Hi Jamie,

Thanks for your input. I live in SF. Ihave been in the local SM scene for several years. However, I am still new to exploring it as an intersexed person. There is a substantial Trans Community here. And the Intersexed Society of North America is based here. tho they seem to be focused on kink/socializing issues.

Generallly speaking, I feel reasonably safe being an out & open intersexed person. I cross-postted my thoughts above to several groups & generally got very positive & encouraging responses.

I do see Intersexed as something other than Trans. I feel intesexed has been viewed often by the medical community as something to be fixed and to hide. It's a challange to orthodoxy, so like so many other challenges that do not fit in a neat lil package, it's presence has been repressed.

It's an interesting idea about contacting yahoo to urge an additionalo gender option. However, I epxt it would fall on deaf ears. Yahoo is looking for orthodoxy. At this time it's more of a money maker. At least that's my view.

I'm not sure just what the local community thinks about Intersexed folks. Some will welcome them as other outcasts & gender outlaws. Others, I suspect will resent an intrusion into space they think of as thier own. Some will fear intersex dilutes the focus they have on whatver the issue might be. It's just something for me & others like me to explore.

Max

Heh, I'm pretty sure I have an open invite to most S & C events. I have known Carol & Robert for over 10 years. ANd I have helped out with various things in the past.. tho it was before S & C got a space.

As for myself, never had an issue with doctors.. expect maybe when I was 17 & got a sperm count done (due to having very small balls). I remember it took them FOREVER to give me the results... more than 2 months. They said they were checking my hormone levels & waiting for lab results. I now believe they may have discovered I was intersexed & did not know how to tell me. So they punted the ball. I recall the doctor, when I finally got ahold of him was very uncomfortable on the phone with me. Which, in retrospect is odd. Telling a patient they are sterile not not be that new or odd for a urologist.. I mean, that's why they have the test, right?

Oh well.. I'll never know for sure what happened there. I do know that the first time I read of intersexed, I thought it sounded like me. I strongly suspected for most of my adult life. Then, a bit over a year ago, I had some tests done to know for sure.

Now I know. And I am happier for knowing.

Max

I have at times identified as intersexed. I have PCOS, so I produce more testosterone than most women, a long clit, and "Woman" just seems sort of incomplete to me. But I'm "womanly" enough to skate by and not be intersexed in most situations. Of course being married to a man whose preference was for FtMs made the whole thing even more fluid.