at
creatingchange@thetaskforce.org.

Ricci J. Levy, Executive Director
The Woodhull Freedom Foundation [CQ serves on the board of this
organization]
www.woodhullfoundation.org

**********************

Cleo Dubois Academy of SM Arts
Erotic Dominance Intensive Weekend for Dominant Men & Men Who Switch
November 18-19, 2006
SF Citadel, San Francisco
For Men who want to go deeper into the physical, emotional,
psychological and spiritual aspects of BDSM play from the Top side
Meet & Greet Friday, November 17 7-9.30PM
Hands On Training! Limited to 8 students! Enrolling Now!
Teachers: Cleo Dubois and Eve Minax
http://sm-arts.com/mens-intensive.htm
http://sm-arts.com/mens-application.htm
CleoDubois@sm-arts.com

**********************

WorkingStories is an audio documentary project based on the lives of
sex workers.
The project includes anonymous telephone interviews mixed with the
producer's stories of her own experiences as an escort. The finished
project will be a recording in CD format. It will include a variety of
voices and experiences, presented without hype & sensationalism.
If you do (or have done) any of the following types of work: escorting,
prostitution,
porn acting, exotic dancing, BDSM, erotic massage, or any other related
occupation,
please contact Anna Regina at workingstories@yahoo.com to arrange an
interview time and to answer any questions you may have.

****************************************************************************************

Saturday, 10/21, 9-5 -- UNDERSTANDING BESTIALITY AND ZOOPHILIA
An AASECT CE Workshop Featuring Dr. Hani Miletski and Special Guests.
Sponsored by the AASECT Western Region and Hosted by the Center for Sex
and Culture in San Francisco, California.
at The Jon Sims Center, 15519 Mission, San Francisco

WHAT IT'S ABOUT:
This workshop will help you better understand the phenomenon of humans
having sexual relations with animals. You will better understanding
the history of
Bestiality, distinguish between Bestiality and Zoophillia, learn new
information about the under-studied and misunderstood issues of
Bestiality and Zoophillia.
Attendees will learn why Zoophillia may possibly be seen as a sexual
orientation. Treatment issues and strategies will be explored in detail.

ABOUT THE PRESENTER:
Dr. Hani Miletski, M.S.W., Ph.D. is a Licensed Independent Clinical
Social Worker, Licensed Certified Social Worker, Certified Sex Therapist
(Diplomate), Certified Supervisor, Social Work Addiction Counselor and a
Certified Criminal Justice Specialist. In addition, she is a long-term
AASECT members, with years of service to the association, holding many
positions, including her current position on the Board of Directors as
the national Membership Steering Committee Chair. She holds a Doctor of
Philosophy in Human Sexuality from The Institute for Advanced Study of
Human Sexuality in San Francisco, California where she did her
dissertation on "Bestiality/Zoophillia - An Exploratory Study." Dr. Miletski
has published several books and articles on Bestiality, Zoophillia and
Mother-Son Sexual Abuse issues.

Educational Items, such as Dr. Miletski's book on Bestiality and
Zoophillia, and other books and DVD's, will be on sale as well! So be sure
to visit the on-site sales table!

COST: (INCLUDES CATERED LUNCH, SNACKS AND CE CERTIFICATES)
AASECT Member $85.00
AASECT Student Member $70.00
Non-Members $95.00

AASECT Approved for 8.0 CEs (This workshop is approved to provide CE
credits for AASECT Certification/Re-Certification, California BBS
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapists and California Licensed Clinical Social
Workers and California Psychology Board Licensed Psychologists - CE
credit also available for some licensed professionals in other state: see
details on AASECT's website at www.aasect.org .

More Information Contact: Stephen L. Braveman, AASECT Western Region
Representative, @ 831-375-7553 or stephen@bravemantherapy.com .

TO REGISTER:
CUT AND PASTE THE REGISTRATION FORM BELOW INTO A NEW EMAIL OR TEXT
FILE, PRINT THE FORM OUT, WRITE YOUR CHECK TO: AASECT Western Region
Workshop

NOTE: Bring reg forms to the event, as there's no time to mail them.

UNDERSTANDING BESTIALITY AND ZOOPHILIA
An AASECT CE Workshop and Fundraiser

NAME:
_______________________________________________________________

DISCIPLINE:
_______________________________________________________________
(Include degree, certification and applicable license title and
number)

ADDRESS: ______________________________________________________

______________________________________________________

PHONE NUMBER: ( ) ____________________

E-MAIL:
____________________________@___________________________________

FEE: AASECT MEMBER $85.00
NON-MEMBER $95.00
STUDENT $70.00 (List
School____________________________ )

AMOUNT ENCLOSED: $____________

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Radical Touch with Cleo Dubois at Polk St Good Vibes Tuesday 10/10

Sam — Mon, 09 Oct 2006 23:44:08 GMT

It's not too late to register for this class!

Radical Touch has something for everyone, Top,bottom, switch, versatile players or just curious Cleo encourages your participation so come try on a blindfold, hood or wrap! Feel how even the lightest touch becomes electric when it is amped up by taking out your sight . See how you can use Radical Touch to make erotic play hotter and more powerful.
http://goodvibes.com/Content.aspx?id=298
You know, the folks at Good Vibes like you to reserve for their classes. Call 415 345-0400 and let them know you're coming Tuesday for Cleo's intimate and interactive class on sensory deprivation and sensory overload.

See you there!
Sam

PS Doms and Men Who Switch, the next Erotic Dominance Intensive Weekend November 18-19 is filling up. Apply today at http://sm-arts.com/mens-application.htm

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Help Spread the Love - VOLUNTEERS NEEDED to Rep CSC at LoveFest

Matt — Mon, 18 Sep 2006 19:42:34 GMT

Volunteers needed 9/23 -- your time benefits The Center for Sex & Culture!
CSC will receive a $75 donation for EVERY volunteer shift worked!

LoveFest needs gate donation volunteers on Saturday, September 23rd in SF’s Civic Center. Your volunteer efforts will benefit five local charities and New Orleans’ musicians. Volunteers are asked to work a three-hour shift and report an hour ahead of time for sign- in and instructions. In turn SF LoveFest will make a donation for every shift to charities fighting AIDS and Hepatitis as well as doing visionary work educating about sexuality and gender issues. You can sign up with friends IF you arrive together. You can probably work together in the same area. You'll also get a t-shirt and an invitation to the volunteer's party in mid-October.

We have two main shifts with a check-in and brief gate training an hour before your work starts.
Shift times:
12:30-3:30p (check-in at 11:30am)
3-6pm (check-in 2pm)
Work a double shift and CSC will get twice the donation! LoveFest will provide clean volunteer porta-potties with no lines, a coat- check for your backpacks and refreshments to keep you going.
Get ready to be busy, as we know that thousands of folks will come through the gates. Some volunteers will be collecting donations and others will be putting stickers on anyone who donates.

For every volunteer they need:
Name
e-mail
Shift(s) you're able to do:
12:30-3:30 or 3-6p or all day
(we are somewhat flexible on shift times so please send a note with any questions as we can usually work with special requests).

To sign up please email:
Sister Kitty Catalyst
Pusspuss@gotblow.org

(if you don't have email, call CSC at 415-255-1155. Tell Kitty you're a CSC volunteer!

A follow-up confirm email will be sent for where to report to and to confirm the shift.

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September

CaptainErotica — Fri, 15 Sep 2006 22:50:10 GMT

Hi friends! Hope to see you at the party on Saturday. We'd like you
to know about some other CSC stuff: volunteer opportunities and
upcoming events at various places. Though we are currently "in
exile," we're continuing our programming.

> The volunteer opportunity at the LoveFest (see below) should net
> CSC about $75 per volunteer -- this is a fast way for us to really
> add to our moving fund, and because we had so much to put into
> storage, we really need those funds now! If you've been thinking,
> "Gosh, if I had an extra 75 bucks, I'd write CSC a check..." -- now
> you can skip the checkbook! And as Sister Kitty points out, if you
> bring your friends, you'll have a fun afternoon with them while you
> help LoveFest... and us.
>
> Before I go, let me thank all the wonderful community spaces that
> have picked up CSC events or indicated their willingness to do so
> -- we could NOT manage to keep rolling during this difficult
> transition without them: Jon Sims Center, CounterPulse, The LGBT
> Center, The Citadel, Eros, CellSpace, Shotwell Studios, Good
> Vibrations... and any others who pitch in in the next month or two.
>
> Thanks from CSC! Happy Folsom Month!
> xox--Carol and the gang

>
> IN THIS EVENT CALENDAR:
>
> TONIGHT! Censorship Panel -- 9/14
> 9/15 event POSTPONED
> Queen of Heaven -- 9/16
> Erotic Reading Circle -- 9/20
> Perverts Put Out -- 9/23
> Folsom Street Fair! -- 9/24
> Carol reads with Stephen Elliott -- 9/25

> VOLUNTEER OPPORTUNITIES
> LoveFest 9/23
> Folsom St. Fair booth 9/24

> Other events and stuff of interest:
> Kitten on the Keys rocks Denver this weekend -- 9/15, 16, and 17
> Sexologist Vern Bullough memorial service -- 9/30
> St James Infirmary JOB OPENINGS
> Want to make a movie for the GV Amateur Video Competition?

>
>
>
> EVENT DETAILS:
>
> Thursday, 9/14, 7--9 pm -- F@#K, I CAN'T SAY THAT ANYMORE:
CENSORSHIP
> At CellSpace -- 2050 Bryant St., SF
>
> Learn what you are and aren't allowed to do, say, and show these
> days; and if there is any way to change it or get around it.
>
> SPEAKERS:
> Annalee Newitz - writes about technology, pop culture and sex for
> magazines like Wired and New Scientist; she blogs at
> www.techsploitation.com; and she is the editor of fringe dork
> magazine "other."
> http://www.techsploitation.com/
>
> Mark Kliem - is Webmaster of LavenderLounge.com and has been
> involved in the adult industry for 10 years. He's directed dozens
> of gay porn movies for numerous studios, and owns several porn
> websites. He has been a judge for the GayVN Awards for five years,
> and won Cybersocket's "Best Blog" Award. Along with everyone else
> in the adult business, he is currently struggling to stay out of
jail.
> http://www.LavenderLounge.com
>
> LadyMonster - Always on the prowl, showing a sexy good time whether
> revealing her ample talents in a burlesque tease or bringing you to
> a quick sizzle with her erotic poetry.
> http://www.ladymonster.com/
>
> Thomas Roche - has been writing professionally since age 19. He
> sold his first novel, a fine 200-page opus entitled All the Way in
> the Hay, to a shady New York publisher during the glory days of one-
> handed publishing.
> http://www.eros-zine.com
>
> *****
>
> Friday, 9/15 --
> LaSara FireFox's SEX IT UP workshop has been POSTPONED til next
> month -- but we WILL offer it again, so please stay tuned! We'll
> send an email to those of you who signed up for this session as
> soon as we know the date it's been moved to.
>
> *****
>
> Saturday, 9/16 -- QUEEN OF HEAVEN
> You know all about this already. JHope to see you there!

> *****
>
> Wednesday, 9/20, 7:30-9:30 -- EROTIC READING CIRCLE
> At Jon Sims Center, 1519 Mission Street in SF
>
> Come join readers as they share their work! Bring something to read
> or just be part of the appreciative circle of listeners. This is a
> great place to try out new work (ask for comments if you like), or
> get more comfortable reading for other people. Longtime writers
> will bring thier latest... newly inspired writers, bring that
> vignette you scrawled on BART while daydreaming on your way to
> work! Non-judgemental listening guaranteed, all orientations
> welcome. With Carol Queen and Jennifer Cross.
> $5-up sliding scale, but no one turned away for lack of funds.
>
> *****
>
> Saturday, 9/23, 7:30 -- PERVERTS PUT OUT
> At CounterPULSE!, 1310 Mission St., SF
>
> Yes, it's true! It's the long-awaited return of Perverts Put Out!
> This legendary spoken word smut salon is back just in time for the
> Folsom Street Fair. Join us for a rowdy, raunchy night of readings
> from Simon Sheppard, Carol Queen, Kirk Read, Charlie Anders, Greta
> Christina, horehound stillpoint, and Lori Selke.
>
> Perverts Put Out! features the cutting edge of sex writing in all
> its forms. Memoir, fiction, poetry, and anything else our author's
> kinky little minds can come up with. Explicit or not, PPO is always
> both hot and challenging.
>
> How much: $5-15 sliding scale to benefit the Center for Sex and
> Culture. No-one turned away for lack of funds.
>
> *****
>
> Sunday, 9/24 -- FOLSOM STREET FAIR
> Whether or not you come volunteer with us, please drop by and say
> hi if you come to this huge outdoor fetish-fest! One of the most
> amazing street parties in San Francisco... no, the world! If you
> don't want to wander around looking for us, email me next week... I
> should have the booth number and location by then.
>
> *****
>
> Monday, 9/25, 6:30-8 pm -- CAROL READS WITH STEPHEN ELLIOTT.
> ... author of the new erotic work "My Girlfriend Comes to the City
> and Beats Me Up." Other readers: Michelle Richmond and the always-
> amazing Justin Chin. At Good Vibrations, 603 Valenica near 17th. No
> charge. See www.stephenelliott.com for more about his work.
>
> *****
>
> VOLUNTEER OPPORTUNITIES
>
> Hello from CSC! Though we're not into a new space yet, we're still
> planning events and raising funds. In this newsletter you'll find 2
> major fundraising volunteer opportunities later this month. I'll
> kick off with those, and send our events calendar separately
> tomorrow. Thanks to all of you who have donated and sent us your
> well-wishes -- we are so appreciative of our community! Please tell
> your friends about these if you think they'd like to be involved.
> xox--Carol and Robert and the CSC staff
>
> Volunteers needed!!
> 9/23 -- LoveFest!
> 9/24 -- Folsom St. Fair booth!
>
>
> 9/23:
> SF LoveFest Volunteer Heroes Needed -- Benefits AIDS, Education
> and Sex-Positive Groups and Supports Musicians of New Orleans
>
> LoveFest needs gate donation volunteers on Saturday September 23rd
> in SF's Civic Center to benefit the festival, five local charities
> and New Orleans' musicians. Volunteers are asked to work a three-
> hour shift and report an hour ahead of time for sign-in and
> instructions. In turn SF LoveFest will make a donation for every
> shift to charities fighting AIDS and Hepatitis as well as doing
> visionary work educating about sexuality and gender issues.
>
> In addition, volunteers will also benefit the Musicians' Village, a
> Habitat for Humanity project which is building homes and a music
> studio in the city that saw over 1800 deaths and suffered the
> costliest and one of the deadliest hurricanes in the history of the
> United States. The local beneficiaries include The Center For Sex &
> Culture, NextAID, OUCH (Organizing Up Communities Against
> Hepatitis), SF Sex Information and the St. James Infirmary Clinic.
>
> The 3rd Annual SF event is part of the Love Parade tradition
> started in Berlin after the wall separating East and West Berlin
> was torn down. It started with one music truck and over the next 15
> years grew into the premiere music festival in Europe, with over a
> million folks attending. In 2004 San Francisco became the official
> North American Love Parade site.
>
> DETAILS from your volunteer coordinator, Sister Kitty: We have two
> main shifts with a check-in and brief gate training an hour before
> your work starts. For the 12:30-3:30pm shift, check-in at 11:30am.
> For the 3-6pm shift, check-in 2pm. Bring your friends for twice as
> much fun... and volunteer credit! You can work a double shift to
> credit your group with two shifts and we will again provide a
> spiffy collectors t-shirt to wear, _clean_ volunteer porta-potties
> with no lines, a coat-check for your backpacks and refreshments to
> keep you going. We also will have a volunteer's party mid-October
> where we present the monies raised for the charities.
>
> You should have a great attitude, be reasonably outgoing. and be
> ready to be busy, as we know that we will be having thousands of
> folks going through our gates. Some volunteers will be collecting
> donations and others will be putting stickers on anyone who donates.
>
> For every volunteer I need:
> Name
> e-mail
> Shift(s) you're able to do:
> 12:30-3:30 or 3-6p or all day
> we are somewhat flexible on shift times so please send me a note
> with any questions as we can usually work with special requests.
>
> You can sign up with friends IF you arrive together. We should be
> able to place you in the same area.
> A follow-up confirm email will be sent for where to report to and
> to confirm the shift.
> CQ says: Let Kitty know you're a CSC volunteer!)
>
> Sister Kitty Catalyst, OCP
> LoveFest 2006 Community Partner Coordinator
>
> 415/all-milk
> Pusspuss@gotblow.org
>
> *****
>
> 9/24 Folsom Booth:
>
> Once again CSC will share a large booth with our pals at Fantasy
> Makers. They'll spank and stuff; we will run fuck machines and try
> to thrill people and raise cash!
>
> Help needed to:
> --set up and break down the booth
> --"model" on the machines (exhibitionists... where are you?)
> --staff during the day and talk up the CSC and ask for donations
>
> ANY time commitment will help us out, so if you only have an hour
> or two to commit, that's OK! Or spend the day with us, if you like!
>
> Please email us back if you're interested in 9/24. If you have
> questions about it let us know your number; Robert will call you
> back and give you more details.
>
> *****
>
> And not CSC, but perhaps of interest...
>
> 9/15, 16, and 17 -- KITTEN ON THE KEYS GOES TO DENVER!
> Check out www.lannies.com for all the deets. Tell your Colorado
> friends not to miss her!
>
> *****
>
> Saturday, 9/30, 2 pm -- VERN BULLOUGH MEMORIAL SERVICE in L.A.
> Steve Allen Theater at the Center for Inquiry-West
> 4773 Hollywood Blvd.
> Hollywood, CA 90027
> (between Normandie & Vermont, parking lot behind building)
> (323) 666-9797
>
> Vern was a tireless sexologist, educator and researcher. If you
> want to know more about him, his familiy and colleagues have made
> available these links to sites with Vern Bullough obituaries; CV;
> lists of publications; copies of papers; memorial donation
> sugggestions...
>
> http://www.ebar.com/news/article.php?sec=news&article=987
> http://www.nytimes.com/2006/07/03/us/03bullough.html?
> ex=1158120000&en=3cbb6746cd3a8ed4&ei=5070
> http://www.vernbullough.com/bullough/index.html
> http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vern_Bullough
>
http://www.buffalo.edu/reporter/vol37/vol37n40/columns/Obituaries.html
> http://www.aclu-sc.org/News/OpenForum/101947/101959/
> http://www2.hu-berlin.de/sexology/Entrance_Page/About_Us/
> Advisory_Board/advisory_board.htm
> http://www.iheu.org/node/2297
> https://secure.aahn.org/obituaries.html
> http://sexualidad.wordpress.com/2006/07/04/vern-bullough/
> http://www.alumni.utah.edu/u-news/august06/memoriam.htm
>
> *****
>
> ST JAMES INFIRMARY HAS JOB OPENINGS:
>
> SJI OUTREACH COORDINATOR
> (15-20 Hours per week)
>
> Outreach Coordinator is responsible for coordinating Prevention &
> Education
> Outreach activities, developing and implementing weekly outreach
> schedules,
> supervision and recruiting outreach staff, outreach program and
> service
> delivery development and evaluation activities.
>
> Duties and Responsibilities:
> * Recruits and interviews potential outreach volunteers and staff.
> * Trains and supervises all Outreach Workers during street and
> venue based
> outreach, tabling events, community networking and benefits.
> * Coordinates monthly Outreach Team schedule for street outreach,
> indoor
> venue outreach community networking and tabling community events.
> * Provides individual supervision to all Outreach Workers on a
> regular
> basis, and supervises daily/weekly activities.
> * Coordinates and facilitates monthly Outreach Team Meetings with
> appropriate topics/trainings/guest speakers to meet the current
needs
> of the Outreach Program.
> * Provides on-call/back-up coverage for Outreach Workers during
> weekly
> shifts.
> * Maintains training/certification status of Outreach Workers.
> * Conducts bi-monthly street/venue outreach and documents all
> information
> collected during sessions with participants onto outreach logs,
> Eli and
> other required forms.
> * Monitors quality of data on all outreach logs, ELI's, surveys,
> field
> notes. Collects all paperwork and timesheets from Outreach Workers.
> * Orders and maintains, in stock, all program supplies, keeping
> abreast of
> current requests from participants through Outreach Workers.
> * Organizes and maintains information and data related to sex work
> venues,
> and community resource listings and materials specific to Outreach
> Program.
> (Local, national, and international).
> * Participates in existing community collaborations, and
> coordinates mutual
> referrals and services specific to Outreach activities (WCC,
Outreach
> Provider's Meeting-e/o month and quarterly commitment respectively).
> * Maintains communication with community partners, related to
> Outreach, and
> compiles list of upcoming events (tabling/fliering), in order to
> increase
> services/opportunities for Sex Workers.
> * Assistance with evaluation activities including developing
outreach
> survey tools, gathering statistics (ACCESS), developing and printing
> outreach reports (monthly/annual), and providing programmatic
support
> during monitoring periods.
> * Co-coordinates and/or participates in public speaking
> engagements and
> conferences, as available.
> * Completes/maintains required training programs (Basic 1 & 2;
> yearly CET;
> Harm Reduction), and attends weekly all-staff meetings, weekly
> Coordinators
> meetings, quarterly agency support meetings and twice yearly Harm
> Reduction
> Trainings.
> * Attends supervision sessions monthly, and prepares agenda
> (informal).
> * Provides administrative assistance when necessary-answers phone
> and leave
> messages for appropriate staff during business hours.
> * Mails and/or drops off fliers, resource guides, volunteer
> applications,
> etc. to individuals and/or agencies that make requests during
> Outreach
> activities.
> * Provides program support in areas of HIV/STD Peer Counseling, harm
> reduction workshops, support groups, etc.
>
> Skills and Qualifications:
> * Experience in or knowledge of the sex industry and occupational
> health
> and safety issues affecting Sex Workers
> *Experience coordinating outreach services and supervising
> staff/volunteers.
> *Good written and verbal communication skills, and strong
> organizational
> skills.
> *Able to handle a fast-paced, multi-task environment.
> *Ability to de-escalate crisis situations in the field.
> *Cultural sensitivity and willingness to work with people of
> different
> ethnic backgrounds, sexual identities and orientations.
> *Experience working with people who use substances, including
> injection
> drugs and crack.
> *Experience working with people living with or affected by HIV/AIDS.
> *Willingness and proven ability to work cooperatively with other
> colleagues
> and community members.
> *Flexibility with monthly schedule and activities.
> *Bi-lingual strongly desired.
> *5 day CHOW/Basic I&II/Harm Reduction Overview trainings strongly
> desired.
> *CADL/good driving record helpful.
> *Microsoft Word, Excel, ACCESS and other computer skills desirable
>
> Salary: $17.50 per hour (gross), 15-20 hours each week
> How to apply: Please send or drop off resume and/or cover letter
> to the above "office address"
>
> The St. James Infirmary is an Equal Opportunity Employer, and we are
> committed to creating a diverse and culturally competent community.
>
>
> ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
>
> HARM REDUCTION COUNSELING & TRAINING COORDINATOR
> JOB DESCRIPTION
> 10-15 hours a week
>
> Duties and Responsibilities:
> * Coordinate all Harm Reduction & Peer Counseling/HIV & STI
> Counseling and
> Testing activities at weekly clinics, quarterly venue-based
> counseling and
> testing sessions, and per research-based counseling and testing
> programs
> * Monitor all Harm Reduction & Peer Counseling/HIV & STI
> Counseling and
> Testing during clinic-based and venue-based sessions
> * Provide coordination of HIV counseling and testing, and
> supervision for
> SJI Intake & Harm Reduction Counselors during collaborative outreach
> sessions
> * Provide On-Duty coverage each week during clinic shifts
> * Conduct outreach with new participants at weekly clinics, and/or
at
> community forums
> * Conduct intake/needs assessments with new participants and
> supervise
> completion of intake assessments
> * Conduct risk assessments, disclosure sessions, and individual
> harm/risk
> reduction counseling sessions at weekly clinics and during venue-
> based
> sessions
> * Document all information collected during sessions with
> participants onto
> Eli and other required forms, and obtain completed paperwork from
all
> counselors at the end of every shift
> * Maintain and complete, if necessary, all incident reports
> incurred during
> clinic shifts and/or off-site activities involving Harm Reduction
> Counselors and/or Intake Workers
> * Complete/maintain required training programs (Basic 1 & 2;
> CET's; Harm
> Reduction), and maintain training/certification status of all Harm
> Reduction Counselors
> * Co-facilitate weekly program team meetings after clinic
> * Co-facilitate and coordinate monthly harm reduction trainings and
> workshops
> * Attend weekly all staff meetings, weekly Coordinators meetings,
and
> quarterly agency support meetings
> * Attend supervision sessions bi-monthly, and prepare agenda
> (informal)
> * Maintain communication with DPH lab, and coordinate all drop-off's
> (specimen)/pick-up's (results)
> * Maintain communication with DPH AIDS Office re: completed CIF's,
> counselor updates, trainings, etc.
> * Maintain communication with community partners, in order to
> increase
> services for Sex Workers
> * Assistance with evaluation activities including gathering
> statistics
> (Eli/ISHTR/Access), printing journals and reports, providing
> programmatic
> support during monitoring periods, and conducting staff
> evaluations and
> developing work plans
> * Co-coordinate and/or participate in public speaking engagements
and
> conferences, as available
> * Answer phones during business hours and put all messages into
> appropriate
> staff in-boxes
> * Mail and/or drop off fliers, resource guides, volunteer
> applications,
> etc. to individuals and/or agencies that make request via mail or
> phone
> * Order and maintain in stock all program supplies
>
> Skills and Qualifications:
> * Experience in or knowledge of the sex industry and occupational
> health
> and safety issues affecting Sex Workers
> * Experience working with people who use substances, including
> injection
> drugs
> * Experience working with people living with or affected by HIV/AIDS
> * Experience coordinating counseling and testing services and
> supervising
> staff
> * Cultural sensitivity and willingness to work with people of
> different
> ethnic backgrounds, sexual identity and orientations, and people
> living
> with HIV/AIDS
> * Willingness and proven ability to work cooperatively with other
> colleagues and community members
> * Good written and verbal communication skills
> * Flexibility with schedule and activities
> * Organized and able to handle a multi task environment
> * Microsoft Word and other computer skills are desirable
> * Bilingual preferred
> * Phlebotomy skills desired
>
>
> ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
>
> HARM REDUCTION COUNSELOR
>
> Duties and Responsibilities:
> * Conduct intake/needs assessments with new participants, as
> needed or
> requested.
> * Conduct risk assessments, disclosure sessions, and individual risk
> reduction counseling sessions at weekly clinics, during venue-based
> sessions, and per research-based counseling and testing programs.
> * Document all information collected during sessions with
> participants onto
> PEMS and other required forms.
> * Complete, if necessary, all incident reports incurred during
> Counseling
> sessions.
> * Complete/maintain required training programs (Basic 1 & 2;
> CET's; Harm
> Reduction).
> * Check in with On-Duty Manager before leaving clinic, and
> participate in
> any team de-briefing sessions at the end of each shift.
> * Attend scheduled staff meetings, monthly team meetings,
> quarterly agency
> support meetings, and applicable staff trainings.
> * Attend supervision sessions as needed/requested, and prepare
agenda
> (informal).
> * Assistance with quality assurance and evaluation activities
> including
> providing programmatic support during clinic shifts and monitoring
> periods,
> and distributing and collecting satisfaction surveys.
> * Participation in public speaking engagements and conferences, as
> available.
> * Answer phones during business hours and put all messages into
> appropriate
> staff in-boxes.
> * Mail and/or drop off fliers, resource guides, volunteer
> applications,
> etc. to individuals and/or agencies that make request via mail or
> phone.
>
> Skills and Qualifications:
> * Experience in or knowledge of the sex industry and occupational
> health
> and safety issues affecting Sex Workers
> * Experience working with people who use substances, including
> injection
> drugs
> * Experience working with people living with or affected by HIV/AIDS
> * Experience in providing counseling and testing services
> * Cultural sensitivity and willingness to work with people of
> different
> ethnic backgrounds, sexual identity and orientations, and people
> living
> with HIV/AIDS
> * Willingness and proven ability to work cooperatively with other
> colleagues and community members
> * Good written and verbal communication skills
> * Flexibility with schedule and activities
> * Organized and able to handle a multi task environment
> * Microsoft Word and other computer skills are desirable
> * Phlebotomy skills desired
> * Bilingual desired
>

> *****
Interested in making a safer sex (Bi?) porn short for the ???
screening at the Castro Theater on 10/26?
Have the time and skills needed to script, act, edit, produce such
a short?
Get in touch with walkingoak@hotmail.com ASAP. Deadline is 7 pm 9/30!
> (If you missed this in the last newsletter: GV AMATEUR EROTIC VIDEO
> COMPETITION
> Make a short (10 minutes max) erotic movie and submit it -- all
> details at www.goodvibes.com.
> Screenings on 10/26 at the Castro Theatre and 10/27 at the Parkway!
>

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HELP C4SC MOVE

CaptainErotica — Sat, 19 Aug 2006 13:44:01 GMT

Hi friends--

A quick update on our moving plans and needs.

We need help moving our library, which is boxed up, into storage pods.
This starts Saturday at 10 a.m., and when we get the library out, we
will start moving some of the furniture into place for the professional
movers to get it from the building on Monday. Scheduled events will
continue through August 27, but most of our items will be going into
storage as of early next week.

We would be very, very grateful for any assistance! Please just show
up, at 398 11th St. at Harrison, if you can pitch in.

Thank you!
Robert and Carol

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Woodhull Freedom Foundation

spimaker — Mon, 07 Aug 2006 21:14:53 GMT

Those of you interested in political change toward a sex positive society might want to look into the Woodhull Freedom Foundation and Federation. Founded three or so years ago, they appear to be making progress on this mission.

http://www.woodhullfoundation.org

Regards - SPIMaker

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"We're Not Dead Yet"

Sat, 05 Aug 2006 17:39:54 GMT

Hey all, this isn't CSC related at all but it is relatively in the same neighborhood and I figure the CSC folks would be into supporting the needle exchange as well as the homeless youth alliance! Some friends of mine are helping to organize it. Check it out. Thanks!

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------

ONSIX GALLERY PRESENTS
http://www.onsixgallery.com/pages/schedule.html

WE'RE NOT DEAD:
A Benefit for the San Francisco Needle Exchange and Homeless Youth Alliance
Friday, August 11th, 2006
7:00pm - 2:00am

MUSIC:
look back and laugh
outraged
never healed
mindless mutant

ARTISTS:
Carl Auge
Amanda Beane
Freddy Corbin
David V. D'Andrea
Eve Ekman
Blas Espino
Chris Fitzpatrick
Jana Flynn
Jeff Gleason
Mary Howe
Camille Johnson
Ben Lovejoy
Jeanne Lydon
Jason Mcafee
Shay Nowick
Kyle Ranson
Jason Roberts-Dobrin
Moses Saarni
Paul Schiek
Sham
Stefan Simikich
Jill Stortzh
Scott Sylvia
Ed Templeton
Alison Tharp
Amy Thompson

onsix gallery
60 sixth street san francisco, ca
7pm - 2am $10-$10,000 suggested donation 21+

--------------

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Be on TV!!!

CaptainErotica — Sat, 05 Aug 2006 13:02:00 GMT

Hi everyone-

Usually, Carol is the one to send these sorts of emails out, but she's
in the UK for their masturbate-a-thon, so I'm filling in. I received
this email from the folks at Good Vibrations and figured that enough of
you might be interested in getting on TV that it was worth sending out
this email on its own. If you'd like to get involved, get in touch with
them at the address below.

Thanks!

Charlie Glickman

-----------------------------------------------------
Hello!

Here! Networks will be filming a workshop tentatively titled, "Flirting
to get laid for Lesbians" for the show "Lesbian Sex and Sexuality" at
the Polk St. Good Vibes this Wednesday, August 9th. Since this is more
of a filming than a workshop, we need 10-20 women who would like to act
as the participating audience for this event (although I'm sure you'll
learn a thing or two as well).

The event will start at 8pm and we are asking peopleto arrive at least
15 minutes early to make sure we get a smooth start. As a big Good
Vibes thank you, we are offering goodie bags filled with all kinds of great
GV, well..goodies for everyone. It should only last an hour or so, and
you must be willing to sign an appearance release form since this will
eventually be televised. If you would like to participate please RSVP
(so we know how many people to expect) ASAP to agoldstein@goodvibes.com.

*Tips for TV*- the producers have informed us that no one should wear
clothing with "small patterns" as they tend to look funny on film.
Additionally, please do not wear ALL black or ALL white, but any combination
of the two or any other colors should be just fine.

Thanks to everyone, this should be a really fun event!

Sincerely,

Allison Goldstein
Marketing Assistant
Good Vibrations
agoldstein@goodvibes.com

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Lady Thorn's SM Community Exchange and Fandango

Phil — Tue, 01 Aug 2006 05:51:42 GMT

Hi everyone

Mark your calendars. Lady Thorns SM Community Exchange and Fandango is on August 13th. Just a couple of weeks away.

An afternoon at the Bizarre Flea, topped off with a Fandango party at the SF Citadel, will
make for a really memorable day.

Come join us for a great day of socializing, shopping, playing and enjoying a San
Francisco Leather Tradition.

If you are a vendor or know of a vendor, please forward this to them.

On August 13th, 2006

Please join Lady Thorn, Kinky Crafts people, Artisans, Leather,
Fetish and SM Community members on Sunday August 13, for the second
"SM Community Exchange" of 2006!

This is the original San Francisco Leather Swap Meet and has been
Going on since December of 1983.

Vendors range from many of the best toy makers in the country to
artists, authors, photographers, fetish clothing makers to personal
Collections and one of a kind items for the connoisseurs in us.

Socialize with leather/fetish folk at this three times a year event.

Date: Sunday August 13, 2006
Address: 942 Mission Street
(between 5th and 6th Streets)
Doors open at 2:00 PM
Admission to the Bizarre Flea is only $5.00

Vendor Info: contact Lady Thorn @ 415/753-0703
Vender Set up: 12:30 PM

Easy parking at the 5th and Mission garage.

Continue the fun by joining us at Fandango.

We will weave our magic inside the SF Citadel with our special
Lighting and music, providing you with an environment where your energy can soar.

Admission will be available at the Fandango table inside the SM
Community Exchange or at the door if you have attended a Fandango in the past.

We provide special food, soft drinks, safer sex supplies and a wonderful
Fun place to play

Please bring your toys (old and new) 9and hot energy.

Admission: $20.00 at the SM Flea.
Sunday, August 13, 2006
6:30PM to 1:00PM
The SF Citadel Space
1277 Mission Street
San Francisco, Ca 94103

Work exchange is always needed, contact us for work exchange please.

For further info or to help with the party, please check out our
websites at:

www.sfcitadel.org
www.smflea.com

PS: the next Exchange and Fandango will be December 10, 2006

sually held the second Sunday in December, August and December.

Thanks

P.S Please forward this to all who you feel should know about it.

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July Update

CaptainErotica — Mon, 24 Jul 2006 18:34:55 GMT

Hi everyone!
Just a note to remind you about the truly exciting stuff on CSC's
plate this week. Please do tell anyone you know, and we hope to see
you at one or more of these great gigs.
xox--
Carol Queen

Thursday, July 27, 7 pm -- All About T
John Otto teaches this comprehensive class about testosterone for
FTMs, allies, and professionals who work with the trans community.
His earlier All About T workshop filled up, so this is back by
popular demand! Last chnce before he goes back to Seattle. $10-30
sliding scale, but no one will be turned away for lack of funds.
At Center for Sex & Culture, 398 11th Street at Harrison.
John's bio and more info at www.sexandculture.org/pages/upcoming-
events-at-CSC.html

Saturday, July 29, 8 pm, show at -- Smutfest!
Fudgie Frottage and Jennifer Blowdryer present a blast from the past
(the very first Smutfest was at the DNA in 1991 and is where Carol
and Robert first met a new gal in town named Midori!) and a warning
shot across the bow of the future. With Kirk Read, Lady Monster,
Moonshine Shorey, Dave Dalton the Perverted Pastor, burlesque with
The Indra and Riose Pistola, Alvin Orloff, Malcolm Hamilton, and more!
$7-5 sliding scale. At Center for Sex & Culture, 398 11th Street at
Harrison.
More info and an awesome pic of Blowdryer at www.sexandculture.org/
pages/upcoming-events-at-CSC.html

And coming up in August: Rumi Missabou of the Cockettes produces
three shows a weekend all month long! Candye Kane is coming! We're
about to book Jana Marcus (her "Transformations" show is up at Polk
street's gallery) for a benefit for the Transgender Law Project!
Charlie is teaching his adult sex ed class! Shelley Mars might be
coming! And tell your Brit friends: the Masturbate-a-Thon goes to
London, 8/5! See www.masturbate-a-thon.co.uk!

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Seeking New Place to Live

juicybooty13 — Fri, 21 Jul 2006 18:47:54 GMT

I rarely post to any of the tribes I belong to...but I decided to 'hit them up' in my time of need.
I am a single woman, 33, no pets,non-smoker,fully employed @ UCSF as a social worker .Currently I am in a roomate situation that I've lived in for 3yrs.The Owners are now selling this building. I am clean, resourceful, friendly, easy going, and relatively quiet.The goal is to rent in an area close to public transportation. My credit isn't immaculate(school loans and an eviction in 93, unfortunatley) but I can provide personal and work references as well as proof of income.

If you know of anyone looking for a roomate,a sublet filler or own property with studios/one bedrooms, please send me an message.

Have a Fab day and enjoy your weekend!
G.

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EXCELLENT EVENTS FOR YOU!

CaptainErotica — Mon, 17 Jul 2006 18:48:42 GMT

Friday, July 21, 8 pm -- THE WET SPOTS with KITTEN ON THE KEYS!
Smart, Sexy Canadian Duo The Wet Spots Harmonize at the Center for
Sex & Culture -- Local Songstress Kitten on the Keys to Open

CSC proudly welcomes "bawdy and brilliant" Canadian singer/songwriter
duo The Wet Spots next week for a rare Bay Area show. Cass King and
John Woods, AKA the Wet Spots, are a real-life couple whose musical
comedy features frisky lyrics, tight harmonies, and songs celebrating
group sex, anal experimentation, and a cowgirl who flouted Texas' law
against owning dildos. On tour to promote their newest album, "Hello
Kinky," the Spots will treat their CSC audience to a romp through the
wild and wiggy world of sex, where neither the prudes nor the pervs
are safe from knowing, loving satire. Perhaps best known for their
Internet video sensation "Do You Take It (In the Ass)," featured on
The L Word and downloaded over 800,000 times, the Wet Spots are equal
parts sexual sophistication, specialist humor act, and polished
cabaret professionals.

Opening for the Wet Spots is San Francisco's own Suzanne Ramsey, AKA
Kitten on the Keys, whose burlesque-inflected cabaret shows feature
original songs as well as raunchy old standards, sung in an
unforgettable voice that will remind listeners in equal parts of
Betty Boop and Mae West. SF Weekly Music Award winner Kitten is a
much-beloved crowd pleaser and the only artist CSC could imagine
booking on the same bill with the Wet Spots!

Details
When and where: CSC, 398 11th Street near Harrison, San Francisco. 8
pm, doors open at 7:30.
How much: $10-50 sliding scale. Tickets at the door. Bring extra to
purchase the artists' CDs!

For more about the Wet Spots: www.wetspotsmusic.com
For more about Kitten on the Keys: www.suzanneramsey.net
Watch the music video for their smash hit "Do you take it?" at http://
www.goodiebag.tv/video/do_you_take_it.htm

*******

Saturday, July 22, 7 pm -- SEX & ART: A multi-media journey with
Penny Slinger
Penny takes us on an intimate guided tour of her life and art,
illustrated with hundreds of images of her work. Experience an up
close and personal look into the evolution of one of the world' s top
visionary erotic artists. Penny emerged on the British art scene in
the sixties, challenging the existing status quo and playing a key
role in the sexual revolution. She discovered Tantra in the early
seventies and her bestselling book 'Sexual Secrets' (co-written with
Nik Douglas) was published in 1979. For the last twelve years she has
been living at the Goddess Temple, sanctuary and multi-media studios,
in the Santa Cruz Mountains. She will complete the presentation with
excerpts from her latest sensual/erotic video art.To learn more about
Penny Slinger, see her Bio-Sphere 'My Life As Art' at
www.pennyslinger.com

At CSC, 398 11th St., SF. Cost $20

*******

Sunday, July 23, 1-5 pm -- SEXUAL IDENTITY COLLAGE WORKSHOP

Who am I? How do I see myself? How does society define me? What are
gender stereotypes? How can I express more of who I really am?

In this collage workshop, Penny Slinger will guide participants in a
journey of self discovery and self expression through the medium of
collage. Each participant will be asked to create a collage which
defines their sense of sexual identity. From her wide ranging
experience in many different forms of collage, Penny can reveal how
collage can be used as a powerful tool to re-create your own reality.
At the completion of the workshop, each member will be asked to share
their collage with the group, presenting it as their own map of
consciousness and inviting the insights and reflections of other
participants.

Although Penny will supply collage materials from her collection,
people wishing to attend the workshop are requested to gather
relevant materials, photographs etc., for their personal collage and
bring them to the workshop. Workshop attendees should also bring
their own scissors.

Penny Slinger is an artist, writer, photographer and videographer.
She has a number of books published, including three books of erotic
collages. To see more of her work, go to www.pennyslinger.com

At CSC, 398 11th St., SF. Cost: $40 Pre-register at
www.sexandculture.org or (415) 255-1155.

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End of July At C4SC

CaptainErotica — Mon, 17 Jul 2006 18:49:25 GMT

i friends! A special welcome to our new list members from Desiree
Alliance, the Journeymen, and Writers in Drag! It's been a wild and crazy
couple of weeks. Here's the latest news:

The London Masturbate-a-Thon has been POSTPONED until August 5. We have
a location now, and at least one beneficiary organization: Marie Stopes
International. We'd still love to hear from any of your UK friends who
might wish to attend, especially if they'd like to help out!

Tonight the lovely folk at Queen of Heaven host their summer safer sex
party and have room for a few more RSVPs. Please see below, but note
that attendance this time is restricted to women and their partners and
gay/bi men; this allows them to maintain their gender balance.

We have already told you about Penny Slinger's fabulous events on 7/22
and 7/23. Please let us know in advance whether you will be attending
either her slideshow or her collage workshop, and thanks for
pre-registering. FYI, she will be in the gallery before her event on the 22nd; if
you'd like to meet her and view her magnificent collages, please drop
by after 5 pm.

Besides our great events, please see all the way below for Paul Reubens
Day (partially benefits CSC!), news on Cleo DuBois' upcoming
intensives, and a note from our intern Molly who wishes to interview anyone who
identifies/plays within the Furry community.

Another intern, Matt, is seeking out sex-positive (incl. pansexual and
sexual health) student organizations and activists (as well as
sex-positive instructors) at colleges and universities all over the US and
Canada. If you know of people or groups who should be in the database he is
compiling for CSC, please let us know!

xoxox--Carol and the CSC crew

IN THIS ISSUE:
Queen of Heaven TONIGHT!
Transgenderism and Intersexuality: Commonalities and Differences --
7/19
The Wet Spots with Kitten on the Keys -- 7/21
Sex & Art: A multi-media journey with Penny Slinger -- 7/22
Sexual Identity Collage Workshop -- 7/23 afternoon (PLEASE
pre-register!)
The SF Jacks -- 7/24
All About T -- 7/27
Smutfest! -- 7/29
August events

Saturday, July 15, 8 pm -- QUEEN OF HEAVEN presents: Beach Blanket
Bimbo, A Nude Beach Party!
PLEASE NOTE: This private safer-sex event is open at this time only for
women and their partners (of any gender) and gay/bi men, due to an
ongoing effort to maintain a comfortable gender balance. your understanding
is appreciated.

We can't bring our party to the beach, but we can bring the beach to
our party. You'll have to imagine the sand and the sun, but the rest of
the fun will be present in spades. Bring your bikini, swim trunks,
flip-flops, barely-there coverup, or turn our play space into your own
private nude beach by going bare-assed naked. Bring your sunglasses, your
beach ball and your parasol, but no need for sunscreen. Share your towel
with someone like-minded and help us frolic and celebrate the height of
summer.

When: Saturday, July 15, 2006. Doors open at 8 pm and close at 11:30
pm; party continues until 2 am or so. There will be a short ritual at
midnight. Feel free to bring something to adorn the altar (like a
seashell?) if you're so inspired.

Where: RSVP to 415-255-1155 for the address. We DO NOT accept e-mail
reservations!

How Much: $25-50 sliding scale per person, payable at the door. All
money raised is donated to the Center for Sex and Culture.

Dress: This is a party, so dress up! Wear something sexy and naughty.
Nudity always welcome - show us some skin! Secure clothes check
provided.

More Rules:
* Safer sex only, please.
* You must RSVP for and arrive with any newcomers unless arranged
otherwise in advance.
* Remember, this is NOT a public event. We like to get the word out,
but please ask before forwarding this invitation anywhere. Do not repost
without permission.
* We provide food, drink, safe sex supplies, etc., but if there's
something special you'd prefer to have on hand, we encourage you to bring
your own.
* No alcohol or other drugs, please.

*******

Wednesday, July 19, 7 pm -- TRANSGENDERISM AND INTERSEXUALITY:
DIFFERENCES AND COMMONALITIES
At the Center for Sex & Culture, 398 11th St., SF. $5-30 sliding scale,
no one turned away for lack of funds.

What do the terms “transgender” and “intersexual” cover? Where do
issues converge and diverge between the two categories? Workshop attendees
will develop a better understanding of the different forms of
transgenderism and intersexuality, the vocabulary used in relationship to these
two categories, and the political and activist struggles of trans and
intersexed people. Within gender studies and in LGBT activist circles,
both transgenderism and intersexuality have become the cause celebre.
Despite this newfound interest, many people have little understanding or
misconstrued ideas about transgenderism and intersexuality, sometimes
confusing one for the other. The purpose of this workshop is to increase
understanding of the political needs of transpeople and intersexed
people, through deepening understanding of the two categories and the
institutional issues of both—where the commonalities lie and where they
diverge.

Participants will emerge with a better understanding of the categories
“transgender” and “intersex”, acquire relevant vocabulary, and develop
a better understanding of the political and legal issues that
transpeople and intersexed people face. Attendees will have a better
appreciation for where trans and intersex issues overlap and where they separate,
in order to become better allies.

Instructor Bio: John Otto is nearing completion of a Masters in Library
and Information Science at the University of Washington. He has a BA
from The Evergreen State College in multidisciplinary gender/sex
studies. He has also taken additional coursework on transgenderism at San
Francisco State University, interned with the Intersex Society of North
American, and is active within the trans community. This spring he
presented “Addressing the Information Needs of FTMs” at the first formal
world conference for professionals and anyone involved with GLBT archives,
libraries, museums and special collections, and collectors of GLBT
materials.

*******

Friday, July 21, 8 pm -- THE WET SPOTS with KITTEN ON THE KEYS!
Smart, Sexy Canadian Duo The Wet Spots Harmonize at the Center for Sex
& Culture -- Local Songstress Kitten on the Keys to Open

CSC proudly welcomes "bawdy and brilliant" Canadian singer/songwriter
duo The Wet Spots next week for a rare Bay Area show. Cass King and John
Woods, AKA the Wet Spots, are a real-life couple whose musical comedy
features frisky lyrics, tight harmonies, and songs celebrating group
sex, anal experimentation, and a cowgirl who flouted Texas' law against
owning dildos. On tour to promote their newest album, "Hello Kinky," the
Spots will treat their CSC audience to a romp through the wild and
wiggy world of sex, where neither the prudes nor the pervs are safe from
knowing, loving satire. Perhaps best known for their Internet video
sensation "Do You Take It (In the Ass)," featured on The L Word and
downloaded over 800,000 times, the Wet Spots are equal parts sexual
sophistication, specialist humor act, and polished cabaret professionals.

Opening for the Wet Spots is San Francisco's own Suzanne Ramsey, AKA
Kitten on the Keys, whose burlesque-inflected cabaret shows feature
original songs as well as raunchy old standards, sung in an unforgettable
voice that will remind listeners in equal parts of Betty Boop and Mae
West. SF Weekly Music Award winner Kitten is a much-beloved crowd pleaser
and the only artist CSC could imagine booking on the same bill with the
Wet Spots!

Details
When and where: CSC, 398 11th Street near Harrison, San Francisco. 8
pm, doors open at 7:30.
How much: $10-50 sliding scale. Tickets at the door. Bring extra to
purchase the artists' CDs!

For more about the Wet Spots: www.wetspotsmusic.com
For more about Kitten on the Keys: www.suzanneramsey.net
Watch the music video for their smash hit "Do you take it?" at
http://www.goodiebag.tv/video/do_you_take_it.htm

*******

Saturday, July 22, 7 pm -- SEX & ART: A multi-media journey with Penny
Slinger
Penny takes us on an intimate guided tour of her life and art,
illustrated with hundreds of images of her work. Experience an up close and
personal look into the evolution of one of the world' s top visionary
erotic artists. Penny emerged on the British art scene in the sixties,
challenging the existing status quo and playing a key role in the sexual
revolution. She discovered Tantra in the early seventies and her
bestselling book 'Sexual Secrets' (co-written with Nik Douglas) was published
in 1979. For the last twelve years she has been living at the Goddess
Temple, sanctuary and multi-media studios, in the Santa Cruz Mountains.
She will complete the presentation with excerpts from her latest
sensual/erotic video art.To learn more about Penny Slinger, see her Bio-Sphere
'My Life As Art' at www.pennyslinger.com

At CSC, 398 11th St., SF. Cost $20

*******

Sunday, July 23, 1-5 pm -- SEXUAL IDENTITY COLLAGE WORKSHOP

Who am I? How do I see myself? How does society define me? What are
gender stereotypes? How can I express more of who I really am?

In this collage workshop, Penny Slinger will guide participants in a
journey of self discovery and self expression through the medium of
collage. Each participant will be asked to create a collage which defines
their sense of sexual identity. From her wide ranging experience in many
different forms of collage, Penny can reveal how collage can be used as
a powerful tool to re-create your own reality. At the completion of the
workshop, each member will be asked to share their collage with the
group, presenting it as their own map of consciousness and inviting the
insights and reflections of other participants.

Although Penny will supply collage materials from her collection,
people wishing to attend the workshop are requested to gather relevant
materials, photographs etc., for their personal collage and bring them to
the workshop. Workshop attendees should also bring their own scissors.

Penny Slinger is an artist, writer, photographer and videographer. She
has a number of books published, including three books of erotic
collages. To see more of her work, go to www.pennyslinger.com

At CSC, 398 11th St., SF. Cost: $40 Pre-register at
www.sexandculture.org or (415) 255-1155.

********

Monday, July 24, 8 pm -- THE SAN FRANCISCO JACKS
Email us to be put in touch with this lovely group of men exploring
social masturbation.

********

Thursday, July 27, ALL ABOUT T! A workshop about testosterone BACK BY
POPULAR DEMAND!
At the Center for Sex & Culture, 398 11th St., SF. $10-30 sliding
scale, no one turned away for lack of funds.

All About T is a workshop that provides an overview of the practical
aspects of testosterone use for female-to-male (FTM) transsexuals. This
workshop covers what every FTM—and anyone considering FTM
transition—should know about testosterone, covering types of T, social
misconceptions of T, administration methods of testosterone administration,
permanent and non-permanent changes, physical risks, potential emotional and
sexual-outlook changes, and more. The workshop is also suitable for
allies, sex educators, and professionals who want a better understanding of
the hormonal aspects of FTM transition.

Workshop Background:
"Through a search for information to guide my own transition, it came
to my attention how astonishingly little information is readily
available about testosterone for FTM transitioning. Equally astonishing was how
little the majority of transitioned FTMs know about the use of
testosterone—the potential risks, treatment options, suggested medical
monitoring, etc. I also became aware of how many pre- or non-transitioned
people were grappling with whether or not to take testosterone—without the
benefit of full information about the risks and consequences of its
use, both from a medical perspective and for the implications for change
in their everyday lives. Adding to this situation, medical professionals
are often inadequately informed of the proper treatment methods for FTM
hormonal transition, and consequently, are frequently of little help.
Even for those health care providers who are relatively informed, they
are usually too short of time and too ill-equipped to prepare the
ir client for the physical and practical ramifications of
transitioning. This presentation is an attempt to remedy that lack of information
about testosterone use for transitioning. I have found that too much of
the academic work on transgenderism and transsexuality primarily focuses
on theory, which neglects and leaves invisible the day-to-day realities
of trans lives. As a result, an additional intention of this workshop
is to offer a glimpse into the practicalities of FTM transitioning, for
those who are not trans themselves, in the hopes that a deeper
understanding will allow allies to become even better allies. By giving this
workshop, I hope to build a bridge that begins to fill that gap of
understanding between theory and praxis." For more about John Otto see his
bio above (7/19).

*******

Saturday, July 29 -- SMUTFEST!!
Produced by Jennifer Blowdryer and DragStrip. Jennifer Blowdryer
started producing and performing in Smut Fests in 1988 in Pre Giuliani NYC,
when swamp like lap dancing parlors littered the island like cigarette
burns on a hospital robe. Although she will never again get Tracy Love,
the 212-970-PEEE girl, to parade naked down a dimly lit runway,
especially as Tracy has now found the Lord and lives in Michigan somewhere,
Blowdryer's bringing it on home at the Center for Sex and Culture, and
hopes you’re still up for a good time. The first San Francisco Smut Fest
was in 1991 at the DNA Lounge followed by a smattering of others.
Vintage Smut Fest footage will be screened along with a blow by blow
commentary by Blowdryer. Featuring:

MC: Blowdryer & Fudgie Frottage
DJ: Alvin Orloff, author of Gutter Boys and I Married an Earthling.
Moonshine Shorey – This full figured bartender/poet from the Bowery
Poetry Club, not yet 26, spotted JT Leroy’s truck stop hustling stories as
a fake the minute he scanned them, because he will tell the story of
actually working in a truck stop in Vermont, in between living on a
commune becoming a Mr Lower East Side runner up.
Kirk Read – author of How I Learned to Snap, is also a peer counselor
and phlebotomist at St James Infirmary, a free clinic for people who’ve
worked in the sex industry at some point in their busy lives.
Burlesque by: Rose Pistola, The Indra, and other over the top beauties.
Malcolm Hamilton – a sexy singer in a sharp suit, formerly of the bands
SIR and the one man sensation Fauntleroy. He will blow your head.
Lady Monster – I (Jennifer Blowdryer) was first introduced to Lady
Monster at Sleaze Fest, by Mr Jello Biafra – sweet! She’ll either perform
some erotica (that word) or do a burlesque number, depending on
everybody’s mood.
Dave Dalton – The Perverted Pastor, fresh from Cell Block 5, will
accompany Miss Blowdryer, musically. They both date from the Mabuhay
Gardens, the old SF Punk Scene, and are remarkably alive.

When: Saturday, July 29th, Doors: 7:30pm, Show: 8:30pm
Where: Center for Sex and Culture, 398 – 11th Street – Upstairs!
Price: $7 - $15, Sliding Scale, Libations and snacks provided

********

AUGUST EVENTS

All month, every Saturday and Sunday -- Rumi of the Cockettes presents
art salons and special events! Deets will be on our website in a week
or so.

The London Masturbate-a-Thon -- NEW DATE 8/5! See
www.masturbate-a-thon.com for location and more.

Become an Extraordinary Lover for Men -- 8/13 (see more detail at
www.sexandculture.org/pages/upcoming-events-at-CSC.html)

Candye Kane! SAVE THE DATE!! 8/16

We're working on booking Shelly Mars for this week, too!

Become an Extraordinary Lover for women -- 8/20 (see more detail at
www.sexandculture.org/pages/upcoming-events-at-CSC.html)

AND:

Adult Sexuality Education: Principles and Practices
Thursday, August 31, 6:30-9:30, $25
When it comes to teaching workshops on sexuality topics for adults,
most educators have had to build their repertoires from personal
experience and observation. But there’s a huge field of adult education that you
can use to make your teaching more effective and fun for you and your
learners. Charlie Glickman will help you understand the essentials of
this far-reaching body of research and apply the core principles to your
topics and audiences. You’ll learn tips to help you create learning
objectives that shape your entire curriculum, skills to inspire and
support motivation in your learners, how to adapt your teaching to your
audience and ways to constructively use exercises to both reinforce and
assess learning. Whether you teach one-night sessions or semester-long
classes, this introductory workshop will give you a strong yet flexible
framework to build your lessons on, give you more confidence in your
teaching and free you to focus on what you enjoy talking about--sex!

Please email Charlie at workshops@charlieglickman.com to register. In
your email, please briefly describe your experience teaching workshops
on sexuality topics and two things you'd like to learn from this
workshop. Charlie will email you to confirm your registration.

******************************************************************************

NOT AT CSC, BUT WE BET YOU'LL LIKE 'EM:

Saturday, July 29 -- PAUL REUBENS DAY!
The Drunken Redheaded Sluts present Paul Reubens’ Day IV
Honoring the 15th Anniversary of Exposed Genius Paul Reubens's tribute
to Jocelyn Elders

WHEN: Saturday July 29th 2006 1pm Party: 9 pm

WHERE: The Castro (other locations)
Party: Dark Room Theater, 2263 Mission st.
Between 19th and 18th streets

TICKETS: (for Party only) $10 at the door, $5 in costume

INFO: www.paulreubensday.com

SAN FRANCISCO, CA - Guaranteed to make you “Scream real LOUD!”
Come celebrate four years of Pee-wee loving, bowtie wearing,
“Hiney-ho”-mongering, adult-themed Saturday kid’s show watching, secret word
screaming mayhem with us on Saturday, July 29th!
*Any and all Pee-wee/Paul Reubens related costume encouraged!!!
*-wees will meet at 1pm at location in the Castro that will be
disclosed on www.paulreubensday.com within two weeks of the 29th
*PRD is free, but bring $$$ for transportation/drinking/toys

PRD Party! After the day full of cavorting and tequila-dancing,
frolicking and spooging, drinking and “I meant to do that!” cum on down to the
Mission for the PRD after party. The days are hot and sticky and you
will be too at the porniest Pee-wee party of the year!

This year the PRD after-party includes zany performances, naughty
burlesque, weirdo sounds and video sensations and clips form The Very Porn
Paul Reubens was watching when he got arrested. And of course you are
encouraged to try your strokin’ hand at the annual costume and trivia
contests, the Miss Yvonne Beauty Pageant, which are hosted by the surprise
celebrity guest star! (Surprise Celebrity Guest Stars of the past
include Common Wealth Club poster-child “Toothy” Kate, erudite genius of the
artistic underground Dr. Hal Robins, and blowtorch wielding porno
expert vixen Violet Blue!)

A portion of the proceeds will benefit the Center for Sex and Culture.

Interested performers and volunteers can contact Sadie Lune at:
sadielune@gmail.com with ‘PRD’ in the subject line.
Event Website: http://www.paulreubensday.com

*******

Cleo Dubois' Academy of S/M Arts August Intensive
There's room for just one more student in Cleo's Erotic Dominance
Intensive for Professional Dominas August 4-6 at the Citadel in San
Francisco.
http://sm-arts.com/pro-course.htm
Refine your skills, learn more about fetishes and kinky sexuality and
get practical and useful information. Join Cleo Dubois, Mistress Eve
Minax and Selina Raven for this special annual workshop.
http://sm-arts.com/pro-application.htm
Apply today!

Also upcoming:
Erotic Dominance Intensive Weekend for Dominant Women and Women Who
Switch
Sept 30 - Oct 1, 2006
Unique hands-on training, limited to 8 students
http://www.sm-arts.com/players-course.htm

Erotic Dominance Intensive Weekend for Dominant Men and Men Who Switch
Nov 18-19 , 2006
Unique hands-on training, limited to 8 students
http://www.sm-arts.com/mens-intensive.htm

Make your scenes soar! Explore the heat, heart and spirit of S/M and
erotic dominance

******************

Hi! My name is Molly Tamulevich and I am going to be a senior at Bryn
Mawr College. As a cultural anthropology major, I am required to write a
thesis based on original research and I want to do my project on the
furry community. I am an intern at the Center for Sex and Culture this
summer and have been a fan of furries since I first read about them in
high school. I would love it if you would be willing to meet with me for
an interview about your furry interests. This is a no-pressure,
non-judgmental talk. At this stage in my research, I am just trying to get a
more thorough understanding of the culture and its members so that I can
understand it in as multifaceted a manner as possible. If you are
interested in meeting with me, please give me a call or drop me an email at
(734) 239-2376 and mtamulev@gmail.com Thank you very much!

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Bad Porn Night - The Devil in Miss Jones

ty-techslave — Sun, 16 Jul 2006 20:29:36 GMT

Wednesday July 19th 8pm $5 The Dark Room Theatre 2263 mission st. - 19th st. www.darkroomsf.com/techslave/porn

David Sutton over at VCX has the inside scoop on this bad boy:

Devil, of course, is probably the most theatrical porn flick ever
made, even though it is only the second feature ever made. Both
Deep Throat and Devil in Miss Jones were made by Gerard Damiano,
a NY hairdresser, in 1969. Since there was no non-linear editing
systems at the time, post-production took over two
years, and the features were not released until late 1971 or
early 1972. Since the federal government was then
(actually, still is) vehemently opposed to the expression of free
speech as exemplified by Damiano's works, many went to jail over
these two films, including my current sales manager.

Adam Film World's editor-in-chief, Anthony Petkovich, said that although
Deep Throat was undoubtedly the first adult feature,
Devil was the first great adult film.

This weeks hosts will be the sexy, witty Sherilyn Connelly and TBA

Catch the classics every 3rd Wednesday of the month 8pm

You've heard about them all your life but you've never seen them. Lets fix that.

We'll have 3 hot hilarious hosts cap'in on the flick. Feel free to yell your two cents at the screen.
This is not an intellectual salon.

Free popcorn. BYOB. But please, no Paul Reubens imitations. I have to clean up after the show.

Wednesday July 19th 8pm $5 The Dark Room Theatre 2263 mission st. - 19th st. www.darkroomsf.com/techslave/porn

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Invitation to a new Arizona singles / tantra event

creativetantric — Sun, 16 Jul 2006 06:46:37 GMT

I would like to invite you to a new type event for singles, happening next weekend in both Phoenix and Tucson …

Locations:
Friday, July 21 at 7:30PM
Tucson Marriott University Park Hotel
880 E. 2nd Street,Tucson AZ 85719
520-792-4100

Saturday July22nd at 7:30pm
Center for Divine Awakening (www.centerfordivineawakening.org)
15801 N. 40th Street Phoenix, AZ 85032
602-569-7421

Event Description:
This is a connective and gender-balanced evening where you can meet and interact new people, and feel free to be yourself, and self-expressive, within an environment of safety and security. Our special presenters for the evening will be relationship coaches Kip Moore and Lexi Fisher from Palm Springs CA ... for more information about them see their website at www.tantratransformation.com. This will be a 3 hour event, where you can play at your edge, and share from your core. Doors open at 7:30pm for registration.

Being able to live in love is our birthright, and love is the absence of fear. Tru Intimacy desires to offer an on-going series of connective events that provide tools so you can deepen relationships, including dating parties, special connective evenings, and also weekend-long experiential relationship workshops.

Maria Benko is the Tru Intimacy coordinator, and can be reached at 480-656-4306. Our website for both Phoenix and Tucson is www.truintimacy.org.

Let me know if you can help at least help spread the word about our event. If you have any questions, please contact me at weswolcott@hotmail.com. We do have a pdf. flyer that can be emailed.

Costs:
Event fee: $25.00 single / $40.00 couple or “paired singles” … you can register online at www.truintimacy.org ...

Again, this is a gender balanced event, so pre-registration is necessary. If you are coming as a single, we will make sure there is a match for you. And a couple can be considered as "paired singles," so bring a friend and save.

Special offers:
Mention that you saw this on Tribe and receive $10.00 off … which then would be $15 / $30. And if you can bring another couple to the event, your own admission for you and your partner, will be free.

Hope to see you there, as we attempt to bring something new to Arizona …

Sincerely,

Wes Wolcott
Tru Intimacy

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Body Electric School

annann — Sat, 08 Jul 2006 13:14:06 GMT

Hi Everyone,

I have taken two classes at the Body Electric School and I loved both of them.

I wrote about one of them in my blog . You can go and read about it if you want to.

For those of you who do not know the school, you may want to check out their site:

www.bodyelectric.org/

I will be going to the Two Spirits class on July 19 – July 23. I'm really looking forward to this class.

If anyone from Tribe is going or thinking about going I would love for you to say hi to me.

Ann

http://www.bodyelectric.org/
510) 653-1594

Two Spirits: A Retreat for Men & Women

With EMaya Dillon-Shaw and William McMeniman

Northern California (Wildwood Retreat <http://www.wildwoodretreat.com/> ), July 19-23, 2006

Upstate New York (Easton Mountain <http://www.eastonmountainretreat.com/> ), Oct 5-9, 2006

Women and men have so much to learn from and to teach each other. This four-day retreat creates a supportive community that explores and celebrates the potential healing power of all human beings. We will use conscious breath, touch and guided rituals to awaken the connections between sexuality and spirituality, and between the feminine and masculine within ourselves. When we honor our bodies and connect from our hearts, we can access collective wisdom to nourish body and soul.

Retreats begin with dinner on the first evening and end with lunch on the final day. Early tuition is $850 per person, which includes room and board. Couples may enroll early together for $1600. Register with a $200 non-refundable deposit per person. A telephone interview is required. Early registration is advised.

Class Title: Two Spirits
Tuition: *$850/$900 or *$1600/$1700 per couple
Registration: $200 non-refundable deposit per person (full tuition due 3 weeks before start of class)

*Early Tuition Fee requires registration 30 days or more prior to workshop. For registrations received less than 30 days, tuition is $900 per person or $1700 per couple.
2 0 0 6 on Contact
July 19-23 Wildwood Retreat <http://www.wildwoodretreat.com/> Body Electric (510) 653-1594
October 5-9 Easton Mountain Retreat <http://www.eastonmountainretreat.com/> Suzanne Blackburn
(207) 272-5114

Here’s what people are saying about their experience of TWO SPIRITS:

So much healing took place by having others witness me and validate my feelings. It's so wonderful to be in a room with so many kindred spirits. The energy of Two Spirits calls me into deeper living. Sarah

I felt more empowered, more self-expressed and more compassion for myself and for my fellow participants. Everything was so great. The commitment of the leaders/staff/assistants set the tone and created a safe container for anything you wanted to show up in your life. David

I've done many, many, many ALL-MALE group taoist erotic massages and I'd never had an experience like I had at Two Spirits. It was ironic! The presence of women in this workshop created a lot of anxiety for me, yet I strongly feel it was the presence of this feminine energy that made it safe for me to access and release a lot of grief that I had locked inside my body for a very LONG time. Clint

It opened all my chakras more, loosened my pelvic floor, I awakened to my partner more. I feel deeper psycho/sexual/spiritual connection to myself, my partner and to the world. Chris

I actually came back more rested than I've been in the last 5 years. Anna

The facilitators were OUTSTANDING!!! The best that I have encountered!! AN excellent job!!! I would come to other sessions if these people were running it!!! Alex

I discovered types and shadings of erotic energy that I was not previously aware of, including a spiritual/subtle aspect. I have also noticed improved self-confidence, and a greater sense of physical and emotional well-being.
Jan

I loved the intimacy created with men and meeting a tribe of like-minded people. Susan

Moving through shame and reconnecting with my erotic body gave me a deeper connection with my lover.
Anthony
I was able to express myself freely and safely. I was made to feel that I was part of the group and accepted without conditions. I was able to connect much more deeply with a part of myself that I had lost touch with over the years and needed to reconnect with in order to get back on the "path". Pat

I have experienced a growing sense of transformation and now know that I can make the changes I need to be happier and more fulfilled. Wendy

It was a real pleasure learning erotic and spiritual truths in the company of loving people. Ellen

They also have an affiliated website where they sell DVD's.
They call some of them classes because you can follow them as they are playing:

www.eroticmassage.com/

Vulva massage
Fire on the Mountain
Fire in the Valley
Anal Massage

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summertime @ C4SC

CaptainErotica — Thu, 06 Jul 2006 00:14:50 GMT

Hi friends! Welcome to the new list members who signed up during our
various Pride events.

Please note that a free art opening event is happening TOMORROW
evening; we'd love to see you here to check out Penny Slinger's extraordinary
erotic collages. See more about Penny below -- she'll be here in
person! She has two terrific events later in the month also, a collage
workshop and an evening of slides and stories about her amazing life. Slinger
was one of the early Tantrikas in the west; don't miss her!

Red Jordan Arobateau's play PORTRAITS FROM A GHETTOIZED POPULATION will
not be held in July, as was previously noted.

Carol's busy for the next couple of weeks, as you'll see in the non-CSC
listing. Hope to see you here, and/or at one of these fun events!

xoxox--All of us at the Center for Sex & Culture

IN THIS ISSUE:
Private View: The Erotic Collage of Penny Slinger -- 7/1
On-line wedding of Annie Sprinkle and Elizabeth Stephens -- 7/2
All About T -- 7/9 afternoon
Journeyman III Academy Graduation -- 7/9 evening
SF Jacks -- 7/10
Transgenderism and Intersexuality: Commonalities and Differences --
7/19
The Wet Spots with Kitten on the Keys -- 7/21
Sex & Art: A multi-media journey with Penny Slinger -- 7/22
Sexual identity Collage Workshop -- 7/23 afternoon
August events

And NON-CSC EVENTS:
Carol reads at Funny Farm, a benefit for Jon Sims Center -- 6/30
(TONIGHT!)
Carol keynotes OneTaste's Women's Festival -- 7/8 afternoon
Carol reads at Writers in Drag -- 7/8 evening
Carol keynotes the Desiree Alliance Conference on Prostitution, Las
Vegas -- 7/10

Saturday evening, July 1, 7 pm -- PRIVATE VIEW: THE EROTIC COLLAGE OF
PENNY SLINGER

The Center for Sex & Culture presents, in the Epicenter Gallery: Penny
Slinger's collages! Art opening featuring the first West Coast show of
this masterful, beautiful work. Meet Penny (creator of the Secret
Dakini Oracle and co-author of Sexual Secrets) and see her gorgeous,
evocative collage. Annie Sprinkle requested that Penny's work hang in the
gallery during her July wedding! We're very proud to be able to feature it.
One of the world' s top visionary erotic artists. Penny emerged on the
British art scene in the sixties, challenging the existing status quo
and playing a key role in the sexual revolution. She discovered Tantra
in the early seventies and her bestselling book 'Sexual Secrets'
(co-written with Nik Douglas) was published in 1979. For the last twelve years
she has been living at the Goddess Temple, sanctuary and multi-media
studios, in the Santa Cruz Mountains. See www.pennyslinger.com for more
detail and representative images.

398 11th St., SF. No charge, but donations to CSC gratefully accepted.
And later in the month, don't miss Penny's slide show and talk on 7/22,
and collage workshop on 7/23! (Start collecting your collage materials
now!) More detail below.

********

Sunday, July 2, 2 pm -- Annie Sprinkle and Elizabeth Stephens celebrate
their second of seven ART WEDDINGs at CSC. Carol officiates! BY
INVITATION ONLY! But tune in online: www.loveartlab.org -- click on the orange
bride -- go to the wedding link.

*******

Sunday, July 9, 1-4 pm -- ALL ABOUT T! A workshop about testosterone
At the Center for Sex & Culture, 398 11th St., SF. $10-30 sliding
scale, no one turned away for lack of funds.

All About T is a workshop that provides an overview of the practical
aspects of testosterone use for female-to-male (FTM) transsexuals. This
workshop covers what every FTM—and anyone considering FTM
transition—should know about testosterone, covering types of T, social
misconceptions of T, administration methods of testosterone administration,
permanent and non-permanent changes, physical risks, potential emotional and
sexual-outlook changes, and more. The workshop is also suitable for
allies, sex educators, and professionals who want a better understanding of
the hormonal aspects of FTM transition.

Workshop Background:

Through a search for information to guide my own transition, it came to
my attention how astonishingly little information is readily available
about testosterone for FTM transitioning. Equally astonishing was how
little the majority of transitioned FTMs know about the use of
testosterone—the potential risks, treatment options, suggested medical
monitoring, etc. I also became aware of how many pre- or non-transitioned
people were grappling with whether or not to take testosterone—without the
benefit of full information about the risks and consequences of its use,
both from a medical perspective and for the implications for change in
their everyday lives. Adding to this situation, medical professionals
are often inadequately informed of the proper treatment methods for FTM
hormonal transition, and consequently, are frequently of little help.
Even for those health care providers who are relatively informed, they
are usually too short of time and too ill-equipped to prepare thei
r client for the physical and practical ramifications of transitioning.
This presentation is an attempt to remedy that lack of information
about testosterone use for transitioning.

I have found that too much of the academic work on transgenderism and
transsexuality primarily focuses on theory, which neglects and leaves
invisible the day-to-day realities of trans lives. As a result, an
additional intention of this workshop is to offer a glimpse into the
practicalities of FTM transitioning, for those who are not trans themselves, in
the hopes that a deeper understanding will allow allies to become even
better allies. By giving this workshop, I hope to build a bridge that
begins to fill that gap of understanding between theory and praxis.

Instructor Bio:

John Otto is nearing completion of a Masters in Library and Information
Science at the University of Washington. He has a BA from The Evergreen
State College in multidisciplinary gender/sex studies. He has also
taken additional coursework on transgenderism at San Francisco State
University, interned with the Intersex Society of North American, and is
active within the trans community. This spring he presented “Addressing
the Information Needs of FTMs” at the first formal world conference for
professionals and anyone involved with GLBT archives, libraries, museums
and special collections, and collectors of GLBT materials.

AND ALSO ON 7/9:

The JOURNEYMAN III ACADEMY requests the pleasure of your company at the
GRADUATION CEREMONY for the Class of 2006.

Date: Sunday, July 9, 2006
Doors Open: 6:30 p.m.
Graduation Ceremony: 7:00 p.m.
Location: Center for Sex and Culture
398 11th Street at Harrison, in San Francisco
http://www.sexandculture.org/

Informal reception immediately following.
Leather attire encouraged.

Sincerely,
The Cadets of the Journeyman III Academy Class of 2006
====================================================
This is a public community event; you are encouraged to forward this
invitation to appropriate mailing lists and interested parties.
====================================================
=====================================================
We are grateful to the Center for Sex and Culture for providing the
location for this event. Donations to CSC may be made at the event or by
volunteering your time, money, or materials at other times. For more
information on how to show your support, please visit:
http://www.sexandculture.org/pages/support.html
=====================================================

Contact journeymanrsvp@yahoo.com if you have any questions regarding
this event.

For more information on the Journeyman III Academy, go to:
http://ca.j3a.org

*******

Wednesday, July 19, 7 pm -- TRANSGENDERISM AND INTERSEXUALITY:
DIFFERENCES AND COMMONALITIES
At the Center for Sex & Culture, 398 11th St., SF. $5-30 sliding scale,
no one turned away for lack of funds.

What do the terms “transgender” and “intersexual” cover? Where do
issues converge and diverge between the two categories? Workshop attendees
will develop a better understanding of the different forms of
transgenderism and intersexuality, the vocabulary used in relationship to these
two categories, and the political and activist struggles of trans and
intersexed people.

Within gender studies and in LGBT activist circles, both transgenderism
and intersexuality have become the cause celebre. Despite this newfound
interest, many people have little understanding or misconstrued ideas
about transgenderism and intersexuality, sometimes confusing one for the
other. The purpose of this workshop is to increase understanding of the
political needs of transpeople and intersexed people, through deepening
understanding of the two categories and the institutional issues of
both—where the commonalities lie and where they diverge.

Participants will emerge with a better understanding of the categories
“transgender” and “intersex”, acquire relevant vocabulary, and develop
a better understanding of the political and legal issues that
transpeople and intersexed people face. Attendees will have a better
appreciation for where trans and intersex issues overlap and where they separate,
in order to become better allies.

Instructor Bio: John Otto is nearing completion of a Masters in Library
and Information Science at the University of Washington. He has a BA
from The Evergreen State College in multidisciplinary gender/sex
studies. He has also taken additional coursework on transgenderism at San
Francisco State University, interned with the Intersex Society of North
American, and is active within the trans community. This spring he
presented “Addressing the Information Needs of FTMs” at the first formal
world conference for professionals and anyone involved with GLBT archives,
libraries, museums and special collections, and collectors of GLBT
materials.

*******

Friday, July 21, 8 pm -- THE WET SPOTS with KITTEN ON THE KEYS! (More
info next time, but save the date!)
The Wet Spots (Cass King and John Woods) are a musical sex comedy duo
who write sophisticated lyrics paired with sweet, catchy melodies. Their
musical repertoire is inspired by the risque satirical songs of Monty
Python, South Park, Tenacious D and musical comedy legend Rusty Warren.
They are known for their lively shows, which include sing-alongs,
spankings, and bawdy sex-ed.
Visit the Wet Spots' homepage at http://www.cassking.com/wetspots.html
Watch the music video for their smash hit "Do you take it?" at
http://www.goodiebag.tv/video/do_you_take_it.htm

*******

Saturday, July 22, 7 pm -- SEX & ART: A multi-media journey with Penny
Slinger
Penny takes us on an intimate guided tour of her life and art,
illustrated with hundreds of images of her work. Experience an up close and
personal look into the evolution of one of the world' s top visionary
erotic artists. Penny emerged on the British art scene in the sixties,
challenging the existing status quo and playing a key role in the sexual
revolution. She discovered Tantra in the early seventies and her
bestselling book 'Sexual Secrets' (co-written with Nik Douglas) was published
in 1979. For the last twelve years she has been living at the Goddess
Temple, sanctuary and multi-media studios, in the Santa Cruz Mountains.
She will complete the presentation with excerpts from her latest
sensual/erotic video art.To learn more about Penny Slinger, see her Bio-Sphere
'My Life As Art' at www.pennyslinger.com

At CSC, 398 11th St., SF. Cost $20

*******

Sunday, July 23, 1-5 pm -- SEXUAL IDENTITY COLLAGE WORKSHOP

Who am I? How do I see myself? How does society define me? What are
gender stereotypes? How can I express more of who I really am?

In this collage workshop, Penny Slinger will guide participants in a
journey of self discovery and self expression through the medium of
collage. Each participant will be asked to create a collage which defines
their sense of sexual identity. From her wide ranging experience in many
different forms of collage, Penny can reveal how collage can be used as
a powerful tool to re-create your own reality. At the completion of the
workshop, each member will be asked to share their collage with the
group, presenting it as their own map of consciousness and inviting the
insights and reflections of other participants.

Although Penny will supply collage materials from her collection,
people wishing to attend the workshop are requested to gather relevant
materials, photographs etc., for their personal collage and bring them to
the workshop. Workshop attendees should also bring their own scissors.

Penny Slinger is an artist, writer, photographer and videographer. She
has a number of books published, including three books of erotic
collages. To see more of her work, go to www.pennyslinger.com

At CSC, 398 11th St., SF. Cost: $40

********

* July 29 -- Smutfest!! More info next time.

********

AUGUST EVENTS

All month, every Saturday and Sunday -- Rumi of the Cockettes presents
art salons and special events!

Become an Extraordinary Lover for Men -- 8/13

Become an Extraordinary Lover for women -- 8/20

Candye Kane! 8/16

Adult Sexuality Education: Principles and Practices
Thursday, August 31, 6:30-9:30, $25
When it comes to teaching workshops on sexuality topics for adults,
most educators have had to build their repertoires from personal
experience and observation. But there’s a huge field of adult education that you
can use to make your teaching more effective and fun for you and your
learners. Charlie Glickman will help you understand the essentials of
this far-reaching body of research and apply the core principles to your
topics and audiences. You’ll learn tips to help you create learning
objectives that shape your entire curriculum, skills to inspire and
support motivation in your learners, how to adapt your teaching to your
audience and ways to constructively use exercises to both reinforce and
assess learning. Whether you teach one-night sessions or semester-long
classes, this introductory workshop will give you a strong yet flexible
framework to build your lessons on, give you more confidence in your
teaching and free you to focus on what you enjoy talking about--sex!

Please email Charlie at workshops@charlieglickman.com to register. In
your email, please briefly describe your experience teaching workshops
on sexuality topics and two things you'd like to learn from this
workshop. Charlie will email you to confirm your registration.

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NOT CSC, BUT WE BET YOU'LL LIKE 'EM:

Carol reads at FUNNY FARM, a benefit for Jon Sims Center -- 6/30 MORE
INFO: http://www.simsfunnyfarm.com

*******

Carol keynotes ONE TASTE WOMEN'S FESTIVAL -- 7/8 afternoon
http://www.onetastesf.com/
"If You Want Something Done Right, Do it Yourself: Why Masturbation is
a Woman's Best Friend" -- Self-pleasure is the cornerstone of erotic
pleasure, but too many women still think
only sex with a partner is "real" and legitimate. Join Carol to find
out why it's actually the best thing for you... alone OR in a
relationship. From learning orgasm to incorporating it into exhibitionistic
teaching with your lover, knowing your way around your own body is healthy,
hot, centering, and very pleasurable.
Carol will have a table for book sales at this OneTaste event!

*******

Carol reads at WRITERS IN DRAG -- 7/8 evening
Date: Saturday, July 8, 2006, 7:30 to 9:30 PM, doors open at 7:00 PM
What: WRITERS IN DRAG: Writers read work they've written outside their
normal genres.
A fundraiser for other (http://www.othermag.org) a magazine for people
who don't feel represented by mainstream media categories. Other #9 now
available!
Featuring: Jennifer Traig, Carol Queen, Mir Tamim Ansary, Annalee
Newitz and Alana Devich
Location: The Make Out Room, 3225 22nd. St. between Mission and
Valencia, San Francisco
Admission: $3 to $5 sliding scale.
Charlie Anders MCs and vamps
Email for more info: charlie@othermag.org
URL: http://www.writerswithdrinks.com

Writers In Drag features authors reading works they've written which
are not in their normal genre. The readers don't have to be in actual
drag, although it has been known to happen.
This time, we feature:
- Jennifer Traig (Devil In The Details) reading teen mystery
- Mir Tamim Ansary (West of Kabul, East of New York: An Afghan American
Story) reading speculative fiction
- Carol Queen (The Leather Daddy and the Femme) reading non-sexual
memoir
- Annalee Newitz (Wired Magazine, Techsploitation) reading historical
fiction
- Alana Devich (Comics Gone Wild!) reading literary fiction

******

Carol keynotes the Desiree Alliance CONFERENCE ON PROSTITUTION, Las
Vegas -- 7/10

"Re-visioning Prostitution Policy:
Creating Space for Sex Worker Rights and Challenging Criminalization"
July 9-12 2006 Las Vegas, Nevada (Location provided upon registration)
http://www.desireealliance.org/conference.htm

more detail also at:
http://www.centerforsexandculture.com/pages/news.html

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hi, newbie here. Anyone know much about tantric masturbation?

jim — Fri, 16 Jun 2006 15:42:14 GMT

I am interested in learning more and I was wondering if anyone knew where i can get more info, lessons, etc.

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